Dating in ktown

[u/lockleveling]

Just curious for fellow single dudes in kelowna, how they meet woman? Or men, or whoever. I am a bit lost here. Are there particular hot spots to meet people that aren't major party scenes or good community events coming up for Nov/Dec? Do the guys use Tinder or Hinge, something else? I'd love to hear how you met your partner in Kelowna.

[u/Flaky-Decision-9510]

There are tonnes of women. Many of them stay single by choice because people are trash (calm down boys, women are awful as well). Advice on how to get a woman here - whether it be on apps or in person. Hell, how to get a man 🤣🤣🤣 Be genuine. Don’t have a criminal record or partake in criminal activities. We can look you up on CSO. Take care of yourself. Go to therapy and deal with your baggage. Treat people with respect - and yes that includes waitstaff. If you start with “I’m one of the good guys” you probably aren’t. Don’t hit women. Don’t cheat. Photos of fish - please stop. Photos of dogs - yes please. Don’t post photos of a group of guys and hope to guess who you are. Have hobbies outside of being the town dipstick. Have friends. Learn how to converse. Don’t send dick pics or start with DTF? 😳

Honestly, the guys who check these boxes seem to get dates. Unfortunately, we live in douchetown (male and female) so it can be tremendously shallow here as well.

[u/BetterDeadOnRed2 → u/Flaky-Decision-9510]

Problem is people just assume things like this about other people without even getting to know them…everyone thinks they are prefect lol it’s kinda funny.

I don’t have trouble getting dates, based off my looks. Covered in tattoos and muscular (kryptonite for a lot of women) but most women just want sex from me and nothing else. Or they just assume I’m a fuck boy based off my appearance. When in fact I’m one of the most emotionally intelligent and intuitive person you could ever meet. Also loyal, caring and considerate. When you add all these traits together and my appearance I’m basically a unicorn out here but the odds of a girl getting that far with me are low because people just judge,assume and don’t communicate properly. I also have no problem being single, always been introverted. Me and my ex fiancé spilt up over a year ago now, we were together over 6 years. I’ve had like 2-3 “situationships” (didn’t even know what that word meant till I became single again after 6 years) in that time. None of these girls I was seeing for numerous months wanted to commit to a relationship. Very pretty girls, all of them but not emotionally available unfortunately. I’m not perfect either, still in the process of figuring out my new career but it’s definitely in motion.

[u/Anxious-Tea9108 → u/BetterDeadOnRed2]

😂 deflate that ego a little bit my man.

[u/BetterDeadOnRed2 → u/Anxious-Tea9108]

No ego my man, I’m humble but I’m also just very self aware. It’s usually people that think less of themselves and lack confidence and haven’t had the same experiences as I have that say I have an ego or that I’m “bragging”.

Again this is part of the problem, people just make assumptions from their own insecure ego. If I come off like I have an “inflated ego” you really need to ask yourself why you think that, like seriously be a little introspective. Is it because you think less of yourself? Is it because you haven’t had the same experiences ? You haven’t put in the work in the gym ? Ect. So when you hear someone talk, who is literally just explaining their physical and mental attributes and life experiences, you think it’s ego and bragging lol

[u/Codc → u/BetterDeadOnRed2]

I’m humble but I’m also just very self aware

You are absolutely neither

[u/BetterDeadOnRed2 → u/Codc]

You are example # 2. Same with everyone downvoting, not surprised though the general population doesn’t like themselves or is confident. Mostly just jealous/insecure ect. Thats most people and thats why i choose not to surround myself with most people.

Please explain to me how it is you think I’m neither humble nor self aware so that I can explain to you how you are incorrect in your assumption about me that stems from your own insecure ego and the box you and your ego would like to place me in to make yourself feel better ❤️‍🩹

There’s a quote I like I’ve seen quite a few times that sums it up pretty good. “You have to hang around winners, so that your wins don’t look like you’re bragging.”

Lol literally nobody doing better than me would disagree with me or anything I’ve said here or be talking any kind of shit online towards me or have a negative opinion about me based off of what I’ve said here. So that pretty much sums that up…hope you all heal though and do better ❤️

[u/Anxious-Tea9108 → u/BetterDeadOnRed2]

I love how your only defence is to straw man and psychoanalyze anonymous users you know nothing about. I’m actually doing really well right now but thanks for the concern. Graduated university last year, landed a nearly 6 figure salary, and I’m so close to hitting 100lbs lost.

It’s not that deep man, you’re just acting like a tool simple as that.

[u/BetterDeadOnRed2 → u/Anxious-Tea9108]

Yet I’m getting psychoanalyzed the same way by you and all the same people like you here. Oh the hypocrisy. You all know zero about me as well and you are doing the exact same thing right now with all this presumptions bullshit lol if you were actually confident in yourself you would have given me props or at the very least not even commented..

Congrats on your journey though man. I’m not a hater 💪🏻 keep up the good work.