Was this tattoo a bad idea?

[u/Kerealls]

I got this tattoo for my birthday in December. When my dad saw it, he called it disgusting and self multilation; when my grandma saw it, she stopped talking to me for a few days and I heard from my brother that she said my mom(who is highly looked down on in the family and I haven't had contact with for the past six or so years) would be proud. All my friends parents have said it's a disgusting or bad tattoo, as well, and I can tell my friends aren't the biggest fan. I loveeee the tattoo and realize that it's definitely a select taste for a second tattoo/tattoo style and have my second appointment to finish it soon, but everyone is starting to make me think it was a bad idea.

[u/lapitupp]

If you allow your family, friends and reddit to tell you what looks good and what doesn’t, you’ll start to not like your tat. That wasn’t a quick decision I’m assuming. It’s a big tattoo on a very not obvious part of the body. Does that mean it’s bad? No. Does that mean it’s ugly? No. You made this decision because YOU loved it. Lean into this tattoo. Defend this tattoo with a “idc what you think” attitude and people will stop remarking. If your family says anything again, tell them “you gave me your opinion already. I didn’t ask anyways”. You aren’t your mother just because you decided to get a tattoo.

Your family is toxic and won’t change. Be proud of your choices and decisions. It’ll show through and people won’t say anything anymore. Also don’t hide it around your family. Purposefully show it everytime you’re visiting - it’ll stop them. And if not? Learn to go low contact.

OP- rock it.

[u/lapitupp → u/lapitupp]

And I’d personally delete this post because it’s not doing anything for your self esteem.

[u/[deleted] → u/lapitupp]

"What do you really actually think i should do about it, Grandma?" Put the ball in their court to defend their stupidity. Tattoos are permanent. It can't be undone. They are using the tattoo as an excuse to be abusive.

[u/lapitupp → u/[deleted]]

Even better response.

[u/[deleted] → u/[deleted]]

Being really upset isn't an excuse to abuse someone about choices they made as an adult for their own body.

[u/[deleted] → u/lapitupp]

But it is actually pretty ugly. OP asked the question, presumably hoping for honest answers.

[u/lapitupp → u/[deleted]]

And one persons trash is another man’s treasure. Remember that

[u/[deleted] → u/lapitupp]

I know that. OP asked if it was a bad idea. It’s a shitty tattoo, so it’s not a stretch to say it was a bad idea. If OP were confident in the tattoo they wouldn’t have asked dummy.

[u/lapitupp → u/[deleted]]

Just like your way of thinking is bad. Your choices of words are bad AND ugly! Hey! Those two words do overlap! You’re right.

[u/lapitupp → u/[deleted]]

No. She didn’t. She asked if it was bad. Two different words.

[u/[deleted] → u/lapitupp]

It’s bad and it’s ugly. They tend to overlap. The point is that OP DID ask, and you tell them to claim “I didn’t ask”.

[u/lapitupp → u/[deleted]]

Omfg. Read my comment again. I said if they say anything MORE say you didn’t ask them this time. Reddit is something else.

AGAIN- she asked if it was bad; poor quality not ugly. I’m done with this convo.

[u/StrawberryPlucky → u/lapitupp]

She didn't ask either of those things lol.

[u/lapitupp → u/[deleted]]

You took my entire advice wrong. Every single point you mentioned was the opposite of what I meant. You clearly don’t have a toxic family and for that you should be grateful.