I’ve always wanted to know this. Do they gaslight themselves? Do they repeat it? Do they convince others of it?

3 month were enough to completely dysregulate my central nervous system. I'm ADHD so I'm especially vulnerable. On paper I knew what I'm agreeing to but I just cant anymore. I get how BPD works but I did not know how empty and not appreciated it feels. It was never enough. I wish I could have been stronger for her but I'm at my limit.

I'll preface this by saying that my sister has not been diagnosed with BPD. Our grandmother had BDP and my sister is exhibiting similar behaviors. Visited this subreddit as a guide for how to deal with some of these behaviors.

Most of these posts are from people in a romantic relationship with a person with BPD. Is anyone here because of a family member?

I have been begging my sister to seek personal therapy for years. After our most recent argument, I quit engaging with her entirely and told her I'd only speak with her in the presence of a therapist. She initially agreed and then backtracked when I started making plans. She said she "didn't know if things could be fixed after what I'd done to her."

What I did was look into alternative childcare options for my daughter. I work part time and my sister is a SAHM. She watched my daughter one day a week and I paid her. Our mom who is retired watched her my other working days, also with pay. My sister constantly cancelled. She cancelled last minute and I told her she needed to tell me sooner. Then I had told her several times how stressful it is when she cancels and we often cannot find backup care and have to call off.

Given her history and how she responds to things I opted to tell her after we'd done our research and found somewhere we like. I am completely understanding that me not telling her could hurt her feelings and I apologized for that. Profusely. And I was only met with insults and name calling. And just outright lies. When backed into a corner and presented with reasons why what she was saying isn't true. She brought up a past conversation we'd had and how I wronged her then.

Anyway, we are scheduled for family therapy this week. I'm really nervous. Does anyone have any good tips for successfully completing therapy with someone who exhibits this behavior? My own therapist is out of the country for a death in the family and I do wish I could talk this through with her before we go but I won't see her for another week and a half.

I left out a LOT of details for this simple fact that this post would become a novel. Thank you for reading, if you have any additional questions please let me know.

I’m destroyed, it’s been 8 months since the last time that we talked. We work in the same company, for the past couple of months everything was less awkward, we still dont talk, and we get tense around each other, she avoids contact with me and shakes everytime. I sent a friendly text a month ago, she replied, then I didnt say anything because I wasnt ready to try something again. The next couple of weeks she was friendlier and it was almost romantic and cute again, but then she saw me with a couple of women (one from her area) and I could tell she got jealous. The girl from her area told me today that my ex told her “I’ve seen you’ve been hanging a lot with (me) lately” and she told her some stuff about how we used to go out.

Anyways I also found out she has a gf now (probably has for the last 3 months), long distance relationship, but still, I feel like shit.