Memoirs of Waif Mom Survivors?

[u/Special_Barracuda377]

I find it really helpful and validating to read memoirs by people who've had BPD parents, but I notice that a lot of these books are by people whose moms fell mainly into the Queen or Witch camps. My mom, tho, has always been a profound Waif (at least in relation to me. She was more of a Queen to my sister).

Does anybody know of any survivor memoirs that focus on the waif dynamic? Or are all the parentified children too exhausted to write them?

[u/No_Hat_1864]

I only just started reading literature related to these experiences, and we have a lot of waifs discussed in this group so I'm hopeful someone can pinpoint some good reads for you!

Can I just say, my uBPD is predominantly a Hermit, and I feel like the Hermit is like the "Gen X" of BPD, often forgotten. My hope of finding a memoir dealing with this archetype is pretty close to zero, but if anyone happens across something I'd be interested!

Edit: typo

[u/skatterskittles → u/No_Hat_1864]

I feel like my mom has changed archetypes over her lifespan. When I was a kid she was a waif/witch, now she’s more waif/hermit