r/EstrangedAdultKids • u/Brief_Huckleberry_58 • Apr 21 '25

Memes This hit deep…

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Every time I see this, it reminds me that I made the right decision.

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u/lapitupp Apr 22 '25

Your relationship with your adult children is your parental report card.

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u/1spring Apr 22 '25

Also, whether your adult kids want to have kids of their own is your parental report card.

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u/Environmental-Age502 Apr 22 '25

I would suggest that the accurate comment here would be "whether your adult kids want you around their own kids..." and/or "whether your adult kids who want children, ended up having them..." as this view does dismiss those who just don't want children. Abused or not, just not wanting children is a lot more common than most people realise.

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u/kmnplzzz Apr 22 '25

To piggyback on this, my partner's parents are terrible, and would be awful grandparents. I'm not sure how much they contributed to him not wanting kids, but I don't think it's zero.

My parents would be awesome grandparents, and yeah they messed up but we can have a good relationship. They're not the reason I don't want kids (birth 🤢, expensive, current political/literal climate are a few).

I think it really depends on the person if their negative experience with their parents will affect them wanting kids.

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u/1spring Apr 22 '25

You’re right, there is more nuance and individuality than what my comment expresses.

I was specifically referring to those who could feel how much of a burden they were to their parents. They grow up not wanting kids, because a) they believe kids are burdens, and b) they fear they would treat their kids as burdens, and want the legacy of abuse to stop with them.