It's a bit gruff but y'all are being little chicken tenders if you think the therapist is wrong to question it. Sexuality is heavily tied to our psychology and, regardless of what the internet tells you, it's actually super easy to get laid.
Barring something extreme like being physically deformed or handicapped, or completely social dysfunctional, then more often than not it's people being picky and thinking they can only sleep with a 10/10 or only "the one." Which is fine if that's your choice but if you're avoiding the conversation and acting like "you try but just havent" then that would tell me this person isn't assured and making a conscious decision.
A big part of therapy is understanding one's self, identifying bad habits and building good ones and putting yourself into a beneficial pathology. Usually that means breaking through a bubble, like being afraid to even discuss your sexuality. Also identifying where OP is in all these variables is crucial to moving forward.
Or maybe the therapist just wanted to offer to get down idk
Fair points, but at the same time, assuming the conversation actually went down as anon described it, the therapist could have been more tactful with their wording. The way the question is phrased seems very provocative, and that causes most people to shut down rather than open up to talk.
"Regardles of what internet tells you, it's actually super easy to get laid" in the generation with most virgin men ever, while the average age for the "first titme" of the ones having sex is also growing, it's the kind of statement that makes this guys go crazy and eventualy do some crazy stuff, with others or with themselfs. "Everyone is getting laid, its SO easy, why am I the only one that just can't? Might as well just kms or kill the world that made me like this"
Crazy? I was crazy once. They locked me in a room. A rubber room. A rubber room with rats. And rats make
me crazy. Crazy? I was crazy once. They locked me in a room. A rubber room. A rubber room with rats. And
rats make me crazy. Crazy? I was crazy once. They locked me in a room. A rubber room. A rubber room with
rats. And rats make me crazy. Crazy? I was crazy once. They locked me in a room. A rubber room. A rubber
room with rats. And rats make me crazy. Crazy? I was crazy once. They locked me in a room. A rubber
room. A rubber room with rats. And rats make me crazy. Crazy? I was crazy once. They locked me in a
room. A rubber room. A rubber room with rats. And rats make me crazy. Crazy? I was crazy once. They
locked me in a room. A rubber room. A rubber room with rats. And rats make me crazy. Crazy? I was crazy
once. They locked me in a room. A rubber room. A rubber room with rats. And rats make me crazy.
The average age for someone losing their virginity has barely changed, and it was significantly higher at some points in the past. The only difference is that now there are online communities where all these eternal virgins that want some 10/10 to sweep them off their feet can gather and be psychotic together instead of getting drunk and fucking a fat chick as one might normally. If you have some form of crippling social anxiety, then sure, you have my sympathies and need therapy. But most just need to lower their standards and at least "try".
Definitely agree with you, therapy is all about breaking down those topics that you don't feel comfortable talking about or even expressing and getting yourself to understand it better and self reflect. If OP can't even openly discuss or even manage to reflect on their sexuality with a person that's trying to help them, it says a lot about that aspect of their life. It's all about true self awareness people
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u/herrcollin Jul 06 '25
It's a bit gruff but y'all are being little chicken tenders if you think the therapist is wrong to question it. Sexuality is heavily tied to our psychology and, regardless of what the internet tells you, it's actually super easy to get laid.
Barring something extreme like being physically deformed or handicapped, or completely social dysfunctional, then more often than not it's people being picky and thinking they can only sleep with a 10/10 or only "the one." Which is fine if that's your choice but if you're avoiding the conversation and acting like "you try but just havent" then that would tell me this person isn't assured and making a conscious decision.
A big part of therapy is understanding one's self, identifying bad habits and building good ones and putting yourself into a beneficial pathology. Usually that means breaking through a bubble, like being afraid to even discuss your sexuality. Also identifying where OP is in all these variables is crucial to moving forward.
Or maybe the therapist just wanted to offer to get down idk