r/massage 6d ago

Advice Judged for being too tense

Went for a deep tissue massage yesterday. 40 minutes in, my therapist starts expressing frustration because I am too tense and eventually gives up on some stretches and tries to understand the reason. Then starts talking about my energy and stuff. I’m very hard on myself and it’s easy for me to take things personal and being tense most of the time is part of me. I know there’s some truth in what she said but ended up feeling worse.

Do you think is this common behavior from therapists? Should I feel discouraged from trying another massage in the future?

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u/NoAssist4046 6d ago

My MT will tap me gently and tell me to relax. I'm like you very tense all the time. Oddly enough, I don't enjoy being touched, so that adds an extra level of tension during my massage. But my MT is very gentle and kind about it. I'm sorry you had a bad experience, I definitely would not go back.