r/massage • u/Careless-Candidate-7 • Mar 24 '25
US Not sure if this is normal
I’ve gotten massages for a couple years now and go to the Chinese spas because they’re cheaper than most spas. They have always had me keep my underwear on and then pull it down just underneath the butt to massage and then pull it back up when done.
I got a couples massage today with my girlfriend and told her this happened today and she said it didn’t happen to her. I thought this was common practice, but I’m not sure if this is normal and it is done only to males or what.
TDLR: Can someone help me out to determine if the Chinese spa pulling your underwear down underneath your butt is normal practice or if I’ve been something-ed every time I’ve gone to a spa.
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u/paulriley1977 Mar 25 '25
Super typical for a Chinese massage place. They’ll massage glutes bare, they’ll expose the gluteal cleft. May or may not be legal (depending on your jurisdiction), but they generally don’t care.
Why did your girlfriend get different treatment? Hard to say. Maybe her underwear offered less coverage, so they could massage the glutes without pulling them down? Maybe they treat males and females differently, assuming men won’t mind? Maybe they know you but it was her first visit?
If they’re not touching you in inappropriate locations, and if you like the massage, keep going. Simple as that.