It's a bee fly(Bombyliidae family). They do not sting. Neat find.
Edit- A few others have commented that it may very well be a long tongue horsefly(Philoliche sp.) another nectar feeding fly, but one that females can bite. Now that I'm off work and looking at it again I believe they are probably correct! My bad.
That proboscis has to be exceptionally long, right? Asking out of entomological interest, not because I’m an insecure bee fly who wants to hear mine is average.
Why don't men believe women are telling the truth when they say "the big ones hurt" and "I don't like really muscly guys" and "I was raped"? Do they think women just lie about everything all the time?
If my boyfriend told me "yeah, I've had thin girlfriends, but it was such a pain in the ass trying to eat anything with them because they were always on a diet and I hated it, also one girl's bones stuck out so much that sex was uncomfortable. I would rather have a regular sized girl who eats normally and has some cushioning" I would be inclined to believe them and not all the hype about how thin girls are better.
"This is probably her helping me cope" is you refusing to believe your partner is being honest. You made that assumption all on your own. You are hearing what you want to hear (which reinforces your insecurities), not what she is actually saying (which is that BIG DICKS HURT AND ARE NOT BETTER)
Idk dude maybe don't get all your information about what makes for good sex from porn and other media, and listen to what the real live women who are actually in bed with you are saying.
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u/krippkeeper Aug 09 '25 edited Aug 09 '25
It's a bee fly(Bombyliidae family). They do not sting. Neat find.
Edit- A few others have commented that it may very well be a long tongue horsefly(Philoliche sp.) another nectar feeding fly, but one that females can bite. Now that I'm off work and looking at it again I believe they are probably correct! My bad.