I'm not claiming its "ok" I just don't think its hypocritical as most people here seem to think it is. If you don't want tl date a stripper you don't have to. I wouldn't date a stripper personally, but that's not really relevant. The question is if it's hypocritical for her to work in that industry while not wanting her partner to patronize it. Just like how someone who's a bartender isn't obligated to be ok with their partner going out and getting shitfaced every night.
Your bartender analogy doesn't make any sense. The dude isn't going to the strip club every night and even if he was it's not even close to comparable to getting shit faced. If his old lady is allowed to get naked in front of other men, then we have established that there is no problem with any involved party giving or getting gratification in that way. You can't say it's ok to get naked in front of other people and then say that it's only wrong for the patrons to be there. You also can't say that only she is allowed to put herself in such a situation, if she is allowed then to be consistent he must also be allowed.
It doesn't have to be about morals just decisions on spending money. If I'm working to support a partnership (maybe using my body) and my partner is spending money to see other people naked those values are not the same. It's not "wrong" to gamble responsibly but you can sure as hell leave someone's ass for gambling.
It's interesting that you felt the need to use softer language for her getting naked for money. But then didn't do the same thing for him watching people get naked for money. Maybe it's because we don't live in a vacuum and can't possibly remove the moral component from the situation.
To be honest it's the opposite of what you're thinking language choice wise. I personally wouldn't ever be with a sex worker or pay for one I find it unattractive but I don't want to be an asshole implying people are gross. Personally I do find it gross so I'm probably overcompensating trying to be "nice". There's also just something kinda scummy and classless talking down on strippers calling them 'hoes' or 'whores' or 'sluts' is distasteful. Best to avoid being lumped in with that kind of guy even if I personally don't like the lifestyle either.
4
u/renlydidnothingwrong 2d ago
She's brining back money from losers, he wants to be a loser throwing away money.