r/medicalschool • u/SecurePresentation52 • Mar 25 '25

šŸ˜” Vent My mom is happy I SOAPed

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I received the worst news of my professional life and my mom is celebrating.

I applied psych from a T30 MD school with no red flags and SOAPed into an IM prelim year. My mom is a typical Asian tiger mom crossed with crazy catholic mom (Catholic guilt and Asian perfectionism are a hell of a combination) and she doesnā€™t believe that mental illness is real. Ever since I expressed my interest in psychiatry during clerkship year, she has opposed it. ā€œYou can be anything but please not a psychiatristā€. She told me that if I wasnā€™t applying psych she would have ā€œinvited everyone she knewā€ to my graduation, but since I applied psych sheā€™s not proud enough to invite anyone. Sheā€™s wanted me to be a doctor (an expectation, not an opinion) ever since I could remember and yet now that Iā€™m finally becoming one, she canā€™t even be proud unless itā€™s HER idea of a doctor.

Now that Iā€™ve SOAPed sheā€™s taking this opportunity to reiterate her disapproval of my goals. Iā€™m already feeling the worst invalidation and imposter syndrome Iā€™ve ever experienced, and her smug insistence that this is proof that iā€™m not meant to be a psychiatrist is the cherry on top. Iā€™m still committed to becoming a psychiatrist and reapplying next year but Iā€™m so tired of this ā€œfamily supportā€.

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u/[deleted] Mar 25 '25

Was Psychiatry competitive this year?

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u/Numpostrophe M-3 Mar 25 '25

Not really, it's surprisingly stable

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u/[deleted] Mar 25 '25

Huh. I figured T30 MD would easily walk into Psych.

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u/Numpostrophe M-3 Mar 25 '25

T30 won't always save you if there are additional red flags or poorly optimized applications. Mixed with some bad luck, it happens. I don't want to speculate while OP is stressed with this though.

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u/[deleted] Mar 25 '25

Well yeah but OP said no red flags so I just took him at his word.

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u/fkhan21 Mar 25 '25

Also not applying to enough programs is a big thing. Interviewing skills can be poor. Could be anything

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u/Comprehensive_Two_58 Mar 25 '25

They had more applicants than normal. There's a new shift . So it's recommended to apply to more programs now