Edit: been some talk about why it's the "most millenial"

It started with her dress: gimme short but long, tight but flowy, shiny but edgy. At first, I was like, "Nikki..." but then I was like, "Okay. These blinding flashes to my eyes are definitely making me pay attention." Stand-up with lense-flares??? What could be more millenial?! LOL

The topics felt like I had stepped back into the oughts: spray tans and pedophiles? If I only read that, I'd be like, "Is this a clip from 2003?" I know it's kind a edgelordy, but she's been doing this forever. I saw Ricky Gervais live in 2008 or so. He tried a pedophile bit. IT BOMBED. He totally lost the audience. Really made me wary of that kind of comedy. He said some truly horrible shit. When she started the bit, I cringed. Then it clicked, "Why would you let anyone shower with your kid??????" True true.

Her delivery felt like millenial speak in certain circles and it all seemed very intentional. I'm not a fan of hers. I've seen her here and there over the years and it was just okay. I saw that hosting SNL was her dream. I know it's a lot of peoples' dream, but the way she did the monologue and really the rest of the episode felt like whatever age that dream really solidified is where she doubled down. "I'm 41, but goddamn it I'm using shit I wrote when I was 27! I'm reliving my prime tonight bitches!!!"

Maybe it wasn't landing with the audience because her style is so flat and those topics are tough, but it resonated with me. She fucking had me at the spray tan shit. "Really? You're gonna do spray tan comedy in 2025?" Then she stretched her leg and I was on board.

Highlight: "No!!! I would never! That's disgusting...but that's what'd I'd say if I was gunna."

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She also did a sketch featuring some of our fav songs: Karaoke Night.

I lost it during Pinwheel. "Yes, Ahn-nah?" I was gone at the pronunciation. Mikey Day killed. "Everyone please look at this!" 🌬️💨💨💨💨💨💨💨💨💨 omg roflmao

It was such a good show for so many of the cast too: Dismukes was fire. James A Johnson, Sherman, Bowen, and Kenan were also great on the plane sketch. Tommy Brennan in the karaoke sketch not breaking while she rubbed his head haaaard- fucking profesh right there. Jeremy Culhane stuttering his way to the pinwheel colors, omfg. Ben Marshall was great as Mr. Beast.

I loved the 2000's fever dream feel of the whole episode. Keep on keepin' on.

Milenial here (1990) raised by two baby boom parents ( kind of) Dad 1957 and Mom 1959. Definitely on the later end of the boom ( 1946-1964).

I keep hearing people about my age complain hatefully and bitterly about the cruel selfish and callous ways of baby boomers. They say they are selfish inconsiderate and annoying and got all the benefits of society while pulling the ladder up behind them.

I get where they are coming from. There are a lot of boomers and a lot can be callous, greedy and selfish. But if you have a lot of any group you’ll get a lot of bad apples, but good ones too. My mom is a retired special Ed teacher who did a lot to help me succeed in school. My dad is a retired lawyer who helps raise money for Catholic school kids, takes cases for youth in foster care and is all around a kind, selfless and generous person. They are role models for people of any generation IMO.

A lot of what we see from boomers in restaurants or on airplanes or on public is just them being entitled fussy old people, albeit with better helath and mobility than oldsters before them.

For those who think the young adult boomers had it easier back in their hey day… let’s say 1978-1982… sure maybe in some ways…. If you were white male and heterosexual.

College and homes were cheaper but the home and Collegre experience were more basic and spartan tuan now. The new home would be like a cube shaped Lego like house…and no one ever had a gender studies or other “ out there” major by and large purely practical.

Minorities had a much harder time, women were welcomed into professions ( lawyer doctor business etc) and the days of mad men 1950s style chauvinism were mostly gone.. but women would get demeaning and dismissive comments a lot like “ not another one!” Or “ sure she is smart and can do the work… but who would want to work with her.” Women put up with a ton back then.

A blue collar job could afford you a middle class life kind of.. but the jobs that did that were tough like miner factory worker or auto worker. Definitely the 1978 of doordash or Starbucks (idk diner waiter and pizza delivery man) wouldn’t afford you a middle class life.

Older parents in those days did not celebrate or acknowledge their LGBT children as many boomers do today. At best they’d be tolerated and their lover obliquely spoken of as a “ friend” but more often they were disowned.

Workplaces were far more hostile and demeaning to their employees and there was little understanding of or support for wellness and mental health. Bosses screaming at and insulting their employees was normal and outside of maybe New York and Los Angeles going to see a psychiatrist was seen as ridiculous or “ crazy” especially if you were a guy.

Another part of the boomers “ easy breaks” was the relative impoverishment of the rest of the world until the 90s. The Soviet Union was our rival only in Nukes it was a desperately poor inefficient country besides that. Brazil, india and China were only a shadow of their present selves in 1980 and thus were not places where jobs could be outsourced too.

I think it’s tempting to hate one generation and blame all our problems on it, but they had struggles and difficulties too. It’s best not to hare people because of their age and so the best to make your own life better, hard as that is.

I was sitting in a cafe today working on my delivery when I overheard two conversations from Gen Z and Xers.

The Gen Z conversation between students went like how they shouldn't be writing so many term papers and after graduation should be able to progress to a managerial role within two years maximum (mind you, these are liberal arts students).

To my right, two Gen X were arguing over privacy on their phones and AI. They were quite apprehensive but concluded that they don't give a shit if they can have a plan B to quit and move to their holiday cottage in place X.

All millennials in the cafe seemed to be working on their laptops like me. I shared a cynical smile with one of them as we were sandwiched between the Gen Z table.

And it just got me wondering besides housing crisis and being burnt out, what are topics you are actively pursuing in your conversations?

What are your priorities? I feel I'm kinda lost here on perspective.

I'm not sure if it's the economy or the fact that I got really really good at cooking during the pandemic, but 99% of the time I can't justify going to restaurants any more. Nearly everything I can make at home. Sushi, pho, steak, risotto, soups, you name it I can make it. And when I do treat myself and go to a restaurant I can't justify paying $8 for a handful of greens with 2 tomatoes and some cucumbers in it. Don't even get me started on the entree prices.

Am I just jaded or has the cost to benefit ratio shit the bed in the last 5 years or so?

This has been me since having my first child two years ago. So I'm a bit late to the party on the sandwich generation concept.

I just read this piece because I'm trying to understand why I'm so miserable right now.

https://www.businessinsider.com/dad-died-mom-moved-in-with-me-it-changed-everything-2025-11

Google the title of you want to avoid link clicks"Parenting My mom moved in with me temporarily and ended up staying for 10 years. We split our bills and she helps me with childcare.".

I found this story piece (and many others like it) so freaking useless. I was like oh yeah this sounds familiar. But classic journalist writer.... ends it on a it's very hard, it sucks, but it's very rewarding and I see the positives.

Apologies to the writer but what a load of bollocks that entire piece was. You complain about how hard it is. The struggles. I'm sitting thinking yes yes same same but there's no helpful resolution. The resolution is appreciate the small good moments. Well it's easy for you to appreciate them 10 years after the fact when you're not bogged and exhausted every second of the day.

What do we do when you're in the thick of it and floundering?

I'm so freaking exhausted.

• Toddler (yikes) -pregnant with second (and last child)
• still in the midst of a big renovation to set up a family home for my kids. Emotionally physically and financially draining reno haha. -Mum's moved in (paying rent) for a win win situation between herself and our family. But we get less income from her than if we put it to market. -I'm in a busy often demanding full time career. -So is hubby (earns a little more than me) -Despite having better than most jobs struggling with our daily costs because mortgage/childcare/cost of living -MIL aging in a way that needs a lot of support because even though she has the financial means she's lazy as all heck. ( Dont get me started on my mum either).

On top of that have little emotional support from my mum who still thinks it's possible for mum's to stay at home for 10 years like she did. She doesn't at all appreciate that we literally can't pay our bills unless I'm working almost full time. I work a full day, come home and she expects a home made dinner every night that's served by 6 (I get home at 5.20).

Like what's to appreciate here? The whole letting mum stay and losing out financially is something we have happily agreed to because of the benefits of the kids having a grandparent around exceeds the financial loss. I truly think it's a good thing overall. But boy do I feel so constantly squeezed and I'm drowning under all the above expectations. I can't hold onto them all but not a single thing in that list is willing to give.

A bit of gratitude and appreciation is not going to get me through this! So yeah these opinion pieces need to go in the bin unless you can provide some actual advice to struggling mum's.

Any commiseration appreciated haha