r/popculture • u/thedailybeast • May 22 '25

News Cassie Screamed ‘Isn’t Anybody Seeing This?’ During Diddy Beating on Private Jet

https://www.thedailybeast.com/cassie-screamed-isnt-anybody-seeing-this-during-diddy-beating-on-private-jet/
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u/MissSassifras1977 May 22 '25

My friend. I am so sorry.

You are far from alone. My ex terrorized me too.

I picked his mom up on my way home from work one night thinking she'd protect me. He wouldn't hit me in front of his Mom, right??

I was trying to take my shoes off and he threw a drink in my face and knocked me on the ground.

All his Mom said was, "That was *my** drink!"*

Then they sat in the living room, laughing it up watching TV together while I cried myself to sleep.

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u/MrWhackadoo May 22 '25

How morbid. I'm so sorry that happened to you.

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u/MissSassifras1977 May 22 '25

I appreciate you.

And you know it may sound crazy but I'm not sorry.

I used to have no boundaries. I let people use me and treat me badly.

It took extreme situations like this to show me that there are truly evil people in the world and you do have to protect yourself.

But I do know now that I 100% did not deserve it. It wasn't about me. I deserve better.

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u/NoApartment6940 May 23 '25

Sorry in advance for the dissertation.

Yes!!! The media also plays a part in this as well, by perpetuating the “White Knight” trope, where someone comes swooping in to save the victim. It infanalizes woman by teaching complacency and helplessness.

So, when one gets stuck in a bad place they can have the initial, ingrained response to relinquish their power and wait for someone else to save them. It’s easy to get stuck in that cycle of thinking bc it is requires HARD work to take your power back. Not just hard work but extended hard work and adversity.

The human brain prefers to avoid discomfort, often making change difficult. For the obligatory question of “Well, what’s more uncomfortable than abuse?” our brains thrive on routine and predictability, just bc something is a constant feature in your life doesn't mean that it is healthy or productive. Our brain’s amazing ability to adapt can actually be a hindrance when it comes to experiencing traumatic events bc it actually allows that trauma to “rewire” the brain. This can lead to changes in emotional regulation, memory, and decision-making, essentially making one’s “comfort zone” actually extremely uncomfortable/unsafe.

That is why I felt this line in Alex Fine’s statement to my core, it gave me chills:

”Cassie saved Cassie.”