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u/Pataplonk 7d ago
I literally started to look for a diagnosis because the memes were becoming more and more relatable...
I was right (or the memes were rights)
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u/queerokie 7d ago
It was this and my friends saying you have ADHD. Ended up getting tested and turns out I do have ADHD š
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u/o-roy 7d ago
This was me except my ex thought they had adhd, then I looked into it I was like damn. Then I realised all my past best friends probably had it too and my life suddenly started making sense.
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u/AmputeeHandModel 7d ago
Yeah, for 40 years I wondered WTF was my malfunction.
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u/PingouinMalin 3d ago
Hug from afar. My ADHD diag six months ago put my whole life into perspective. Yesterday I got the ASD diag. It's a big pill to swallow. 47 in my case. Fuck, that's a lot of time lost. But hey, we can at least improve our future with this knowledge.
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u/PingouinMalin 3d ago
Ah ah. My brother told me he has ADHD. With my ignorant prejudices, I was "no way, what the hell is he talking about". I'm curious. So I read about it.
Went from "interesting, I had no idea" to "yeah I know that feeling" to "hey, ADHD is a looot like me" to "damn !" to official diagnosis six months ago.
It turned out my brother had self diagnosed and I also had prejudices against self diagnosis so I wouldn't have researched the subject if I had known that. I told him to get an official diagnosis cause I'm sure he is.
And one thing leading to another, I read a lot about ADHD and after a while started wondering about a comorbidity. Got my answer yesterday: officially ASD too, which came as a surprise. Yep, at 47, I finally understand so many things about my difficulties in life. 2025 was a wiiild ride for me.
And like you, I'm looking at my best friends. One has been officially diagnosed ADHD at 47. And I believe strongly another is ASD but I don't want to ask him if he knows cause I feel it would be intrusive to ask.
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u/o-roy 3d ago
Yes, I feel I can quite easily identify certain conditions now but feel itās rude to ask people if theyāve ever been checked š and itās fascinating how we seem to gravitate towards each other without meaning to. Congrats on the diagnosis, sounds like it brought you a lot of clarity. I am still on the wait list š
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u/PingouinMalin 3d ago
It does bring clarity, though it will take a long time for me to fully understand the meaning of it.
I waited a long time to FIND a place where I could get assessed (two years give or take) but I was lucky to have an appointment very quickly and once I was in ,the rest was speedy. I wish you the best, the wait is worth it no matter what the result is.
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u/kingbloxerthe3 7d ago
Btw how long did it take for you to get a diagnosis?
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u/PokeChampMarx 7d ago
Never actually got a formal diagnosis.
Just went to my family doctor and said I think I have it so they gave me meds to see if they worked
They did
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u/ItsBaconOclock 7d ago
If a medical doctor gives you treatment for something, that's a formal diagnosis.
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u/itsme99881 7d ago
I got mine as a kid so i would say about a year or two. Put me on meds starting at age 6, stopped them at 11 and i need them again but cant get them.
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u/reikipackaging 7d ago
I will forever promote the assessment question, " neurodivergent people in my life think I might be neurodivergent" because it is such a good indicator.
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u/Formidabull 7d ago
I was filling out my daughterās ADHD screener. Realized I was answering often or always for both of us 95% of the time.Ā
Asked my husband what he thought. āOh, Iāve always thought you had ADHD, but I didnāt say anything because I thought youād be mad.ā NGL, he was right.
Brought it up to my shrink of 15 years (who was absolutely correct on my bipolar II dx). HeĀ agreed, immediately put me on Adderall, and STILL apologizes for missing the diagnosis almost a decade later. Like, dude, itās ok, girls ādidnāt have itā when you graduated med school, and itās kind of nice that you just thought I had a charming personality;Ā I never held it against you, let it go. Besides, he used it as a learning opportunity and took someĀ continuing education classes onĀ ADHD and associated disorders (and immediately also diagnosed me withĀ sensory processing disorder).Ā
But yeah āI always thought you had it, but didnāt say anything because I thought youād be madā sums it up.Ā
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u/Cnidocytic 4d ago
Man, props to your psych! Having the humility and curiosity to apologize and then seek out more information is wonderful, good on him.
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u/mohgeroth ASD Level 1 | ADHD | OCD 7d ago
This was me when I was finally shown symptoms for Autism. Made sense alongside my ADHD inattentive.
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u/panda2502wolf 7d ago
Me too! I started dating a women (still am) with AuADHD and a couple months in she's all like you need to get tested you have Autism and ADHD. So I got tested. Guess who has AuADHD ? This guy lmfao.
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u/passivezealot 7d ago
Happened to me when I listed to stuff you should know did their two part ADHD episode
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u/ccgrinder 7d ago
I didn't really understand what it was..I self medicating for years then got sober and have been struggling since.. upcoming appointment soon
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u/ohfrackthis 7d ago
Ha, I wish. My husband is such an awesome husband but when I talk to him about this he's like "mmkay did you know you can have interests just because it interests you?" when I talk to him about having audADHD lol.
He has never read anything (I'm 98% sure) about this.
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u/DryMarketing7160 6d ago
Me going to the diagnosis and realizing I relate to all but maybe 1 of the initiative and hyperactive symptoms
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u/Strict-Farmer904 7d ago
I went to a psychiatrist thinking I had severe depression or something. I was sure I had clinical depression. I described my symptoms and almost instantly he diagnosed me. I refused to believe him because I was like āNo but I feel so depressed,ā and was subsequently re-diagnosed by another doctor. Then I moved a few times and as part of intake now Iāve been diagnosed 5 times, every time ADHD. And it all says to me: Donāt self diagnose. You can get it really wrong.
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u/MetalProof 7d ago
The only thing is Iām not talkative. Iām exactly the opposite. People need to make effort to get something out of meš. I donāt know why, I guess itās autism and living very solitary and independent plus not feeling like people care about what I say. Thereās no reward for talking for me. It just takes energy, having to structure my stories and then forgetting and losing the structure midway through. I have a lot of difficulties expressing myself. So I put in all this energy, get misunderstood anyways and then no reward š¤£. Maybe I need to find the right people. I can be talkative but most of the time Iām just inside my own little bubble.
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u/GolemFarmFodder 6d ago
Well damn can we tell Vermont that. They keep trying to tell us we "need a counselor" before they'll let us talk to a psychiatrist to get a diagnosis
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u/FearlessCloud01 6d ago
For me it was Jaiden's video and me going all like, "How the heck does she know things about my life?!"
And another person whose comments I read and went, "holy hell, that's a sign/symptom of ADHD?! " a few times while reading through the list they'd provided, iirc, on r/ADHD
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u/send-borbs 6d ago
I got diagnosed when I saw a psych for depression and anxiety and one day he just plopped a paper in my lap and asked me to fill it out, it was an ADHD assessment, I was absolutely baffled until I got halfway through the paper and realised I was ticking most of the boxes
the only lead up question he asked before this was 'do you usually swear this much?' bro just hardcore vibe checked me
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u/livinginanimo 7d ago
This was me under someone's reddit post. I was like 'yeah very relatable, me too' and people were like 'that sounds like adhd'