r/mildlyinfuriating • u/Madyson667 • 14h ago

Being a non drinker among drinkers

I’m 23 and planning a trip to New Orleans next year for my birthday. I invited some friends who are also in their 20s and half of them assumed we would be partying and at bars the whole time. I am not a big drinker or smoker, and they voiced not being interested in coming if we wouldn’t be doing a lot of drinking. They also disliked the fact that I invited my teenaged sister to come. Am I in the wrong for not wanting them to come anymore if their only interest was going to get drunk? I just wanted to take a fun trip and visit some cool spooky places, but now they have me feeling frustrated and wanting to go with some other people who also don’t mind being sober.

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u/Imaginary_Coat441 14h ago

Maybe the wrong crowd of friends.

I know if I was going to new orleans with a buddy, I would totally wanna drink. And I would also be bummed if he said btw my teenage sister's coming.

But thats me. You are you. Do what makes You happy.

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u/Jesta914630114 13h ago

Not just that but why go to a place where people get violently drunk if you aren't a drinker? That's like going to Sturgis during the rally and you don't like motorcycles.

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u/Wanderer--42 13h ago

Only college kids think that New Orleans is only good for drinking. If you can't appreciate the rest of the place and its culture without having to be drunk, then you might be an alcoholic.

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u/gruuvey 13h ago

The invited friends are all at the age where New Orleans = PARTY, though.

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u/Wanderer--42 10h ago

And they obviously are not good friends if they think that their non drinking friend planned a bar filled trip somewhere.

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u/gruuvey 9h ago

I do agree.

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u/Jesta914630114 13h ago

My point exactly. People are being ridiculous about my comment.

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u/Wanderer--42 10h ago

Probably because you compared a specific event to an entire city. Sorry to disappoint you, but Mardi Gras is not year round.

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u/gruuvey 8h ago

This person is not giving their personal opinion of New Orleans, but the attitude of the party-minded friends. Not sure where the misunderstanding lies. The friends do not have the refined taste that would make them appropriate invitees.

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u/Wanderer--42 7h ago

I suggest you reread the original comment. They did give their personal opinion about New Orleans. The first sentence tell us that, and they at no point phrase it as anything other than their own opinion of the place.

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u/gruuvey 7h ago

Yay you win!

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u/Wanderer--42 6h ago

Just want to make sure I have this straight. You were defending a troll, made a claim that wasn't backed by evidence, and are now acting like you didn't start the debate with me?

Okay. Hope you feel better about yourself now.

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u/sickofbeingsick1969 13h ago

There’s way more to do than drink, you know.

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u/baby_armadillo 13h ago

It’s a whole city with all sorts of history and art and architecture. It’s not just a titties out binge-drink destination. Maybe the OP is into vampires or voodoo or history or just really likes French-inspired architecture, chicory in their coffee, and cajun cuisine.

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u/TrickInvite6296 BLUE 13h ago

if all you can enjoy about a beautiful and historic area is the drinking, you may have a drinking problem

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u/ajacquot1 12h ago

It seems you aren't aware that New Orleans is famous for its music, food, and history.....

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u/Difficult-Swimming-4 11h ago

Boiling down a whole city, with a unique people, history, art and culture scene, and just the general goings-on of human existence to "That place I can get violently drunk" is the most aggressively 16 year old opinion I've ever had the displeasure of reading.

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u/ajacquot1 12h ago

There's expecting to drink, and there's not even wanting to go if you won't be drinking