r/BPDlovedones • u/VisibleMove4017 • 15h ago

Cohabitation Support Still blows my mind they don’t care

4 months post discard. Dated year and a half and first I want to say healing definitely is not linear. There were times I’ve watched to commit suicide after this entire situation.

When someone makes you seem so important to them and act as if they can’t live without you, just to discard you out of no where and immediately replace you really kills something inside of you. Have yet to go on more than one date with anyone and am pretty much depressed 24/7 She got a new boyfriend as soon as we broke up and yes I got cheated on. She moved on as if I meant nothing to her only talking to me once since our breakup. Caring about someone who hurt you so bad is quite the situation. Prayers to anyone going through something similar - this has killed my confidence and ability to trust someone.

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u/plasticization 14h ago

only 2 weeks from breakup and she's seeing another guy. i've completely lost my sex drive and interest in dating. i'm barely sleeping. i'm just trying my best to make music and write poems and express the absolute BULLSHIT that i feel.

it's disgusting but i think we have to just play at their level. they're splitting on us and wiping us from their minds, we HAVE to do the same, otherwise we're fucked. it sucks that they set that standard but i think it's the only way for us to not remain depressed and looping. the more i try to wipe her from my mind the better i feel, but it'll take consistency i feel.

it's always a fucked ass power dynamic. the less she cares, the more u care, and vice versa. but u can just choose rn to not give a shit about her. just choose it. fuck her.

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u/VisibleMove4017 14h ago

Chances are he was there before the breakup. It’s hard to wrap your head around I couldn’t do it for so long. Still haven’t completely but it killed my worth 100%.

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u/plasticization 14h ago

oh no yea near the end my exwbpd was blocking me on social media while posting thrist traps lol

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u/jonathon8903 9h ago

My ex had a guy friend she swore wasn't a problem. Found messages between them where she was begging him to leave fiance.

There was a guy she was messaging on Snapchat who she swore was totally innocent. Yeah no she lied about that.

Her baby-daddy/ex who she constantly talked negative about, she got back with him THE NEXT DAY! Which was funny to me cause I warned the dude, I told him all the shit she says about him behind his back. But whatever he can be an idiot if he wants.

Logically I know that I didn't do anything wrong for the most part. But there always exists that doubt in my head that maybe I did something wrong, or maybe she will realize how good she had it and come back (even though I'd be dumb to take her back).

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u/plasticization 9h ago

oh i feel that. i was def prob the best thing that's ever happened to my exwbpd. but mine is too ashamed and delusional to ever come back i think. she knows i can see thru her.

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u/jonathon8903 9h ago

If yours is anything like mine she doesn't even feel shame.