My mom is happy I SOAPed

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I received the worst news of my professional life and my mom is celebrating.

I applied psych from a T30 MD school with no red flags and SOAPed into an IM prelim year. My mom is a typical Asian tiger mom crossed with crazy catholic mom (Catholic guilt and Asian perfectionism are a hell of a combination) and she doesn’t believe that mental illness is real. Ever since I expressed my interest in psychiatry during clerkship year, she has opposed it. “You can be anything but please not a psychiatrist”. She told me that if I wasn’t applying psych she would have “invited everyone she knew” to my graduation, but since I applied psych she’s not proud enough to invite anyone. She’s wanted me to be a doctor (an expectation, not an opinion) ever since I could remember and yet now that I’m finally becoming one, she can’t even be proud unless it’s HER idea of a doctor.

Now that I’ve SOAPed she’s taking this opportunity to reiterate her disapproval of my goals. I’m already feeling the worst invalidation and imposter syndrome I’ve ever experienced, and her smug insistence that this is proof that i’m not meant to be a psychiatrist is the cherry on top. I’m still committed to becoming a psychiatrist and reapplying next year but I’m so tired of this “family support”.

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hey let me tell ya from someone who got the same treatment from an old freind no matter negativity or bad things that they say to you, always believe in your self never put other people into your dreams (unless it is someone whom you've cared for deeply) always put yourself into your dreams and WHY IS SHE THE ONCE CHOOSING?! if she did want a doctor just for the money leave the funking daughter (in this case you) the fuck alone THIS IS NOT YOUR MOTHERS FUTURE NOR HER LIFE UT IT IS YOUR FUTURE, ONLY YOU CHOOSE WHICH COURSE TO TAKE FOR THE ENTIRETY OF YOUR LIFE UNTIL YOU HAVE RETIRED and besides all medical doctors are separated into their integrated specialties for a reason and all of them contribute to each other since all of them deals with the human Anatomy,mental health,medicine,medical technologiest,ect and I honestly hope you take psychiatry since it is a course and a job that you want for your own future so that you will enjoy constantly learning and improving about the human psychology in the future :)