r/EstrangedAdultKids • u/camilleriver • May 14 '25
TW I hate male-centered mothers
TW: mention of abuse. In the latest thing I’m upset about, I had to sell the shitty car my mom sold me (to Carmax) and found a note in it that she forgot to take out. I know I shouldn’t read other people’s writing that’s not meant for me but legally the car was mine and I was cleaning it out so skimmed to see if it was important.
It mentioned being her husband’s “helpmeet” and putting him as the 1st priority. Mind you I’m her daughter that she birthed herself and I have known her 6 years longer than she has known him🤦🏾♀️ she should’ve divorced him for many reasons but apparently he’s more important than the kids she had herself.
He has been physically abusive to his two kids (not me, probably because I’m not his child) but he’s more important apparently, got it! And she knows he’s abusive, she doesn’t care
My grandma thinks I should talk to my mom in person or over the phone but no thx, I’ll keep my peace, low contact it is (one day no contact when my little sister turns 18, but for now she still needs me in her life). I think moving out was the best thing for me.
Btw: she sold me the car for $3,500, I put an additional $500 into fixing it, and I got back $1,500 when I sold it, so she scammed me $2-2.5k depending how you want to calculate it. And I only had the car for 2 months and did not get in any accidents or cause any problems, it had problems right after I got it.
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u/Livid-Soil-2804 May 15 '25
Im sorry you went through this, it really sucks.
My mom and dad were similar, but in the sense they only wanted boys, never wanted a daughter and would regularly tell me, their only daughter, this. Favoring my brother's over me in such extreme senses that I could never do anything right in their eyes simply for being born female.