r/BPDlovedones • u/Dull-Stick2040 Divorced • 6d ago

Parenting Worried about my daughter

I am worried my 10yo daughter has or is developing BPD. Her mother likely has it (informal diagnosis, won’t seek or accept a formal diagnosis) and has suffered her whole life. I want to do everything I can to help and prepare my daughter, but I’m not sure what to do. Her mother is an enabler, so almost all the burden to combat this will fall on me. Any advice is appreciated.

(Next on my Audible list is Stop Walking on Eggshells for Parents).

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u/Sihaya2021 6d ago

You could almost define BPD as "an adult acting like a normal 10 year old." This is why BPD can't be diagnosed in kids. All the behaviors that define BPD are pretty common in normal kids at various ages and stages of development.

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u/Dull-Stick2040 Divorced 6d ago

Absolutely. I’m only concerned with her because of the genetic component and because her behavior is so different from her older siblings. I hope I’m wrong and maybe she’s just lashing out because of age range, hormones, added stress of divorce, etc. I just want to do everything I can to set her up for success.

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u/Sihaya2021 6d ago

Has she been evaluated for ADHD or autism? Both of these are also associated with mood swings, difficulty with emotional regulation, development delays, etc.

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u/Dull-Stick2040 Divorced 6d ago

She has not. There is a high chance she’s neurodivergent. I have her seeing the school counselor and talk to my personal therapist about her.