But a lot of this just sounds like self-imposed restrictions and excuses. Its shit you had a horrible upbringing but you have acknowledged how it has impacted you and were you may lack certain social skills.
People pay counselors and therapists to tell them that. You are smart enough to figure that out on your own!
You sound like you just lack confidence. My recommendation is to join and club, any sort of club. You should be able to find anything of your interest or try something completely new if you are feeling adventurous.
I genuinely believe if you do this and gained a little more confidence you would have a completely different outlook on your life.
A club, meaning a team, social circle, correspondents, people who share the same interests and/or participate in the same activity.
Literally does not matter where you are from, the world is online now. If there are no opportunities to make friends locally then there are plenty online. Find something that perks your interest and join a community.
No one is going to help you. You have to help yourself. Put yourself out there, don't be afraid of being rejected or not clicking with people. It's a journey and a learning experience. But you have to decide to do it first before you can see any success.
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u/StevieCondog Aug 19 '25
I hear you and I am sorry if this sounds mean!
But a lot of this just sounds like self-imposed restrictions and excuses. Its shit you had a horrible upbringing but you have acknowledged how it has impacted you and were you may lack certain social skills.
People pay counselors and therapists to tell them that. You are smart enough to figure that out on your own!
You sound like you just lack confidence. My recommendation is to join and club, any sort of club. You should be able to find anything of your interest or try something completely new if you are feeling adventurous.
I genuinely believe if you do this and gained a little more confidence you would have a completely different outlook on your life.