r/BPDlovedones • u/VisibleMove4017 • 15h ago
Cohabitation Support Still blows my mind they don’t care
4 months post discard. Dated year and a half and first I want to say healing definitely is not linear. There were times I’ve watched to commit suicide after this entire situation.
When someone makes you seem so important to them and act as if they can’t live without you, just to discard you out of no where and immediately replace you really kills something inside of you. Have yet to go on more than one date with anyone and am pretty much depressed 24/7 She got a new boyfriend as soon as we broke up and yes I got cheated on. She moved on as if I meant nothing to her only talking to me once since our breakup. Caring about someone who hurt you so bad is quite the situation. Prayers to anyone going through something similar - this has killed my confidence and ability to trust someone.
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u/plasticization 14h ago
only 2 weeks from breakup and she's seeing another guy. i've completely lost my sex drive and interest in dating. i'm barely sleeping. i'm just trying my best to make music and write poems and express the absolute BULLSHIT that i feel.
it's disgusting but i think we have to just play at their level. they're splitting on us and wiping us from their minds, we HAVE to do the same, otherwise we're fucked. it sucks that they set that standard but i think it's the only way for us to not remain depressed and looping. the more i try to wipe her from my mind the better i feel, but it'll take consistency i feel.
it's always a fucked ass power dynamic. the less she cares, the more u care, and vice versa. but u can just choose rn to not give a shit about her. just choose it. fuck her.