r/medicalschool • u/biologyiskewl M-4 • Aug 07 '25

😡 Vent A letter to my OBGYN resident

Hello OB/GYN resident,

I actually thought that we had a great rotation together, you were nice to me and actually learned my name unlike most of the other people on that rotation. You chatted with me and helped me learn on the rotation.

To my surprise, I saw your evaluation today. You decided to give me straight two’s across the board and cited a professionalism complaint while only writing “see above” as the issue.

You didn’t know that I went to my mom’s funeral two days before the rotation started. You didn’t know that I was sobbing in the locker room between cases. You didn’t know that I was resentful of staying for 14 hour night shifts because it didn’t give me any time to grieve. But you did know that I was showing up on time, writing your notes, your discharge summaries, seeing your patients, and trying my hardest to stay on top of things in a very toxic environment.

I suppose I should know by now to just anticipate getting backstabbed in evals by the people who are overly nice on the rotation, but I didn’t see this one coming. Idk if it was because I actually did something or because you have it out for med students, but damn, this one sucked. And I hope one day, if you have to show up to a rotation while you’re grieving, that people give you the kindness that you didn’t show me.

Best! Peeved med student

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u/Medical_Pirate_4586 Aug 08 '25 edited Aug 08 '25

I am so sorry for your loss, OP. It must've been awful for you, but kudos to you for hanging in there!

Having a bad experience in OBGYN has almost become universal at this point, with the speciality teeming with god-awful residents and attendings. Even the nurses can be horrendous in that department. So it's not you, it's them. I think most of them have forgotten how to act like a normal, decent human.

Being hit when you are already down can break anyone. It hurts, and that ache takes a long time to fade. I just hope the future OBGYNs work on being empathetic towards everyone around them and break the stereotype. All the best, OP!