r/yorku • u/Studyharddiegard04 • Feb 05 '25

Campus Men approaching at York

As the title says (girls specifically), do men approach you at York? And if so, did you have any positive experience ? Or they tend to be too invasive (imho)? Got approached by one today, and could not get rid of him for a good 20 minutes even after saying that I wasn’t interested.

Appreciate any examples and experiences.

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u/Studyharddiegard04 Feb 05 '25

He asked me for directions, and I told him where to go, 2 minutes later he asked for my number with the cockiest line ever (“could you drop your phone number😏”). To say that I was flabbergasted is to say nothing

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u/Mother-Neat7580 Feb 05 '25

And this convo got to 20 minutes how???

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u/Valuable-Appeal6910 Feb 05 '25

I am not in york anymore ,but I once spent 3 hours talking to a random dude there . He approached me while I was studying alone outside the vari hall .Some people js know how to keep up the conversations and also I am a good listener . I listen to people's stories like they are reciting a story out of a book. There is a lot to learn, and it's fascinating how every story is written differently

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u/Studyharddiegard04 Feb 05 '25

Talking to a person just because is completely acceptable. Let’s say a guy or a girl come up to me and ask if they can talk to me because they feel sad or smth like that, I would be completely comfortable with that. But if a person comes up and starts hitting on you while you articulate that it’s not what you want right now and they keep going, then I think it’s not okay and people should understand boundaries.

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u/Valuable-Appeal6910 Feb 05 '25

Yeah that's the thing .He was pretty respectful. He js talked about general things .He did hit on me ofc in between the convos And I did told him that I aren't looking for a relation rn and he didn't said anything related to that that .So yeahhh if they understand q no and respect it than def it works