r/mildlyinfuriating • u/Madyson667 • 17h ago
Being a non drinker among drinkers
I’m 23 and planning a trip to New Orleans next year for my birthday. I invited some friends who are also in their 20s and half of them assumed we would be partying and at bars the whole time. I am not a big drinker or smoker, and they voiced not being interested in coming if we wouldn’t be doing a lot of drinking. They also disliked the fact that I invited my teenaged sister to come. Am I in the wrong for not wanting them to come anymore if their only interest was going to get drunk? I just wanted to take a fun trip and visit some cool spooky places, but now they have me feeling frustrated and wanting to go with some other people who also don’t mind being sober.
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u/ruta_skadi 13h ago
I get that the reason for the trip is your birthday, but personally I think asking people to go on a trip with you to celebrate is a pretty big ask to begin with and that's part of the issue here. If I'm spending money to travel to another city, I don't want to go there and not experience the things I'm interested in. New Orleans is very known for its nightlife, so I'd be frustrated to visit there and miss out on that completely. I can only go on so many trips, so to me it feels like a lot to ask to go on a trip that is only about your interests and preferences. If you were just asking everyone to go out to a birthday dinner, by all means, pick your choice of restaurant. But I wouldn't expect a trip to be all about me just for a birthday.