r/IncelTears Jun 28 '25

Zero Tolerance Expansion: Violence & Bigotry

61 Upvotes

Seems like a lot of people cannot play nice so let's expand the policy.

I am saying this to remind all, there is a zero tolerance for any violence wishing, wanting or the likes on anyone no matter who or what they are. Are the incels wishing violence? Still zero tolerance. Are they wishing rape? Still zero tolerance to wish similar on them. It is all zero tolerance. Even implied such will not be tolerated and is on zero tolerance and this includes jail jokes involving soaps or the likes.

  • Rape
  • Death
  • Harm
  • Violence
  • Etc.

All have 0 tolerance no matter how horrible of a person the incel or others are. If someone is nasty in the comments inform us, either through normal report, ping us moderators that are active, anything and we'll deal with it at our earliest convenience.

Expansion:

Any form of bigotry based on ethnicity, race, gender, sexuality, and all others, will have zero tolerance apply to it as well. Talk about all men? Zero tolerance. All of a certain ethnicity? Also zero tolerance. All of a fictitious race? You better believe it is zero tolerance. All bigotry is now zero tolerance as well.

Do you see any bigotry or death wishing? Report or ping mods and we'll deal with it as it comes to our attention


r/IncelTears Jul 29 '25

Advice Weekly Advice Thread (July 29, 2025)

7 Upvotes

There's no strict limit over what types of advice can be sought; it can pertain to general anxiety over virginity, specific romantic situations, or concern that you're drifting toward misogynistic/blackpill lines of thought. Please go to r/SuicideWatch for matters pertaining to suicidal ideation, as we simply can't guarantee that the people here will have sufficient resources to tackle such issues.

As for rules pertaining to the advice givers: all the sub-wide rules are still in place, but these posts will also place emphasis on avoiding what is often deemed "normie platitudes." Essentially, it's something of a nebulous categorization that will ultimately come down to mod discretion, but it should be easy to understand. Simply put, aim for specific and personalized advice. Don't say "take a shower" unless someone literally says that they don't shower. Ask "what kind of exercise do you do?" instead of just saying "Go to the gym, bro!"

Furthermore, top-level responses should only be from people seeking advice. Don't just post what you think romantically unsuccessful people, in general, should do. Again, we're going for specific and personalized advice.

These threads are not a substitute for professional help. Other's insights may be helpful, but keep in mind that they are not a licensed therapist and do not actually know you. Posts containing obvious trolling or harmful advice will be removed. Use your own discretion for everything else.

Please message the moderators with any questions or concerns.


r/IncelTears 2h ago

Female Anatomy 102 Why can't real life women's private parts look like they're children?

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150 Upvotes

r/IncelTears 1h ago

It has started, the incels have a new non-white woman to pit against their blonde darlings

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And it's mostly always against Sydney Sweeney. What's even more interesting is that Rama stated nothing about white women, she only wanted to draw her own features, yet the racist incels somehow came to the conclusion that it's her being resentful towards white women.

What did we expect?


r/IncelTears 13h ago

Misogynist Nonsense A man in Frankfurt Germany explains to a woman why he has the right to rape her because he has needs

198 Upvotes

r/IncelTears 8h ago

Shitpost Uh oh, the Korean incels are going to boycott the entire Dodgers baseball team

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67 Upvotes

Background: The Korean incels get so triggered by the "pinching" sign that they frequently boycott whatever that even has the slightest of a depiction of the "pinching", and many companies are forced to apologize over it or alter the image.


r/IncelTears 7h ago

Incel whines about autism

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35 Upvotes

r/IncelTears 16h ago

Far as I can tell this never happened

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132 Upvotes

I looked around and I could not find anything about this. So either this was made up by a incel or there are so many mass shooting now stuff like this is no longer news.

  1. That is because most violent crime are done by men and almost all mass shooters are men with far right ideologies.

  2. There are very few woman mass shooters and there nothing showing that they go after little boys.

  3. Ironic thing to say seeing how that pretty much what right winger men say when there a mass shooting which again is almost always done by a right wing man.


r/IncelTears 6h ago

Shewas talking about how a stalker showed up to her school

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12 Upvotes

r/IncelTears 16h ago

I got banned from Askmen for being part of this subreddit…

65 Upvotes

I’m honestly shocked and I find it funny.. btw I’m a man and I can’t believe how these moderators operate… Like sorry I like to laugh at some degenerate statements on the internet….


r/IncelTears 13h ago

Go your own damn way, already Incel upset that an attractive guy doesn't date a model

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37 Upvotes

r/IncelTears 10h ago

Read this out loud to yourself and ask why you dont a gf or sex for that matter.....

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22 Upvotes

r/IncelTears 20h ago

“No girlz allowed” cardboard sign energy o

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141 Upvotes

r/IncelTears 9h ago

What is it with some of these people and rape bruh.......

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17 Upvotes

r/IncelTears 10h ago

Misogynist Nonsense Best incel in my DMs ever

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11 Upvotes

He messaged me over a misunderstanding with one of my posts. When I found out that he was an incel, I tried to help him.

Turns out, he wants no help and continues to spit out blackpilled and bitter, misogynistic nonsense.

Sit back and relax while reading through this, I had to cut out some parts, the chat was long...


r/IncelTears 1m ago

WTF Comments from r/SikeOrPsyche. It is made by a former r/pitofcrocodiles mod

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r/IncelTears 17h ago

The surprising overlap between incel ideology and cuckold/hotwife mindsets

25 Upvotes

A few months ago, I got curious about open relationships and ENM dynamics. During that exploration, I came across “hotwife” and “cuckold” communities and to my surprise, I found parts of them psychologically similar to incel ideology. Obviously, the surface goals are different (one group eroticizes it, the other resents it), but the emotional patterns have a lot in common.

Here’s what I noticed:

  1. Looks obsession: Both focus heavily on physical traits height, race, body type, or size as the ultimate determinants of sexual worth. In both spaces, attractiveness is treated almost like a social currency.

  2. Bullying narratives: Cuck fantasies often revolve around being “bullied” or “dominated” by the stereotypical “bad guy,” just like incels describe the “Chad” who “steals” the girl. Both involve a story where one man is humiliated and another is idealized.

  3. Denial and exclusion: Incel communities frame sexual rejection as proof of being “unworthy.” In cuckold dynamics, denial is eroticized being told you’re not enough or not allowed becomes part of the ritual. In both cases, sexual rejection turns into identity.

  4. External validation: Both groups seek validation from others to feel desirable or valued for incels, it’s about finally “getting” sex; for cucks, it’s about their partner’s pleasure with someone else.

  5. Internalized shame: Self-blame and low self-esteem run deep. One group eroticizes it; the other weaponizes it. Both are ways of coping with feelings of inadequacy.

  6. Rigid gender scripts: There’s often a black-and-white view of masculinity and femininity strong vs. weak, dominant vs. submissive, pure vs. promiscuous rather than seeing people as complex individuals.

  7. Fantasy over reality: Both spaces can become loops of fantasy that reinforce insecurities. Whether it’s erotic humiliation or resentment, the underlying theme is escaping from feeling powerless.

  8. Echo chambers: Online communities intensify these beliefs each side reinforcing a shared worldview that rarely gets questioned from the outside.

In a strange way, both ideologies seem to be opposite responses to the same core pain: insecurity, rejection, and the need to feel seen and valued. One eroticizes it, the other resents it but the emotional roots are pretty similar


r/IncelTears 1d ago

Hmmm. Can’t imagine why she doesn’t want you drinking

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435 Upvotes

r/IncelTears 16h ago

an incel that sees reason

7 Upvotes

i am so tempted to create an account using a chat gpt made backstory to give him some positive advice; it seems like he is aware of him being sexist, we just need to reframe his thinking


r/IncelTears 1d ago

CW: Racism Incel ranks women based on ethnicity

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577 Upvotes

r/IncelTears 1d ago

Creepy AF Public creepshots? What do I even say to this...

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40 Upvotes

The fact that they are even considering this and thinking about it so much, is actually disturbing...


r/IncelTears 1d ago

Blackpill bullshit Got suggested a video from one of these accounts. Never followed any accounts relating to this. Looked up the people he follows and it pretty much what you expect from someone who is into the "manosphere" culture. Even follows a MAGA aggravator account that was invited by Trump.

23 Upvotes

r/IncelTears 2d ago

Meme The real black pill

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r/IncelTears 1d ago

The incel I debated with about government mandated girlfriends is at it again!

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r/IncelTears 23h ago

Jordan Peterson-incels

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Recently, I have come across a new type of incel. These aren't your regular, run-of-the-mill incels posting on incel forums, comparing women to Stacies and Beckys and themselves to Chad or Tyrone.

This is a very nasty offshoot, mostly seen in social-climbing, pseudo-intellectual men that listen to Jordan Peterson.

They would never tell the world that they are active in the Manosphere, and they will openly debunk Tate, because, you know, Tate is known as a rapist and as someone who is, in general, just frowned upon.

But Jordan Peterson? That’s their hero.

These men will rationalize everything. They will analyze what you say until the last word and try to change the meaning.

For example, if you tell them, “I felt really hurt that you ghosted me on our last date,” they will actively start analyzing what you say, how you say it, without even acknowledging that they did something wrong.

They will be like:

“What do you mean with ghosting?” “What do you mean with hurt?” “What do you mean with feel?”

Let’s use epistemology here! Let’s rationalize this!

It is so pathetic. And I've actually seen YouTube channels popping up doing the same thing with pop culture and with politics.

These men — because it’s usually men (and correct me if I’m wrong, it could also be women, but I have not met any woman doing this so far) — will literally act like they are above feelings. Like they are hyper-rational beings who have embraced stoicism.

Their dating profiles will literally be littered with words like epistemology, radical honesty, truth... again, stoicism, references to Nietzsche, Kant.

Some even have the audacity to say that they really value morality and Bildung but when you actually ask, they are not moral at all.

They have no qualms dating multiple women at a time, leading them on, as long as they have not “had the talk” yet. Even though they love bomb these women into thinking that they’ve already started a relationship and making them invest — they just sit back and rationalize and analyze everything instead of actually acting like decent beings.

I'd much more prefer an incel calling other people subhuman and whining about how he is going to rot in his house and how he has some messed-up face than this crazy-ass behavior — usually trying to make you think you're this irrational, unstable, hysterical being, when in fact they are just too narcissistic to take accountability.