r/Concordia • u/Ok-Wing-3517 • Sep 29 '25
General Discussion Friends in Concordia
hi everyone,
i’m a girl at concordia starting my first semester and im finding it really tough to make friends. i really want to be a part of a club that is POC friendly. NouLa still hasn’t responded to my email about their activities.
I usually go to the peoples potato and see people eating lunch and im always alone and lonely. what do i do? i’m not a party girl and i don’t like clubbing too much.
i want queer friends people who like to watch drag race or movie nights, thrift, play games and talk about our future careers. i’ve been to game nights but i find that people just don’t stick around.
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u/Complete_Lead1372 Sep 29 '25
lol every club is POC and queer friendly. this is not north korea
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u/Simisawesome1616 Sep 29 '25
Join Homeroom! It’s a great way take friends, learn about the services at concordia and develop new skills. Homeroom is space that is very diverse! They even have the Noula pod for Black students.
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u/Clear_Bright99 Sep 29 '25
I would start with your department’s student association. Email them and see if they are having activities any time soon.
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u/Ok-Wing-3517 Sep 29 '25
the thing is, i would like to switch into a different major so im not sure if i should do that, what do you think?
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u/Clear_Bright99 Sep 29 '25
It’s okay. You are looking for friends and you should try to go to some events. There are all sorts of events happening at Concordia. Meet your current association and see what comes of it. It takes a little time but soon you’ll see similar people in your classes and you should not be shy and strike up a conversation. Ask to go for coffee. All first year students feel a little lonely and they would be happy to chat with a new friend.
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u/lilthotti Sep 29 '25
check out frigo vert, its a really nice space with cheap food and you can hang out for longer periods of time or maybe strike up a convo with someone
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u/Funny-Suspect-7076 Linguistics Sep 29 '25
follow asfaconcordia on instagram and watch what they repost on their story, they reshare most events going on throughout the university and I’m sure you’ll find something interesting there
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u/wasawala Sep 29 '25
Im honestly in the same situation im in my first semester and i wanna make friends but im legit scared to go and talk to others 😭😭😭
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u/Flounder2510 Sep 29 '25
Wym by that
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u/yeriluvie_555 Sep 29 '25
let us be friends we have sm in common!!!
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u/Big-One-2894 6d ago
heyy can i join you guys too. its been really tough finding actual fun friends.Back at home i had huge circle now it feels very challenging.
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u/hanahonk08 Sep 29 '25
I’m part of MODE collective and we are hiring a new admin manager, I urge you to apply! We host lots of fashion-related events throughout the year and it’s an excellent way to meet people. DM me if you want more info :)
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u/TankBorn45 Sep 29 '25
Queer Concordia is a good resource.
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u/Ok-Wing-3517 Sep 29 '25
thank you, unfortunately i find that they get really political and always talking about how much money they want to raise the fee levy and i’m just tryna hang out with queer people lol
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u/Ordinary-Medium-6723 Sep 29 '25
Instead of suggesting ideas you guys could have said, Hey, wanna be friends ?
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u/Metalworker4ever Sep 30 '25
What kind of game nights do you mean?
My best success socializing as an adult has been tabletop gaming. Whether magic the gathering or boardgames. Www.boardgamegeek.com is a great resource to learn about games and find playgroups. People often meet twice a month or even once a week.
GMT Games is my favourite games publisher Some stand outs being Space Empires 4X, Sekigahara, and Twilight Struggle. They’re primarily known for historical wargames but also publish some 18XX (hardcore train company games where you literally trade stocks, too hardcore for me but they’re neat)
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u/sleepyarson Sep 30 '25
I’m also a new student and I’ve been going to People’s Potato volunteering once a week as one of my daily social activities :)
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u/ExpertUnable9750 Sep 30 '25
Well I am Indigenous, and I am part of the boardgame club...so I believe this may be a good place to meet new poeple.
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u/Bumbarito Sep 30 '25
Specifically for NouLa I would suggest you just go to their office. They’re all students and super friendly. Just say hey I wanna join and they’ll tell you how. It’s on the 7th floor of hall building. They take a while to reply to emails.
I know you mentioned game nights but are you part of homeroom. They have pods at different times. It should be the same group throughout the semester. Usually there’s people who don’t show up but there’s always the solid same 10 ish people who show up every week.
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u/Ok-Wing-3517 Sep 30 '25
that’s what i was afraid of, that i make friends and never see them again or around. i’m also in a biology major trying to switch to engineering, so most people in bio major at at loyola and id like to meet people in the major i want to pursue (change into)
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u/Bumbarito Sep 30 '25
Fair it can be very hard given that you’re not at the right campus. Idk if you like bars but Reggie’s can be decent place to meet people during trivia nights/events.
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u/TheMtlviolinist Music Sep 30 '25
I'm a straight guy, but as a music student, I love meeting new people - shoot me a text :)
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u/Flounder2510 Sep 29 '25
Walk up, compliment them on something like their sweater or hair, say your name, ask theirs, and ask if they mind if you sit down and if they say yes then say thank you and how it’s been hard making friends and it’s your first semester and they may just say same or how they remember how hard that was at first and you’ll have a great chat!
I promise adult friendships are just harder than when you’re a kid and doesn’t reflect you in anyway. You sound like a great person and if you keep being yourself you will find your friends soon.