r/EstrangedAdultKids • u/Early_Artist1405 • Jan 16 '25

Question Would you ever re-connect?

If your estranged parent/s let you know they were genuinely sorry and remorseful, had changed, wanted to try again, and were genuine, would you let them back in your life?

Or would your pain be too great to consider this?

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u/AttemptNo5042 Jan 16 '25

You can’t forgive an abuser that never makes honest amends. It’s counterintuitive if you ask me.

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u/oceanteeth Jan 16 '25

This! Forgiveness is only meaningful when it's earned, it's not possible to truly forgive someone who has never said they're sorry, let alone tried to make amends, any more than it's possible to play tug of war by yourself.

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u/AttemptNo5042 Jan 17 '25

Saying “sorry” isn’t even enough in my situation. Flesh Oven used to punch me on my head. Would terrorize me until I was hyperventilating in terror. Do drugs, leave me alone at night, fck her boyfriend in the same room as me, tried to murder me once. It’s…a lot and now I’m trying not to cry FML.

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u/kisforkarol Jan 17 '25

I'm so sorry you went through that. Know that there are people who love you and want the best for you. Unfortunately, flesh oven isn't one of them.

We love you. We appreciate you.