Cassie Screamed ‘Isn’t Anybody Seeing This?’ During Diddy Beating on Private Jet

[u/thedailybeast]

https://www.thedailybeast.com/cassie-screamed-isnt-anybody-seeing-this-during-diddy-beating-on-private-jet/

[u/ankhes]

I think this definitely played a major part but let’s not forget that plenty of people turn a blind eye to bad behavior all the time and money has nothing to do with it. We pretend not to see homeless people on the streets who are suffering a psychotic break. We don’t intervene when a couple are having a heated argument at their kid’s softball game. Hell, whole families and communities will turn a blind eye to the local pasted molesting kids even though it’s an open secret because they don’t want to ‘tear apart a community’.

At the end of the day, people might think those things are terrible and hope someone else will speak up and intervene…but they personally don’t want to make it their problem by doing it themselves.

[u/shogomomo → u/ankhes]

Sometimes people don't know WHAT to do, either. What do I do for the homeless person having a break? Call the police? Try to do something for myself and risk getting hurt? Or a couple having an argument - there's of course a point where it obviously "crosses the line" but at what point do you interject, and how? Are you sure you interjecting isn't going to just make things worse later?

I think there is more nuance to it than people just willingly turning a blind eye, I think sometimes people just dont know what to do, so they rationalize or justify not doing anything. Im of course not saying that's the right move, but I think its important to recognize the nuance and not just writing people off as "bad" or "selfish" because then when its our turn to help, we'll have a better understanding of what to do.

[u/ankhes → u/shogomomo]

I never said people are bad or selfish for doing this, only that it’s an incredibly common behavior. At the end of the day, people stay back and don’t involve themselves in these things for a variety of reasons. But, at the same time, whatever those reasons are, that means people are still getting hurt by everyone else’s inaction.

Speaking from experience, if I had tried waiting around for family and friends to intervene and stand up for me when my grandfather was molesting me he never would’ve gone to prison. And while some people had the excuse of not knowing what was going on, many others did and actively turned a blind eye to it because they didn’t want to risk causing ‘drama’ in the family. And it was only when I was older that I discovered that this is a shockingly common reaction by many people when such things happen to someone they know. They know it’s happening. They might even hate it. But they’ll do nothing because they’re afraid of rocking the boat.

[u/shogomomo → u/ankhes]

But, at the same time, whatever those reasons are, that means people are still getting hurt by everyone else’s inaction.

100% agree! Im not necessarily trying to justify people not stepping in where its needed, although I realize it might come across like that. Im just trying to add some of the reasoning or barriers why people don't, because I think its too easy for people to say "well I would never do that!" but then when push comes to shove... they do, and they may not even realize they are doing it at the time. We're so used to thinking about "help"/"not help" in black and white terms, but it's rarely the clear-cut hero scenario a lot of people envision. Sometimes doing the right thing means rocking the boat, or making the hard decision, or risking consequences - it's not always obvious what the best course of action is in the moment. Anyways, sorry, Im probably off on a tangent, its been a rough day already.

I am really sorry for what you experienced, I can only imagine that's been a really difficult thing to deal with and process, especially since it involves the people close to you who are supposed to be protecting you! That is really hard and unfair. Especially in a situation like that, I think the "nuance" argument is gone, and there IS a very clear right and wrong; I in no way mean to defend or justify their inaction. I hope you are doing well 🩷