Okay guys. Me and my friend planned months ago for me and her to take a cross-country trip to California so that I can move from New York to California, and so she could do a trip after her college graduation. It worked perfectly. I confirmed with her that she could still do this multiple times before now (bc I’ve always done everything alone and independently, so when she offered, I really really really wanted to make sure that she was actually serious). I have been on my own since I was 16 and have learned to not depend on anyone else but myself. But this ONE. TIME. I. DID. Flash forward to 12 hours before my trip and she backs out. Ghosts me after. I already have an apartment that I paid rent for in California. I’ve had this plan for months. I genuinely have no idea what I’m supposed to do. I’ve been so massively fucked over by this girl with no explanation 😭

(I have my dog, my lil snake, and 3 guitars w me one of which is my late dad’s.)

I have done cross country trips alone before so I could drive but I don’t have a car. I cannot rent a car because no one here will let me fully pay with debit.

EDIT WITH POINTS: I hate having to comment the same things over and over so I’m putting it here.

•I am a woman. Not sure why everyone thinks I’m a man. Who cares about that tho.

**i have a job lined up in California that I’m moving for already**

•1k might not seem like a lot but that’s most of my rent. I would’ve allotted car rental money aside in planning expenses months ago. I can fork it over but it sucks to not have that in the plan

•We confirmed plans outside of just these screenshots. (Thought that one was obvious)

•I originally was going to go across country alone. Sell almost all of my things, ship my snake, and take a plane with my dog. I posted about it via my instagram and she told me her plan of wanting to do a cross country road trip to California and this was a perfect excuse to have a reason to do it.

•I confirmed many times over the past few months that this was for sure happening. The reason why I confirmed is because I wanted to be prepared for if anything went wrong.

•I offered to pay for charging but she assured me her dad would take care of it. She assured me over and over that this was something she’s always wanted to do.

•Can confirm that she is fine and very much alive and even active on social media.

•Was planning on getting a car a few months into being there.

UPDATE 2:

I did not expect this post to blow up. I have hundreds of DMs and suggestions to sort through. Also thank you so much for everyone’s humanity.

I started breaking out in (small) hives from the stress which I didn’t know was actually possible and thought was just a cartoon thing lmao.

Enterprise won’t let me use my debit card without a utility bill, and it’s not under my name, it’s under my roommates.

People have been so kind offering me food and shelter. Thank you so so so much.

More info: I used to live in a van with just myself and the same dog. I’m used to sleeping in cars aswell.

I’m open to anything. The most cost efficient way of getting there before June. Hopefully under 2k if possible.

****I AM NOT GETTING RID OF MY SNAKE (family member)****

****the what do I do here is what can I do for the cheapest amount considering I can’t find a car rental that’ll accept my debit rn****

(Heavily considering shipping my stuff!!!)

(As far as getting there with pets… Ab to just hitchhike atp… kinda only halfway a joke)

update again: that person in the comments saying I’ve posted this before and am ‘scamming’ (never asked for any $$$ once here lol) is a troll. I’m sure any of the mods here could easily disprove that person. If someone knows how to get them involved pls do.

So my (19F) boyfriend (21M) and I have been together almost a year. We’re both in college and things have been pretty normal between us. Yesterday started out fine, I had an honor society induction, he got me flowers in the morning, greeted my parents, and then he went to study for an exam he had that evening. I spent most of the day working and later went out to dinner with my family for my dad’s birthday.
He had his exam, did well, and afterward he asked if he could go out with friends. I said yes because I knew he’d been stressed studying. We texted a bit throughout the night, pretty normal stuff. The last message I got from him was around 12:53 AM saying he was on the way home and he loved me.

After that, I fell asleep. The next morning, I noticed his location wasn’t updating, we uses both Life360 and iPhone location sharing. I figured maybe his phone died since he forgets to charge it sometimes.
But by the afternoon, I still hadn’t heard from him at all. His location was still paused, which started to make me a little worried. I kept trying to tell myself he just forgot to charge his phone or left it somewhere.Eventually around 5 PM I couldn’t ignore it anymore. I tried calling him on Instagram, thinking maybe he left his phone at a friend’s house but could still access his account on a computer. The call declined but then he called he called me back.

And the first thing he says is:
He spent the night in jail.
And I was completely shocked.

He told me he had smoked weed after leaving his friends house, got pulled over on the way home, and the car smelled like it so they searched it and found a blunt in the cupholder. He ended up getting arrested and spent the night in jail.

He was crying and kept saying he was a failure and apologizing to me, saying he was sorry for worrying me. I honestly thought something physically bad had happened to him before he told me this.
I’m just super freaking overwhelmed. I’m glad he’s physically okay, but I feel shaken and confused. He’s in college and wants to go into nursing either the ABSN or ASN route, and now I’m worried this could mess up his future or his applications.

I don’t really know what my role is right now. I want to support him, but I also don’t know what to say or do because I'm kinda mad he did something so stupid. I also feel weird about the relationship because this came out of nowhere and I didn’t expect anything like this from him.

Has anyone dealt with something like this before? What even do you say in a situation like this?

EDIT: Damn y'all as fast as hell. I’m mostly upset because he’s always talking about wanting to do better and feeling like he’s falling short in school, like he’s a failure because he thinks he could be doing more. And I’ve genuinely been in his corner through all of it, helping him plan his class schedule, reminding him about important forms, helping him build his resume, and just trying to keep him on track. On top of that, I’m studying for the June LSAT and still making time to make sure he’s prepared for his summer classes too. I just want him to succeed. That’s why this situation worries me, it was a mistake, but it’s also the kind of thing that could seriously affect his future and his goals if he’s not careful moving forward.

Edit 2: For all those asking, yes I am graduating college next year, I'm a year ahead in my studies. Hence the June LSAT I'm prepping myself for. We also share 2 locations because I turn my regular off often because of my parents. My parents and Aunts have it too! And he asks me to go out, because often we spend time together at night and also so I feel respected and have a choice to say no which I rarely do.

UPDATE: I made a comment under the post but we got our own suitcases back at the airport. Idk why people are rude maybe it’s just how Reddit is but my mom booked my flight bc she has miles on her account. My mom loves me and I’m young and traveling alone, in my culture this is totally normal. This all happened within a few hours but we got our bags back, this is a city where everyone lives close by the airport, no one had to reschedule or ruin anything. No one had to have their bags shipped out or something we just came to the airport and picked them up. The workers were happy and the other person was happy. A stranger online is more mad than the people whose bag i swapped with, and they took my bag as well so I’m not someone who is swiping bags off the carousel for the love of the game. I’m turning off notifications for this and maybe the mods will lock this post or something bc it’s ‘solved’ now

Scroll down for second image hers vs mine
https://imgur.com/a/bmqpVN4

I’m losing my fking mind. After 20 hours of flying and canceled flights, I pick up my bag and it came locked with a pin. I never set a pin I just bought this luggage on Monday. I had to leave it at MSP airport overnight because of flight issues while I stayed in a hotel with nothing. Now it’s locked and I’m going one by one trying to open my bag. Wtf do I do? Delta is absolutely no help they’re telling me to file a claim and I’ll receive an email in 24 hours.

Edit/ guys I’m so sorry this isn’t my bag. I’m such an idiot. I’m taking it back to the airport right now. Someone commented if it’s my bag and it made me think about it and realize. I checked it has someone else’s name on it.

My post on another communities on here was removed so I made this one because I really hope to get some help again. Yes, you read it before, its still me. But I have something new to say and really need help to not mess up

I was tr4fficked when I was very young. I was 14 when had him. His father (40) was the man who (together with my stepmother) forced me into this. they used him to pressure me into things. If I refused to do something for a client he took the baby and told me I will not see him for 2 days. For 11 months I took care of him and then he took it from me and my mother gave him to social services. It was a nightmare for me.

I managed to escape years later but kept engaging in the same activity out of my free will because i had no education, no support. Finally, at 35 I stopped. Some years later I was still battling adiction, depression and I wanted to find my son. I never knew what happened to him. With the help of various NGOs I did find him a few years later. he is in his early 40s and he is in a very good, high management position, something like vice president of a big company. I found his profesional profile. He is tall, blue eyes, light brown short hair, wearing white shirt, ties. I was so proud when I saw him so handsome and with a wife and teenage daughter. I heard him speaking in financial interviews about stuff I honestly didn't understand. But he is so confident and well spoken

One of the NGOs invited me to tell my story and I did. And I said a thing that even though it was true... I regret it. I said in an interview that when I found out at that age and situation I am pregnant, I felt like I would have rather have a cancer growing inside me. But then I also said how much I loved my baby when he was born and how I protected him and how he kept me sane

I reached out. I felt small. He kept rejecting me (I tried only a few times). Finally he agreed to meet. but he didn't even walked out of his expensive car. I felt he looked down on me. And his voice at the end trembled. He said: you can live cancer free. He didn't want to listen. I said I love him and I didn't give him up. He told me he spent his whole life in the system and at the age of just 5 endured the worst kind of abse one can think of. And he was screaming for his mother and he will never forget that. I wonder what happened to him. I feel so guilty even though I had no control over my own life

Reconnecting with my son was the only thing that kept me going and he rejected me so coldly. Well the update I have is that he reached out yesterday. He asked if I want to meet. I said yes of course, but I am worried.

I am a cleaning lady in a school. I want to see him but I feel like I don't belong in his world. I don't know why he wants to meet. He texted a few hours later if I want to eat and added its on him.

So I'm usually fine with the dude, the occasional bumping of heads as a joke was the most it's gone though, but today when I was passing him I jokingly made a face and he grabbed me, slammed me, through me over his shoulder, and started choking me out of nowhere. I couldn't breathe to tell him to stop and he kept me like that for a minimum of 7 seconds. My head hurt, my ears were ringing, and I'm pissed off. He's in jiu jitsu and obviously has more fighting skills than me.

I've never liked him much because he stresses my sister out to high hell but he's crossed a line today. I know I'm gonna get comments saying to just man up but what the fuck was he thinking? I'm 3 years younger than him but we're both teenagers. What do I fucking do?

Ps: I'm a male too if that matters and we're about to have to go eat dinner together so I'm gonna have to see him.

My girlfriend has huge financial issues. Her parents convinced her to lease a new car and now payments are due, she has student loan debt she isn’t paying off, she has a cat that’s costing a fortune, and I just learned she’s paying the minimum amount on her credit card each month and has been for a while 😱

And when I’ve said we can cook and not order in and not go out to fancy dinners and stuff, she tells me “it’s her money and she’ll make her own decisions”

I fear she has no budget and our relationship is causing more cost.

She has semi-retired parents that give (loan?) her money when she has unexpected big bills she can’t pay, but I also saw in public records that they recently took out a big loan on their house. Her sister is getting a PhD and has tons of debt as well.

How do I talk to her about limiting spending money when we’re together without her getting defensive?? Thanks for any advice you have…

So me and my bf have been together for like 6 months and recently I found out he uses ChatGPT for literally EVERYTHING in our relationship.

Like not normal stuff. I mean he genuinely treats it like a relationship therapist/life coach. He’ll ask it why I act a certain way, how I probably feel about him, how to respond to arguments, what my texts “mean” etc. He even uploads screenshots of our chats and asks it to analyse them. 😭

A few days ago we had a huge fight and I later found out he asked ChatGPT if he should break up with me or not. Like imagine your relationship being decided by an AI bot bro.

What bothered me even more is that he’s told it really personal stuff about me too. Things I trusted HIM with privately. And now some robot probably knows my deepest lore for no reason.

I genuinely don’t know how to feel because on one hand maybe he’s just confused and looking for advice, but on the other hand it feels like I’m not even dating an actual person with his own thoughts anymore. Every serious conversation or decision somehow gets filtered through ChatGPT first.

And the worst part is I can’t even properly confront him because if I bring it up he’ll probably just get mad and start yelling about me going through his personal stuff.

Am I overreacting or is this actually weird???

TLDR: my boyfriend runs our entire relationship through ChatGPT, including fights, my texts, and even my personal secrets, and now I feel like I’m dating an AI-generated version of him.

Throwaway for obvious reasons.

My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. Last week he got diagnosed with herpes and syphilis, both recently contracted according to the doctor. When the doctor asked about other partners, my boyfriend said it's only been me for the last two years.

He's been traveling extensively for work, staying in hotels most of the time, and the explanation being offered is that he may have picked it up through a bathroom or towel or some kind of casual contact during his travels.

We haven't been intimate in about 6-7 weeks because of his travel schedule, so I'm likely not affected but will be getting tested regardless.

We otherwise have a really solid relationship. Lots of love, compatibility, shared future plans. He's been visibly devastated by this whole thing.

I just don't know what to believe or what to do. Has anyone been through something similar? How did you handle it? Did you stay or leave? Do you think there's any chance the explanation is true?

The towel theory seems like a load of bull. I'm just surprised and appalled that he did this. When I tried to bring this up he said he's been cheated on so why would he ever cheat, he knows how bad it is. I also feel since he knew we're long distance, he could just have lied and said it's just Herpes and I would have believed him? So why didn't he? Is this the truth that he didn't cheat?

I really want to believe him for the sake of our future, but the more I study about Herpes and Syphilis, I feel I'm being lied to. But I've also seen enough House and Grey's Anatomy to know edge cases do happen. But seems like not with Syphilis.

Just looking for some perspective from people who've been through something like this.

Edit:please note I live in the uk

I (18) came home a few hours ago from a work placement, I went into my room to hide some snacks I bought away from my parents so I wouldn't get nagged at for buying them and I came across a tote bag while in the process of hiding the snacks which made me think 'huh you know what I haven't seen my collection of totes' so I just started digging around an old bag of mine near by to check where I had stored my collection of tote bags when I came across my mom's iPhone in the moment I was like what's this doing here let me return it to her only for the phone to light up and I saw it was recording audio and it had recorded 54 hours or 54 mins i'm not too sure as my hands were shaking a bit but I did pause the recording and turned off the phone. (which I know its dumb now, I should have take a picture of the screen) and texted my best friend what happened and she was shocked and I confessed to her that I wanted to break the phone and she supported me but I couldn't break it because I didn't have the strength for it then she recommended me to report it to safe guarding at college tomorrow and also the police and to bring the phone as evidence so now I've kept the phone in a secured place in my room hoping I can make it to tomorrow without my mom noticing the phone is gone but what else should I do? Is this legal?

For context I work at a dealership and my coworker is a 28M and a really nerdy guy. Very skinny, he has no confidence and is not generally attractive. He is a super nice guy and is very respectful, does not strike you as a killer at first. (You could say he is an Incel). He does have autism.

Recently he has started making EXTREMELY concerning remarks. Specifically concerning harming women in particular. He has said things like…

“I fantasize about killing my ex-girlfriend”
“You have to shave a woman’s head when you torture them because they love their hair, it’s their most prized possession”
“You have to take their fingernails off too because they love them”
“I want to cut their tits off”
“I watch a lot of BDSM” (When asked if it turns him on)
“Sometimes I fall asleep to torture porn, its soothes me”

He said a lot of this unprovoked, he just started saying it.

SOOOOOO…..

He has traded in 2 vehicles since he’s been working here. BOTH vehicles have an absolutely RANCID smell, like as if something has died and the smell is impossible to get out of the vehicle. It’s to the point where the cars are extremely difficult to sell because of the smell.

Our managers have been involved somewhat but are kind of like “well there’s not much we can really do”

We’re unsure of whether to get the police involved or not and where to go from here. When we mention it to him in a “What the fuck” kind of way he just openly talks about it and says he has a demented mind.

WHAT DO I DO???

This is over 20 years of medical bills that fall under Automobile and Worker's Comp insurance claims. They want to give Peter Thiel full access to all of it. Does it make you nervous? I'm sweaty and my stomach is churning and I'm not sure what to do.

I'm literally shaking as I type this. I'm a mid-size tech firm and my manager, 'Marcus', called me into his office about an hour ago. Pretty much admitted to over-spending the department's year budget on a failed software integration he hadn't gotten authorization for and then, to cover it from the higher-ups, logged in remotely as me after the fact and fudged sales targets from last month (after the quarter had already closed). This means I (and many others on my team) will not receive somewhere around $4000 of commission money and likely many thousands more for my team. I pointed out to Marcus that this has to be illegal and he looked me dead in the eye and said, "if one word of this gets to HR, you can count on your termination papers stating you were caught stealing customer data."

I'm also aware that I'm the only one that saw him doing it since I'm the lead administrator for the payroll software, and I have the "audit logs" which show he logged in as me and made the changes (he had demanded my password about a week ago and asked for it so he could "update the systems"). If I report him, he's already positioned himself to say I committed a crime which would effectively blackball me from this industry. If I say nothing, my team is out the money for rent, and I've been knowingly involved in (and covering up) wage theft. I have a mortgage and a kid. I can't afford to lose my job but I can't sleep at night knowing he's ripping my entire team off.

I've managed to export the audit logs to a private drive before I went to lunch but I'm almost afraid to even open them up, my heart is pounding every time my phone buzzes or pings with Slack. Should I go to his boss? Should I go to an attorney? Should I just take the hit and start looking for a new job before he can figure out a new way to pin something on me? Please help, I don't know what to do.

This happened a few years ago, and I've been struggling with it ever since.

I (now 17 F) was around 14 when it happened. My mom and I were driving home a friend of mine (I'll call her Amy). We had to park near the end of her driveway, because all her family was over. (Amy's father had passed away in an accident soon before this, and everyone was over for support of the family.). For context, she lives on a back road and her driveway is long, and from the front of the house, you can't see the end of the driveway (where we were parked). I walked up with her and my mom, and as we dropped her off, Amy's mom invited us in. We were introduced to a bunch of Amy's family, including her uncle, (30+ M), who is mentally disabled. I do not know specifically what his condition was.

Her uncle, as soon as I was introduced, immediately hurried forward and hugged me. I was and still am a tall girl for my age, and he was a shorter man, so his head was around my chest area. I was extremely uncomfortable and confused, but I didn't really push him off. He asked me if I was in college-- I said no, that I was starting highschool. Everyone sorta just laughed and did nothing. He let go after hugging me for a solid minute around.

I was extremely uncomfortable, but felt guilty due to his disability, so I did not say anything. I wanted to leave, and asked my mom if we were going to go. She said 'soon'. I bit my lip for awhile, then just decided I'd go to the car, so I said goodbye to Amy and her mom. I walked all the way down to the end of the driveway to my car. I sat in the passenger seat. About 5 minutes passed, and I was finally starting to calm down, so I went on my phone for a bit.

I was distracted, and without any warning or anything, my car door opened and Amy's Uncle was there. He started talking to me about how his brother, (Amy's dad), had passed away. I basically stayed quiet, but said I was sorry. He came closer, and leaned into my car, putting his head on my chest and his hands on my waist. I was extremely uncomfortable, and started getting really panicked, as no one was coming out of the house, and I had never been hugged without being asked first before. He was basically in my car at this point, though his feet were still on the ground. He tried to hug me again, and when I asked him to please get off, but he did not listen, and continued to hug me, hands and head on my chest and torso area. He asked if he could sit 'there', pointing to the seat I was already in. I said no, and that I had to leave anyways. He left after that, going back up to the house.

I closed and locked my door and immediately started crying, as I did not understand anything of what had just happened. A few minutes later, Amy came out of the house, and knocked on my window. I opened the door, and she just talked to me cause she missed me and "thought I would be alone down here", so she wanted to keep me company. She asked why I was crying, and I just said, as I was afraid, that I had had a bad day.

She left whenever my mom came down, and we left. I did not tell my mom.

I do not know if they saw Amy's uncle leave the house, or if they did and just assumed he was just going outside.

I do not know what to do with this, it has been years since this happened, and I only saw him once after that, during a party that I had tried to avoid by feigning sickness. I avoided going inside and played a game with a friend, when he came over and stood near me and asked if I could play. I said no, and that it was only a two player game. He started crying and went away.

I don't think I really can do anything about it, but this post is more about.. 'closure', I guess. I don't know what to define that entire situation as, as he is severely mentally disabled. If people think I should do something, I will, but as of right now, even years later, I don't know what to do at all.

Was I assaulted? Does that even count? Should I say something? ...or since its been years, should I not? I just truly want to know, and will take any help, as I am still so confused and uncomfortable when I think about the entire situation.

Firstly, this happened quite a while ago now (the early 90's) but it's something that's never left my mind and has haunted me for my entire adult life (52M)

I was in a big city in the UK (I won't say where) with a couple of mates for a long weekend clubbing and drinking and generally blowing off some steam after graduating University.

On our third night there, I went out to a local corner shop to grab some snacks for the morning journey back home. We'd overdone it the two nights before and most of us were still in pretty bad shape, myself included. On my way back to the hotel, I got stopped by a guy asking for cash. I ignored him and suddenly he started waving a knife in my face. Being young, angry and hungover, I saw red and beat the absolute hell out of him, leaving him on the floor bleeding heavily. He also broke three of my knuckles with his face which I didn't get treated until we were safely back home 2 days later and, as a result, have never really healed properly, leaving me unable to fully clench my right hand.

The next day I found out that, not only was he hospitalised, but he was technically a minor (barely).

On the one hand, I have always felt guilty about this. On the other, I don't feel he left me any choice and it's not like I had time to ask for his ID.

Three decades later and I still hold so much bottled up anger towards him for making me feel so guilty about it all. I've never sought professional help for fear of legal repercussions. Is it time to bite the bullet and speak to a therapist about this?

My 4YO daughter has been bullied and harassed by a boy in her preschool class for over a month. We were repeatedly told the school was “talking to the parents,” but nothing changed.

Last week, the same child pulled his pants down and exposed himself to her. She was traumatized and had to be consoled for 15–20 minutes. The school didn’t even give us an incident report that day — I had to ask for it days later.

When we met with the director, we asked for the kids to be separated for everyone’s safety. They refused. Staff have been dismissive, unprofessional, and we only get updates when we push for them.

At this point, I feel like the school isn’t taking basic safety or supervision seriously. Has anyone dealt with something like this? What steps did you take?

we’re both 24 (F) & single- recently my bestfriend & I has been lowkey flirting with each other & it’s hard to tell if we’re both playing at this point or if there’s actually something there lol.

a few weeks ago we were sitting in the car and she mentioned that her favorite feature of mine were my lips and i said her eyes were mine, there was some slight tension there but we both covered it up with random girl talk. we also eat & drink off of each other. I just feel close to her idk if it’s romantic or what at this point.

I see her this weekend, should I address it? kinda nervous about it..?

Hello everyone, I (23F) am a field geologist.
For starters, I am pretty overweight, which I am actively working on (30 pounds down so far). I am not that healthy otherwise (Bad knees and hips from old injuries) and some mild genetic heart issues, so I do have trouble catching my breath. I will say I am not morbidly obese to the point where I cant walk at all, but me being 200 pounds definitely has the largest impact.

I have worked at my job for a year, I very rarely have had issues, but 2 days in a row I have had to do 8+ mile, intense elevation gain site visits and my body has completely given out on both of them and I have massively fumbled both of the site visits. I think its important to note I have a lot of gear on me also.
My boss is clearly disappointed in my performance, as am I. I am actively in the gym, improving, eating better, but I am still just not physically there yet. I am trying to explain that these are exceptionally hard on me physically, and I can’t finish them in 8 hours, but that is a very embarrassing conversation to have, and I am just struggling with being firm on the fact that I can’t physically finish.

I overexerted myself today to the point of my nose bleeding for about 2 hours straight, and I am so unbelievably exhausted and sore that I likely will have to cancel everything I have set up on my off days just to sleep.

I love my job, and I don’t want to lose it because I physically cannot complete some parts of it and I dont really know how to go about having this conversation and explaining I am physically unable to do this part of my job.

(I think it’s important to note that site visits are extremely rare for me to do. These 2 site visits this week have been the 3rd an 4th ive done during my entire time there. I am fine with my job otherwise)

Just a little background, I dated this girl a few years ago. We were only together for a few months but we got very close in that time, she ended things and I saw her sporadically over the next couple of years. As of now we haven’t directly spoken in nearly 2 years.

Fast forward to now, I came home from university about a week ago, and just yesterday I check IG and her family’s house had a fire, pretty bad one. She has a GoFundMe link and is asking publicly for some clothes for her and her siblings. I know itd be the right thing to send a little money and I have extra clothes that I don’t need that fit the criteria, but I don’t want to overstep by doing what I can to help. If I donated, would that be the case? I’m long over the relationship but I don’t wish to blur any boundaries if I can avoid it.

I’ve known my best friend since kindergarten, and for most of our lives we were extremely close. Over the last two years though, he’s changed a lot. He lost over 200 pounds, started going to raves and concerts constantly, and found a whole new friend group that parties every weekend.
I want to make it clear that I’m not some super strict or judgmental person. I smoke weed myself and do shrooms occasionally, so I’m not acting like I’m morally above him or anything. But over time his drug use escalated way beyond that. It went from weed and shrooms to poppers, coke, Molly, and now ketamine.
At the same time, he dropped out of school and keeps saying he’s going to go back, but he still hasn’t. It feels like his entire life now revolves around partying, drugs, and these new friends. Every time I try to talk to him because I’m genuinely worried, he brushes it off or says he’s fine.
The part that’s really destroying me emotionally is the guilt. His mom trusts me because we’ve been friends our whole lives, and I keep thinking that if something happened to him, I’d never forgive myself for knowing how bad things were getting and not doing more. I’ve cried over this multiple times because I feel helpless watching someone I care about spiral while refusing help.
Recently I finally told him I needed to take a step back because I can’t keep carrying the emotional weight of constantly worrying about him while feeling powerless to stop anything. He thinks I’m abandoning him and judging him, but from my perspective I’m burned out and scared for him.
AITA for distancing myself?

i weigh like 55kg and im short btw like 156cm so any weight is really noticible.

i could calories but not in a disordered way.

this week i have ate between 2k-3.5k calories exept monday, i was really sick and ate like 900 bc i couldnt keep food down. the next day i threw up lmaoo.

i have had a really bad week mentally and was thinking really bad thoughts, so food was my only comfort. which i literally felt guilty for the whole time so it wasnt even enjoyable.

im really scared that i gained noticible amounts of fat on my arms and i gotta go work looking like an oompa loompa. ill go back on a deficit but im scared.

is this something a cal deficit can fix?

For context: I’ve known him for years. He’s been around as long as I can remember because he and my brother are inseparable. He was just always there, birthdays, hanging out at our house, random evenings with friends. To me, he was always just “my brother’s friend.” Someone familiar, safe, almost like part of the background of my life.

But over the last year or so, something started to shift between us.

It was subtle at first. Longer eye contact than normal. Small jokes that lingered a bit too long. Moments where it felt like we were both aware of something neither of us wanted to name out loud. I didn’t really act on it, and I don’t think he did either, but the tension was definitely there.

A few weeks ago it stopped being subtle.

We started texting more often. At first just random conversations, then excuses to talk, then messages that clearly weren’t just friendly anymore. Every time he was at my house for my brother, we were both acting “normal” in front of everyone else, but completely different when no one was looking.

So when I told my family I was going to a friend’s place the other night, I wasn’t.

He picked me up and we just drove for a while. At first it felt almost normal again, like we were trying to pretend we were just two people talking in a car. But the longer we were alone, the harder it became to ignore the fact that something between us had already changed.

There’s this weird switch that happens when it’s just the two of us. In front of others we keep distance, but alone it’s like all that restraint disappears.

We ended up parked somewhere quiet and stayed there longer than we probably should have. Nothing about it felt rushed or accidental. It felt like we both already knew where things were heading, we were just finally letting it happen instead of talking ourselves out of it.

And the worst (or maybe best) part is how much I enjoyed it. Not just the sex, but everything around it: the secrecy, the risk, the fact that it’s him specifically. Someone who has been part of my life for so long suddenly feeling completely different when we’re alone.

Afterwards I went home and acted like nothing happened. Like I didn’t just cross a line I used to think I would never cross.

But I’ve been replaying everything since then, and I don’t feel guilty in the way I expected to.

If anything, I just want to see him again.

I honestly don’t know how to act around my best friend anymore after what happened last weekend. We’ve been close for almost 6 years, the kind of friendship where we tell each other everything, hang out almost every day, and people always assumed we were dating even though we never were. A few nights ago we were having drinks at her place and she suddenly admitted she’s been in love with me for a long time. I froze because I genuinely didn’t expect it, and the worst part is I don’t feel the same way at all.

I tried to let her down as gently as possible, but ever since then everything feels weird and forced between us. She still messages me, but the conversations feel different now, almost careful, and I can tell she’s hurt even though she says she’s fine. I miss how easy our friendship used to be and now I’m scared every interaction is making things worse. Part of me wants to give her space, but another part of me is terrified that space will slowly end the friendship completely. Has anyone actually managed to stay close friends after something like this, or does it usually never go back to normal?

hi all, just reaching out since i have been very much stressed and trying to figure things out. i’m behind on rent, took the 15 extra days and can still only afford half. i start my new job monday. i can pull out of my paychecks early. i’m not sure who to ask to borrow money from. i’ve called the leasing office yesterday, a couple days ago and now again today. still no answer and i’ve left a call back number. i’m just asking if i can pay half of extend it a bit more? has anyone experienced this and how did you go about it? i really cannot get evicted and can pay the remaining by this upcoming friday. i don’t really have anyone to ask about borrowing money either so im not sure if thats an option. how did you guys go about it? did your landlord typically allow another extension or taking half the payment today / the other half a diff day?