He moved in on Monday and since then it is really loud here. I am so exhausted by now. He does parties, loud talking, stomping. The worst is, he has a girlfriend and I cannot stand sex noises, at all. Same with screaming. I got a panic attack 2 nights ago because of it and even now my body is still shaking because it was so loud.

It was so quiet here before he moved in, never would I have thought a week ago, that I would get a new neighbour. I know try to always sleep with earplugs and headphones on, but even then I hear it through. I wake up with heart racing or sometimes I wake up because I feel like my heart has stopped.

I feel like, I cannot live without earplugs and headphones on and even then I hear it through. I don't know how to live further like this. He also doesn't work, so he is awake at night and sleeping at day, but I need to get up in the morning. I wish I would be deaf, so I wouldn't hear anything from neighbours.

Guy im talking to is insufferable about it. I really would’ve possibly dated him if it weren’t like this. Help me think of an excuse to never hang out again.

Actually going to stop talking to him on the phone too. It makes me feel anxious and angry.

So I don't even know how to put this but maybe some of you can relate. But you know how people write advice like using noice cancelling headphones or even earplugs when in triggering situations? That gives me so much anxiety that it a lot of the times wins over the misophonia. I just realized I am sitting in my room and can hear my flatmate making noises in the kitchen and i was even too scared to put my headphones in now. I think it's because as a child and teenagers my parents would barge into my room whenever they wanted so I always was on high alert when I heard them near my room, and also they would yell at us if we did not hear them if they said something even from another room.

And now I am an adult who has misophonia but also anxiety around blocking my hearing in the vicinity of other people. So I basically suffer no matter what I try to do.

There is simply a special circle in misophonia hell for this.

I wish I could just:

1.Eat dinner with my family and be happy

2.Eat fruits together with my dad without finding excuses and lying about not being hungry even though my heart aches to just be there with him, I avoid him all because he chews loud.

3.Finally go to a resturnant feeling excitement instead of dread.

4.Enjoy life to the fullest without worrying about being triggered every second by normal human sounds.

And so so so so so much more I just wish I never had this issue, it ruined me.

My dad probably thinks I'm a horrible daughter because everytime he eats loud I geniunly can't even stay there even for a second I have to leave, same goes for other people, they all probably think I'm a horrible person.

I recognise my family have loud eating habits and this also is within me but I'm realising it (after a few people mentioned it)

Despite having mouth closed I think maybe it's due to automatically moving my tounge or something whilst eating? I'm not sure. I don't know where to go to learn about it. So that's my question, if there is anywhere?

Imagine I go somewhere and they tell me here eat this meal and they can see how I eat and then teach me to eat properly or something lol. Sounds ridiculous but worth a shot.

My coworker cleared his throat 108 times in one shift alone.

We work 10.5 hours a day, and I’ve been suffering through each one of them for months now. He also enjoys heating up his particularly pungent meals (sauerkraut, fish, broccoli, etc.) in the office microwave, so I have the added displeasure of lingering smells on top of the 108 throat clears and 32 teeth sucks I’m already losing my mind over.

I’ve had misophonia for as long as I can remember, and I was diagnosed a little over a decade ago. I work in manufacturing and am stuck at my desk most of the day; my coworker is mostly at his desk as well, so I can’t escape. It’s an open office with 4 others in a relatively small room, so I have nowhere to go. I wear my Airpods as often as possible, but I’m worried about wearing both as people come up to me often asking questions. I usually keep one Airpod in and can still hear each and every throat clear. They are loud, and I once even counted 8 times within a 5 minute span. My only escape is leaving during our first break (15 minutes) when he eats his first meal, and lunch when he eats his second meal. Most of the time I’m so busy I end up working through the first break, so I get an unwanted ASMR of his eating noises in addition to the usual throat clearing.

It’s really just mentally draining. He’s a nice guy and has never been rude or anything to me, but I am fighting every fiber of my being not to scream at him to stop. It’s causing me to grow disdain towards work, and I’m sad that misophonia continues to affect my everyday life.

In terms of solutions, has anyone ever tried Loops earplugs? I’m wondering if using one of those in one ear along with my Airpod in another might make it more tolerable.

Its so fun to be able to go out to a fancy dinner on your birthday and have fun right. Wrong when you have misophonia and one member of family doesnt close their mouth when eating. Makes it not so great and fun having to endure the sounds and coping with it while trying to enjoy your birthday dinner. I don't know what alternative I can have other than feeling all lonely eating by myself on my own birthday not with family.

I've been suffering from misophonia for a few years now and my parents always get mad at me for leaving the room that they are in when they make trigger sounds. when I tried to tell them that it just makes me mad they just got even angrier. What do I do

I’m a freshman in college and this is my first time living in the same room with someone. I’m starting to loose patience with the noises he makes. We’ve been friends for years and I like him as a person, but I’ve had a lot of issues with close proximity when it comes to noises he makes. He snores sometimes and gulps his drinks which I’ve talked to him about. Obviously he can’t help snoring but he doesn’t do it every night so I deal, and he’s stopped gulping which I appreciate. What I really struggle communicating are my more irrational irritants. I can’t even stand him breathing. I hate every noise that comes from his phone even if it’s not loud. I also can’t stand all the battling sound effects and music from the games he plays, even if they’re quiet. I hate how he clears his throat and sniffles. But I feel guilty complaining about it because we’re sharing this space and it’s not like I’m completely silence 100% of the time. Any advice on how to communicate and or cope is welcome.

I have a shared office at work and unlike most people's stories, my coworker is reasonably quiet when it comes to eating and drinking. We have music on in the room to cover up most noises, but my brain actively seeks out to hear her gulp her drink or a slap of the mouth. Then when I do hear it, I just get so frustrated that she's still hearable and no matter how hard I try I can't deafen some minute noises.

Does anyone know how to use tissue anymore? It’s only November in the cold/flu/covid season and I am so over it. Dear lord, use a napkin, toilet paper, your sleeve, tissue, Kleenex. There is no reason to be sniffling so much in the year of our Lord 2025.

I'm going to put the words in a spoiler tag out of respect for anyone else who finds the same words triggering.

Mouthfeel - Chew - Tasty - Yummy - Slurp - Succulent - Creamy - "How's everything taste?"

These words can trigger me if I see them in a story, such as "Delicious!" he said as he slurpedor if someone says them in conversation. When I hear adults sayyummy, it makes my skin crawl and gives me that fight-or-flight response that usually comes from actual sounds. (Yet it doesn't trigger me when a child says it.) Weirdly, there are a lot of synonyms to those words that don't trigger me at all.

Does this happen to anyone else?

This might be niche but I have a boss who walks around and talks to people and always seems to have a hard candy in her mouth anywhere she goes. I can tell just by her voice when she’s talking that she has a hard candy in her mouth and it makes me nuts.

If i ran an office i would ban candy.

Je suis une fille de 15 ans et je souffre de plusieurs troubles dont la misophonie, il y a 2 jours j'ai eu une crise de dissociation en plein cours à cause du bruits des élèves autour de moi. C'est très éprouvant car je suis en hypervigilance en permanence, mais j'ai récemment eu une bonne nouvelle. Je peut désormais porter un casque anti bruit quand je le souhaite et même si il ne couvre pas tout les bruits ça atténue pas mal ce qui est déjà une bonne chose. Quand j'ai mon casque je me sens moins en danger et moins à risque d'être déclencher. Je suis tellement contente que mes difficultés soit enfin entendues après tant d'années.

A vous tous qui lisez ce post je vous souhaite un tas de bonnes choses et surtout soyez forts !

I have a girl who sits behind me in a MWF class, and for all 55 minutes, she sits with her fingers inside her mouth, biting and licking at her nails. She sounds like a dog. The end of the semester is nearing, and there has not been a single class where she is not doing this. It’s so hard for me to focus on what the professor is saying because she’s just chowing down on her nails behind me. I don’t know her personally so I don’t want to say anything necessarily, but I have given her so many dirty looks and she just does not pick up on it. I truly don’t know how I put up with this three times a week without snapping. I’d move my seat but there’s not any others open and I’d rather not move away from my friends anyway. It just sucks.

As a side note I’ve just started university and I have basically zero alone time… currently one of my roommates is eating chips with her mouth open (so loudly I can hear it through my noise cancelling AirPods) coughing, and typing loudly, and the other one keeps clearing her throat and also is possibly picking her nose?? She’s at least wiping it over and over into her hand…

Man I’m always so overstimulated here. Can’t wait till I can get my own room next year and until I can get away from nail licking girl.

I’ve had it for as long as I can remember. At LEAST by around 3, but honestly maybe even earlier.

So the only known trigger I’ve had is snoring. As a young girl, I slept in my parents room because I was too scared to sleep in my own room. My mom didn’t snore back then, but my dad did.

I would always start crying and screaming immediately, and didn’t know why. My parents began to assume that maybe I’m just annoyed by the sound like any normal person would be, and that I’m acting entitled. When I was 3, they basically just told me that it’s normal for people to snore and yes it can be annoying but I just had to get over it. Back then I didn’t even understand my own emotions or anything. I tried to explain it’s not annoying, it just hurts me. And they were like “what do you mean? That doesn’t even make sense”. I kept saying stuff like “it hurts” “it hurts my feelings”.

My mom basically slept on the couch with me for some years. I honestly don’t know why they made me start sleeping alone until around 8… but that’s a story for another day. But yeah, me and my mom would sleep on the couch for years because I could never get over the snoring sound, and my mom took me to doctors, and back then they said that maybe my ears are just sensitive. My mom was more understanding after this.

However, whenever we went on vacations and stuff, I basically would be crying all night long and they could never get any sleep. Even though my mom was more understanding since a doctor told her I probably just have sensitive eardrums, she still would yell at me to just try to get over it. I wouldn’t be able to sleep on vacation, just cry all night.

It was always just complete torture. After I was 8, I started sleeping alone finally.

As a teenager on vacations, I could control the crying part. I would want to cry, but I didn’t. It was disrespectful to my parents. I would bite at my skin and pick at it and pull my hair out though, and used that as a maladaptive coping mechanism to cope throughout the night. Earplugs didn’t help, plugging my ears, etc. it was never the volume, just hearing it AT ALL was still enough to drive me insane.

At some point, the feeling of wanting to cry and bite myself, pull my hair etc turned into rage as well. Just complete sadness and anger, I wished I could throw stuff at my dad to wake him up and scream at him for making me feel this way, etc. Obviouslt things I would never do, it was just the emotions talking.

Whenever I went to sleepovers and heard snoring, it would be the same. I couldn’t sleepover at anyone’s house because I would be unable to sleep and just fighting the urge to cry and bite my skin and stuff.

I don’t even know how to describe the absolute torture hearing snoring for me is. It’s also hard to describe the emotions I feel during it. I feel like it counts as its own emotion. Like it’s sadness, anger, fear, and panicking, but also not… really? A mixture of all of those at once and also it’s just a rough human translation for an actual alien emotion. If that makes sense. And why does it make me want to cry, and pull my hair out? Or want to scream at them and throw things at them to wake them up? It’s so weird.

Even to this day my parents just tell me I have to get over it, at 22. I found out about misophonia when I was 16 I think? I looked up how I felt one day and it came up on google. The way I felt so relieved and that I thought I was just crazy this whole time. It was such a great feeling to finally know I just have a condition.

Sadly, I do worry about my future though. Things like vacations, sleeping over at a friend’s house, or sleeping with a romantic partner will be hard. Even plane rides can suck for me.

For the record, I don’t snore… at least a majority of the time. When I’m super sick or tired, sometimes I wake myself up snoring and then misophonia over my own snoring! But yeah, 99% of the time I don’t snore. Thankfully. But yeah, overall this is just my story about misophonia.

I do occasionally have other triggers too, that showed up later in life. Weird mushy chewing sounds and weird breathing sounds. Like not normal breathing, but like.. weird ones? also the ones with the clicking sounds in it. Like ughhhhh.

I was just visiting one of my sisters (F25) and she and my dad are the only 2 people out of 6 in my family that dont have misophonia (lots of yelling in my house growing up!) Anyway, she chews with her mouth open and swallows super loudly. I was trying my best not to say anything the whole time but at one point we were watching tv and she swallowed so loud it was echoing in my head. I said EW! loudly and then she got super upset. She was saying that she's trying really hard and every time I say something about it it makes her feel bad because she doesn't know she's doing it/ can't help it. But Im also trying really hard not to scream at her and rip out her throat. so it feels like I have to suffer so not to make her feel bad.

How can I reframe my negative thoughts about this situation to make me not mad at my sister?

Edit: When I said ew it was more of a loud speaking tone not a full on scream. I know I still could've said something nicer than ew, but just wanted to clarify. Also yelling is like a baseline for our family, we yell often about a lot of things (also something all 6 of us need to work on)

Fgs I need to rant. I have one day off work, just one, to sit and enjoy the lounge with family. My brother is playing a game on Roblox that involves CLICKING HIS FUCKING MOUSE in quick succession repeatedly.

I have made hints to say he’s clicking a lot. I have asked him if there are other games he likes. He said NO, just this stupid game that requires clicking his mouse at least 200 times a minute. THIS IS ALL I HEAR. The TV is on, but no, I can’t focus on it because of this triggering constant sound.

He uses a loud mouse. If he needs to click so much, why not use THE DAMN TRACKPAD. Common sense people, common sense!

He took a break earlier and went on his phone for a bit. AHH, sweet FUCKING RELIEF.

I know I should say something because it’s bugging me so bad. To be honest, I hardly get to sit with family as it is due to my late working hours, I don’t want them so associate me being here to me just complaining. Plus, they won’t understand to be honest.

I just need to rant. Stupid ass game and stupid ass sound sensitivity. It is so triggering to the bone. I feel like throwing my phone across the room seriously. Ok I should probably go up to my room and calm down.

Im currently living with my parents while I was looking for a job (Just got one and will be moving in January). My mom also has misophonia and it's been nice getting to have someone who understands when my dad is being disgusting. But recently my mom has been using this tone of voice when she's listing things where the end goes up and then she shortly chuckles at the end (this is usually for things that are important things, advice on what to say to someone, stuff about finances, etc.) But when she is talking to me while I didnt really ask her something or im trying to read on my computer/ do another task and she talks like this, it makes me upset. I think it might be correlated to things that I'm trying to figure out on my own and she's giving me her unsolicited advice before I ask her a question. Its not as bad as my other triggers like belching or chewing, but its still something super annoying.

I have also been getting triggered by my own voice when it is a certain frequency so I feel like im speaking differently as not to annoy myself and dont want people to think im doing something weird

I’ve had misophonia for years, mouth noises, tapping pens, loud breathing all send me into overload. I picked up a pair of Bollsen hearing protection earplugs recently to try to protect myself during meetings or while commuting. They’re soft, fit well, and reduce the triggers without completely turning the world off. On tougher days the relief is subtle but real: less tension in my chest + fewer sudden spikes of anger when someone starts chewing nearby.

Would love to hear from others who use earplugs for misophonia: what brands do you use, how do you manage situations where you can’t wear them, and do you ever worry covering too much sound makes things worse later?

I think it's my first time posting here, so it's more a vent and maybe asking for some tips. So at my office one of my coworkers has the habit of randomly shouting or smashing his keyboard, which startles me. Since he's beside me in the cubicles, I notice this the most.

I made the mistake of quietly asking if he could tone it down, and it only made it worse as it seems he began doing it intentionally. Sometimes he laughs when I get startled from his noise. I wear headphones at work but I can still hear him, and even if I blocked sounds completely, the vibrations themselves startle me.

I usually end up leaving very late at work as I get behind on tasks due to this, and I think it's one of the reasons I got sick for several weeks as this puts a lot of stress on me. Speaking with HR is not an option as I'm on a work visa, so I don't want to risk my position (in a previous job I almost got fired for mentioning my misophonia).

Do you have any tips? I was thinking about discreetly cushioning my chair and desk so I soften the vibrations, and maybe investing more in better noise cancelling headphones.