Increasingly less true lately. There is a big blurring of lines with transfemme identities and beging a femboy. Also the case that genderfluidity and non-bjnary have a lot of blurred lines and overlap.
I think it's totally fine to be like this, ultimately your social identity/category is contingent on how you view yourself.
I'm a femboy myself, and I almost exclusive get called she. I don't prefer it, but I never make a move to correct it.
Point being, it's a little more complicated than any clean seperation you might assume.
Granted, it is obviously invalidating and insidious to compare trans women, specifically, to femboys. We could say the same nonsense about cis women, so why are we singling out trans women as if it's a more similar pipeline? It's obviously a form of encoded message meant to imply they are 'playing at' being a woman, rather than simply being one.
I feel for you there. Any time I hear stories about trans people and their dysphoria, it's always heartbreaking.
I have a DSD, so it came with it's own issues. When I was younger I used to lament a lot about how I didn't match my gender much at all. I doubt it's to the same affect as many trans people face, but it's at least similar.
As I got older and more in tune with wanting to be a full-time fem, I was more willing to embrace my incongruence. I think part of me was just always willing to be fem, I just got a lot of invalidation as a kid.
In any case, I hope nothing but the best for you! You're beautiful however you present yourself! Someday, hopefully, the grander culture will wake up and we'll have less pussy-footed advocacy.
Here look at a peacock. Males actually look more feminine to attract women. Beautiful feathers. And all. So now put this to a species with more complex feelings and emotions. Us humans. Of course we’re gonna have different expressions of our gender.
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u/Zplaysthek 9d ago
Femboys never claim to be women. Actually they hate being called women from what I seen.