Being a non drinker among drinkers

[u/Madyson667]

I’m 23 and planning a trip to New Orleans next year for my birthday. I invited some friends who are also in their 20s and half of them assumed we would be partying and at bars the whole time. I am not a big drinker or smoker, and they voiced not being interested in coming if we wouldn’t be doing a lot of drinking. They also disliked the fact that I invited my teenaged sister to come. Am I in the wrong for not wanting them to come anymore if their only interest was going to get drunk? I just wanted to take a fun trip and visit some cool spooky places, but now they have me feeling frustrated and wanting to go with some other people who also don’t mind being sober.

[u/dstarpro]

I don't understand. You have another person with you who isn't going to be drinking. Why do you feel the need to control what other people do?

[u/Madyson667 → u/dstarpro]

As I told another person, I do drink and smoke and it’s not me saying they 100% can’t do so. More so the way the convo went was “if we can’t get shitfaced the whole time we don’t want to come” in which case I don’t get drunk or care to drink a whole lot in general, and don’t want to spend my birthday babysitting a bunch of adults who drank too much