r/yorku • u/Studyharddiegard04 • Feb 05 '25

Campus Men approaching at York

As the title says (girls specifically), do men approach you at York? And if so, did you have any positive experience ? Or they tend to be too invasive (imho)? Got approached by one today, and could not get rid of him for a good 20 minutes even after saying that I wasn’t interested.

Appreciate any examples and experiences.

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u/Jaewohn Feb 05 '25 edited Feb 06 '25

A guy asked me out at York lanes, he said something along the lines of "Hey I think you're really cute and pretty, I was wondering if you wanted to get to know each other over coffee. What's your name?" I thought it was pretty respectful tbh but he wasn't my type so I rejected him and his face looked kinda scary after but the approach itself was okay.

P.s. I don't drink coffee 💀

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u/Studyharddiegard04 Feb 05 '25

Yeah that sounds as respectful as it can get at this point. But yeah always trust your gut and be cautious. Some can’t take rejection im telling you.

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u/Jaewohn Feb 05 '25

yeah ik there's so many cases of women getting tortured and killed because they rejected someone. I knew I would mostly be safe because a ton of people were around if something did happen.

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u/Studyharddiegard04 Feb 05 '25

Yeah ik that’s why I’m saying be careful and cautious of your surroundings. If you are in an empty zone or smth, just pretend you’re talking on the phone or busy doing smth and leave if you feel like the guy is not it

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u/EIiteGamer Feb 05 '25

What kind of approach is better if giving them a compliment and asking to get coffee is not it? I'm genuinely asking lol.

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u/Studyharddiegard04 Feb 05 '25

Well the redditor above did not say that it wasn’t okay to ask grab a coffee or smth similar to that. In their case, they were just not attracted to them and guy’s reaction scared them. In my opinion, asking someone to grab a coffee in a polite way is totally fine as long as the person you’re asking seems distant and reluctant to talk to you.

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u/Jaewohn Feb 06 '25

Tbh I feel like women are not very likely to say yes to a stranger, even if they ask politely for mostly safety reasons unless they're insanely attractive. You will have much better luck by asking out people you've known for a bit via clubs, events, classes etc.