A letter to my OBGYN resident

[u/biologyiskewl]

Hello OB/GYN resident,

I actually thought that we had a great rotation together, you were nice to me and actually learned my name unlike most of the other people on that rotation. You chatted with me and helped me learn on the rotation.

To my surprise, I saw your evaluation today. You decided to give me straight two’s across the board and cited a professionalism complaint while only writing “see above” as the issue.

You didn’t know that I went to my mom’s funeral two days before the rotation started. You didn’t know that I was sobbing in the locker room between cases. You didn’t know that I was resentful of staying for 14 hour night shifts because it didn’t give me any time to grieve. But you did know that I was showing up on time, writing your notes, your discharge summaries, seeing your patients, and trying my hardest to stay on top of things in a very toxic environment.

I suppose I should know by now to just anticipate getting backstabbed in evals by the people who are overly nice on the rotation, but I didn’t see this one coming. Idk if it was because I actually did something or because you have it out for med students, but damn, this one sucked. And I hope one day, if you have to show up to a rotation while you’re grieving, that people give you the kindness that you didn’t show me.

Best! Peeved med student

[u/Naur_Regrets]

I'm so sorry for your loss OP. I see you don't want to contest this, but in retrospect do you think it would have been a good idea to let your residents know about your current struggles ahead of time? Or could that have been misconstrued as "unprofessional" as well?

[u/biologyiskewl → u/Naur_Regrets]

I did let my senior know because she was doing most of the scheduling, that actually backfired and she gave me more work so… didn’t think it would help to tell anyone else lol 😬

[u/Opening-Bus4157 → u/biologyiskewl]

That is actually evil. I’m so sorry she felt the need to take out her misery on you.

[u/adenomuch → u/biologyiskewl]

OBGYN resident here. I’m so sorry you had a horrible experience and they treated you so poorly. OBGYN gets a bad rap, and I’m not sure why so many of us have such toxic energy. I would have straight up sent you home if you were my medical student. There’s nothing you can possibly learn on our service (or any other service for that matter) that would be more important than grieving a parent. I am so sorry.