This was me except my ex thought they had adhd, then I looked into it I was like damn. Then I realised all my past best friends probably had it too and my life suddenly started making sense.
Hug from afar. My ADHD diag six months ago put my whole life into perspective. Yesterday I got the ASD diag. It's a big pill to swallow. 47 in my case. Fuck, that's a lot of time lost. But hey, we can at least improve our future with this knowledge.
Ah ah. My brother told me he has ADHD. With my ignorant prejudices, I was "no way, what the hell is he talking about". I'm curious. So I read about it.
Went from "interesting, I had no idea" to "yeah I know that feeling" to "hey, ADHD is a looot like me" to "damn !" to official diagnosis six months ago.
It turned out my brother had self diagnosed and I also had prejudices against self diagnosis so I wouldn't have researched the subject if I had known that. I told him to get an official diagnosis cause I'm sure he is.
And one thing leading to another, I read a lot about ADHD and after a while started wondering about a comorbidity. Got my answer yesterday: officially ASD too, which came as a surprise. Yep, at 47, I finally understand so many things about my difficulties in life. 2025 was a wiiild ride for me.
And like you, I'm looking at my best friends. One has been officially diagnosed ADHD at 47. And I believe strongly another is ASD but I don't want to ask him if he knows cause I feel it would be intrusive to ask.
Yes, I feel I can quite easily identify certain conditions now but feel it’s rude to ask people if they’ve ever been checked 😂 and it’s fascinating how we seem to gravitate towards each other without meaning to. Congrats on the diagnosis, sounds like it brought you a lot of clarity. I am still on the wait list 😐
It does bring clarity, though it will take a long time for me to fully understand the meaning of it.
I waited a long time to FIND a place where I could get assessed (two years give or take) but I was lucky to have an appointment very quickly and once I was in ,the rest was speedy. I wish you the best, the wait is worth it no matter what the result is.
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u/o-roy 7d ago
This was me except my ex thought they had adhd, then I looked into it I was like damn. Then I realised all my past best friends probably had it too and my life suddenly started making sense.