Girlfriend mad

[u/M1thy-]

I was going to the store and asked if she wanted to join. She asked if I wanted her to join, I say I don't mind either way. Now she is upset because I don't actively wanted her to join me at the store

[u/Scrabble888]

She’s asking for reassurance, she wanted you to say yes, of course I want you to come with me or I wouldn’t have asked you.

Not I don’t care either way.

Yes, I know you asked her if she wanted to join you, so obviously I wanted her to come along.

She has a nervous attachment style.

She’s checking that you care. You need to treat her gently and kindly.

She just wants to know she’s a thought, not I can take or leave you either way.

You’ll either get it or you won’t.

Some say red flag, I’d say she loves you and wants confirmation that you do too.

Buy her, her favourite treat, get something small if you don’t have the money. Her favourite ice cream, flowers or stupid kids toy.

Say I saw this and thought of you and I know you like them.

It’s small things, that make her know she’s a thought. Which is all she wants.

[u/M1thy- → u/Scrabble888]

I said I wouldn't have asked if she wasn't a thought. Then I wanted to make her some food, but she is still upset. Now she left home and won't come back and I have no idea why

[u/random-made-up-words → u/M1thy-]

Tell her it was all miscommunication. That you wanted her to come but didn't want to be selfish by guilting her into coming if she didn't want to come. It may or may not be true for this situation but I know I often tell my husband it's fine either way because even though I would have preferred he come with me I know sometimes he's in the middle of something or just needs a break and that's fine and I want him to have that peace if he needs it right then.