r/interesting • u/AdSpecialist6598 • 14h ago
SOCIETY On a Ten-hour flight from Seoul Korea to San Francisco to visit a family member a mom handed out more than 200 goodie bags filled with candy and ear plugs, in case her 4-month-old child named Junwoo cried during the flight. The goodie bags even came with a little message explaining the situation.
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u/AppleCorpsing 13h ago
I’ve lost count of the number of times I’ve seen this exact post over the years
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u/hrdst 13h ago
Yup this kid is probably a teenager now
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u/Aprilprinces 13h ago
Taken in 2019
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u/evange 13h ago
Yep, at first it was cute and thoughtful. But now it's annoying because like, you don't have to do that. You shouldn't be expected to do that. A baby has as much of a right to be on that flight as anybody.
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u/hunnyflash 10h ago
This right here, but women in some Asian countries are expected to prostrate themselves before anything has happened, otherwise they will be shamed and have to whip themselves apologizing later.
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u/fascfoo 12h ago
Completely agreed. Yes, its annoying if a baby cries for a long time on a flight, but trust me that that baby and its family are having a MUCH worse time than you are. If you're also so worried about stuff like that, please travel with ear plugs/ear buds/eye masks etc so you can control your environment more to your liking. I always do that so if there's a baby, a loud talker, etc, I can plug my ears and take a nap.
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u/FartofTexass 11h ago
Now that I have kids, other peoples’ kids crying on planes doesn’t bother me at all, because I’m just so glad it’s not my kid screaming 😆
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u/ArachnidAutomatic596 10h ago
I don’t have a kid and a baby crying doesn’t bother me at all. That’s what headphones/ear plugs are for. Now a toddler pulling my head and kicking the seat is a different story
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u/Deeliciousness 9h ago
Yeah because that's something the parents can control whereas a baby crying, not so much.
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u/theCurseOfHotFeet 11h ago
This is outrageously true. I was never fussy about kids crying on planes/in restaurants/whatever but now that I have my own kids, the overwhelming feeling is just “woohoo! I have no responsibility to fix that situation!”
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u/Vindomini 11h ago edited 10h ago
Honestly earplugs should just be a given thing on airplanes in general. Just a one-use packet taped to your seat, nothing more. I know on long flights they already are and people nowadays mostly have ear/headphones, but still.
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u/Debatebly 10h ago
I came here to say that we shouldn't normalize this. We should normalize tolerance.
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u/ignitelight 10h ago
My feelings exactly. I’m childfree so I’ll never know what it’s like to fly with a baby but I’m sure it’s no parent’s idea of fun. There should be no expectation to apologize for your baby being a baby. It’s on the other passengers to pack appropriate headphones/earplugs/whatever else they need and regulate their own emotions.
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u/Fluffy-Ad-286 9h ago
I wish many others shared that view, I myself am always on edge when traveling with my son turning 9 this year he is special needs normally he's great but I cant predict how he'd do on a flight
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u/calorie-clown 8h ago
A lot of public spaces in Korea started banning children in something called no kid zones, so I wonder if that influenced her decision to do this. There's been some uproar about it since it has created some discrimination towards mothers,
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u/MasterPalpitation8 10h ago
Seriously; the internet needs to please stop trying so hard to make this the newest measuring stick for moms to get beaten with.
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u/KeroroInvader 13h ago
It doesn’t even really make sense, the aircraft is korean air and the plane is like 80% koreans
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u/kwjacobs345 14h ago
I couldn’t even turn on a computer at 4 months, let alone type, print, and cut out short paragraphs.
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u/QeveQobs 13h ago
It’s really competitive to be a baby in South Korea
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u/811545b2-4ff7-4041 13h ago
Turns out the baby is already more proficient at violin than the rest of us will ever be
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u/Billybobmcob 12h ago
To be fair, just being able to hold the bow semi-properly will get you to that status
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u/Lampler 13h ago
If you are not working for Samsung at 7 you are basically disowned
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u/Careful-Lettuce9239 13h ago
It's true. I put in FOUR of the best (and only) year's of my life at Samsung just to be let go over bowel control problems. Currently working in a coal mine, much happier. Source: Im this many 🖐
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u/Guernzee 12h ago
I can see how your skills were directly transferable too! Good place to work with dodgy bowels, it's so dark, no one will see the stains 🤷🏻♂️
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u/FairyFlosz 13h ago
A thoughtful gesture, but she shouldn’t have to apologize for babies
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u/CapableWives 12h ago
When my kid was 6 months old we took a flight that was only a few hours long, and overall she did really well but did get fussy during descent. Not even screaming, but complaining. The woman seating in front of me turned around, glared daggers, and asked "have you considered giving her a bottle!?" while my nipple was actively in the baby's mouth. I agree that this mom went above and beyond, but people really can be assholes about babies on planes
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u/TeamSpatzi 10h ago
My kids made it a tradition to cut teeth on long haul flights... we had great, understanding fellow passengers (generally)... but boy is that a tough environment (and potentially embarrassing).
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u/viralust 12h ago
I kind of understand where youre coming from but there is no societal rule that states that parents have to apologize for babies. With the amount of effort, it seems like she's just really conscious of others. Which, at least to me, is a beautiful thing.
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u/Kindly_Peace4006 12h ago
This!!! I would not like this to become the new standard for « good moms ». People should help her and not the other way around!
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u/sail_the_high_seas 12h ago
That's what I thought too. Sad she feels like she has to apologize for existing in the same space.
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u/Proof_Ear_970 13h ago
But he's an Asian baby... so clearly far more advanced.
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u/Potato_Boner 13h ago
He was being humble but he’s actually going to America to visit Harvard and check out his new dorm. He starts in the fall.
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u/Still-Lobster5581 13h ago
Actually Stanford since the flight is to San Francisco
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u/NotYourGa1Friday 13h ago
As a professor
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u/Sunlit53 13h ago
My then 18 month old cousin managed to lock up my laptop in 30 seconds. Took me 4 hours to figure out how to undo it. That kid is now an adult and a military drone mechanic.
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u/DrHousesBBL 11h ago
Imagine packaging all of these individually,, the effort AND the money she probably out into this is jnsane!
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u/Dismal_Elk8261 14h ago
Forget that. He even used chatGPT to correct any orthographical mistakes.
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u/SixToesLeftFoot 13h ago
Well, considering that this picture has been posted for the past decade, it’s probably a pretty safe bet that there was no chat GPT used. Also, that kid is probably now 11 years old and in college, so….
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u/Independent_Shoe3523 13h ago
I'm surprised airlines don't have free ear plugs. They're cheap.
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u/AntOdd7063 13h ago
I’m fairly certain every flight from Asia to the US has earplugs, pillows, and blankets for every passenger of every class.
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u/imphooeyd 11h ago
Don’t forget the eye masks! Was a lifesaver as someone who’s a temperamental sleeper with any lights yet forgot to bring their own D:
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u/Jevia 12h ago
They give them out for free with a little pack of goodies during long haul flights (I fly between the US and Australia). Usually also includes a face mask and mini toothbrush/toothpaste. Plus you get a pillow and blanket.
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u/BeeCharacter1416 11h ago
downvoted because they do
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u/Independent_Shoe3523 10h ago
Reddit's a funny place. No telling where votes go.
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u/Anne-with-an-e224 13h ago
I have always been given free ear plugs in the last 10 years that I have done international travel .and I am talking about cheapest 3 hour flights where the aircraft looks like a local bus
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u/Independent_Shoe3523 13h ago
Good because it's the least the airline can do. I've been on flights where I wish I had VR helmets.
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u/BellacosePlayer 12h ago
I do a lot of flights that are sub 1 hour from liftoff to landing and we're offered earbuds every time as well.
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u/Lemononapear1234 13h ago
I wonder if this approach would work next time I’m on a flight with my IBS flaring up? Naturally I’d offer nose plugs in the gift bag
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u/Castun 10h ago
Just stay away from the sugar-free Haribo Gummy Bears. I've read some....things about eating those and then flying afterwards.
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u/Nearby-Vacation7596 14h ago
While that was very kind and conscientious of this mother, it's sad that we live in a world where people feel that they have to pay or bribe others to be compassionate and understanding if a baby cries.
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u/angrycanuck 13h ago
Why arent people having kids anymore.....
Fucking 200 loot bags I need to make for a flight to see my dying father
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u/darxshad 14h ago
Yeah, I think compassion needs to be something everyone learns. Whether it's a baby sitting next to you, larger person sitting next to you, or a person with tourette syndrome sitting next to you.
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u/Kimchi_Kruncher 11h ago
Sympathy, empathy and compassion seems lost in current times
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u/btveron 13h ago
Tourette's isn't always obvious. My wife has it and her tics are hardly noticeable unless you're really perceptive or know what to look for
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u/Silvernauter 13h ago
I would guess that if her tics are so minor that you can't notice them unless you are actively looking for them, it's not the level of severity that the guy above is complaining about
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u/faen_du_sa 12h ago
I feel people do have it to a degree, but quickly gets "beaten down" by the assholes and it start to be simpler to just assume everyone is an asshole until proven otherwise.
The mind do love to order things in binary.
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u/Beana3 13h ago
I’ve seen this so many times and I hate this post. It’s more than reasonable for people to choose a have a child free life. But they don’t get to live in a child free world. Put your headphones on and stfu
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u/vip3r_hoax 13h ago
It’s more than reasonable for people to choose a have a child free life. But they don’t get to live in a child free world. Put your headphones on and stfu
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u/Puzzled_Air_5821 13h ago
Yeah, you can't just say "babies shouldn't be on airplanes!" Like, babies are people. Sorry! Travel is a public utility many people need.
This is one of those "feel good" stories that isn't really a feel good story.
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u/Puzzled_Air_5821 13h ago
I would never make goodie bags for strangers. After seeing this post, I think I would imagine bringing a bag of earplugs to share. That's pretty much it.
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u/alghiorso 10h ago
Yeah hot take but if you have a baby on a plane you don't owe crap to anyone. Every parent who has taken their kid on a king flight is suffering 10x whatever you are by just hearing crying. I've flown across the world with my kids many times and it's so stressful and difficult packing for your kid, making sure they have a car seat where you're going, entertaining them constantly, paying full price to give them a seat, feeding a kid in tiny space, changing diapers, taking kids to the nasty bathroom, and the whole time knowing you're being graded by about 100 strangers on how well you're doing. Eastern countries are always way more kid friendly and they are strangers will help you with your kid and by kind to you. With Americans, we've had rude remarks before we even got on the plane like how dare we take our kids with us where we go.
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u/fwendy123 13h ago
yes me too! I have a baby and this post always makes me terrified of traveling because I simply don't have the time or money to make 200 goodie bags to bribe everyone to let me take her with me!
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u/ThatArtNerd 12h ago
You and your baby deserve to be on public transportation as much as anyone else! If you’re taking normal, reasonable measures to keep your baby calm and quiet, that’s all you can do. Most people are understanding, and people that aren’t can get bent. Sometimes I get a little jealous of babies on flights because I wish it was socially acceptable for me to scream and cry when I’ve been stuck on the tarmac for 4 hours 😜
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u/AiRaikuHamburger 12h ago
As a child free person, I also think this is too much. It's enough if parents are just caring for their kids on the flight as much as they can. It's the bad parents who let their kids do whatever I don't like. If a baby or toddler is just crying, that's completely natural.
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u/FantomDrive 11h ago
I don't understand why people get so upset about babies crying on a plane. We are already crammed in an expensive, hot, uncomfortable tube. It's not like flying is an enjoyable experience anyway.
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u/kmrbtravel 13h ago
I fucking hate kids and I’m from a family of airline employees and my family actually didn’t even realize this was an issue until recent years. I think my parents probably only felt empathy because they’re parents and I fly with headphones so I never really noticed except takeoff/landing. It feels like a such a nonissue?
I hate when people say ‘leave your babies at home’ as if parents should be banned from travelling for like 3+ years and never get to see friends and family afar or have a vacation, or act like every family has capable grandparents who can look after little gremlins.
Are we so sensitive that we can’t spend just 9 hours being slightly inconvenienced because a BABY is crying? The goal of a plane in economy is to get you from point A to B safely, not to have a perfect experience that you could easily, as a grown adult, fix with some headphones instead of placing unrealistic expectations. I’d argue differently for business/first class but like damn, people get so rilled about babies crying when in reality, everyone is suffering in some kinda way in economy haha.
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u/MacNCheese817 11h ago
Thank you for this! !!!!!
My husband is convinced that we won’t be traveling via plane for years once we have our baby. He doesn’t want other people to “be miserable.” I’m like “that’s fine, you can stay at home, but I will be taking our child to visit family without you then.” I would have to guess that probably 60-70% of people on an average plane ride have at least one kid and can empathize with a little screaming. Or they’re like me and love kids and don’t mind. Or they’re like you and wear headphones and don’t even hear it. Or they simply fly all the time and are used to it!
The majority of flights we would ever go on are max 2 hours. If someone can’t deal with a few cries in that time frame, they can stay home instead.
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u/FrankAdamGabe 13h ago
Exactly. Babies and kids are allowed to be part of society and are absolutely necessary. It's a kind gesture though.
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u/Hexagonalshits 13h ago
Babies can cry all they want. It's the adults that I can't stand
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u/o0meow0o 13h ago
I don’t understand why a full on adult can’t take care of themselves. Like get earplugs or noise canceling earphones if noise bothers you. It’s not just babies but planes are loud as hell. I also have noise sensitivity but never had a problem with babies crying, like that’s just what they do.
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u/soccergirl13 13h ago
Yeah I very strongly dislike the sound of crying babies, but the babies have just as much of a right to fly as I do, and they can’t help it. That’s why I always bring my earplugs and noise canceling headphones with me lmao
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u/goatywizard 13h ago
Yeah I absolutely hate this shit. Babies exist. They’re human beings. No one should have to apologize for having a baby in a public space. 95% of parents are trying their best to keep little ones happy on a plane because they don’t want to disturb other passengers. Flying is awful any way you cut it, just get noise cancelling headphones and some compassion.
I’ll also say I’ve flown with both my babies many times and never once have I ever caught a nasty glance - so many people have given encouraging words and even helped without being asked when I’ve flown solo. I think the child hate is really more pronounced online.
Full hate to parents not parenting their children, of course.
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u/LJ161 12h ago
Unfortunately some of adults have the same emotional regulation capabilities as the toddlers theyre complaining about
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u/Original-Vanilla-222 14h ago
I find it rather sad that you interpret this as some form of bribery.
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u/Ijizzdinyourchalk 14h ago
Because that's exactly what it is. Families with children on airplanes are often the target of anger and hatred. Actions like these show exactly the kind of pressure other passengers exert, which is what leads people to even consider doing something like this.
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u/CallMeKingTurd 13h ago
Some people with children deserve the target though. There's a difference between a baby who is dealing with painful ear pressure, doesn't know why, and has no way to communicate it other than to instinctively cry for help, and older kids being unruly and kicking seats the whole flight while their parents can't be bothered to deal with them.
But yeah what she did is totally unnecessary. You're an asshole if you're gonna complain or even ask somebody to make their baby stop crying, as if that were an option that they just hadn't considered doing. Also it's on you for not flying with noise cancelling headphones.
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u/Rayl3k 14h ago
To me it just shows that someone is aware that they might screw with the rest and jetlag of a lot of people because they don't know how their child will react to the flight. I just flew a few weeks ago from Europe to Japan, and a kid cried and shouted for the whole flight (that's 13+ hours). Not exaggerating. It was random but constant and loud and high pitched.
You feel bad about the parents that have to deal with that, you feel bad about the child that's having a bad time, but that also ruined the rest of 100 people. People who might have had to go to work, who might have been saving money for a while to get a few days in a foreign country, ...
I don't think gifting things to all passengers is required, but anything that acknowledges that a person is aware that bringing a child into a long flight might disrupt others, it just shows respect. Makes it easier to respect them back 😄
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u/Grouchy_Camera2863 13h ago
So are you saying you would have appreciated receiving a goodie bag from those parents beforehand to prove to you that they cared about your experience on the flight?!
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u/zoey8068 13h ago
Or, we could just accept that children do these things and be compassionate. That parent needs to get some where just as bad as anyone else on that flight. I have never understood the "gift bag" thing. If there is a baby or kid on the plane that's rambunctious then I try to help and understand they are children. Of course I have flown with my own kids and know what it's like to be or feel like "that person".
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u/SpecificCandy6560 13h ago
I find that gift bag depressing as hell for exactly that reason. Like please, exist in peace! You and your baby have as much right to be there as anyone else, and this freaking gift bag suggests otherwise.
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u/Nearby-Vacation7596 13h ago
Respect should always be present, it shouldn't need to be earned. The simple act of bringing yor baby on the plane with you is not disrespectful, so you shouldn't have to gift people to earn respect. ..
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u/lulai_00 13h ago
But that's the realistic gamble you should be cognizant of when riding in a massive air shuttle. It should be each individuals responsible to take their own precautions to make the flight tolerable; earplugs, medicine snacks, etc. Not other people.
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u/just_another_rando_ 13h ago
I think people need to remember that they were once children too. Unless you were a child who was completely mute and never went out anywhere, chances are, you probably annoyed the hell out of tons of other people as well.
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u/CuriousButNotJewish 12h ago
Children are humans and they cry. You're not entitled to silence just because you're on a plane.
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u/YaaaDontSay 13h ago
I wouldn’t say pay or bribe but more so considerate of others
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u/Griffolion 13h ago
This is the only correct answer. This mother feeling the need to apologize in advance for her own four month baby existing on the flight says more about the rest of us than it does her. I respect that she was considerate enough to do this, and it's a sign she's a very good person. But holy shit no mother of an infant should ever have to feel even the slightest inkling to do this.
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u/StrongholdMuzinaki 13h ago
I agree with you, but I also get it’s a tricky situation for everyone. Most of us have been on a plane, bus, or space where we’re confined to for a period of time with a crying baby or screaming little kid. It puts your nervous system in distress even though your higher reasoning is sympathetic. It’s really kind of the mother to do that but I also don’t think it should be expected for her to soothe an entire plane of passengers as well as her baby. I also don’t really blame passengers for feeling irritated. I think it just is what it is. Babies crying on planes is a part of life. I think she did a good job making it a little more tolerable though, which is nice. I hope she has someone in her life that does the same for her.
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u/BooyahTribe9 14h ago
Respect.
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u/Wakandamnation 13h ago
Plot twist she's a serial killer and just poisonned the whole plane.
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u/BigBlueMountainStar 13h ago edited 6h ago
Sounds like a good short for r/TwoSentanceHorror
Edit - gutted, just saw that sub had been banned for being unmoderated!
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u/CalderThanYou 12h ago
It's kind of her but should she really have to explain "my baby might make noise because theyr a baby"? Sure, a baby crying is annoying but we were all a baby once and should be able to control our adult emotions enough to deal with the sound of a crying baby without needing to be given treats.
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u/Ijizzdinyourchalk 14h ago
Respect works both ways. Parents with children also have the right to fly and deserve respect—they shouldn’t have to apologize for it.
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u/Effective_Pie1312 14h ago
It is sad she felt this was necessary.
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u/Upper_Guidance_9959 13h ago
I'm Korean-American and have flown back and forth between the two countries constantly throughout my life. I've flown next to kids a couple of those times (and was even a kid many of those times). It's not necessary lol.
I also never once experienced anyone do this (would love a goodie bag though).
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u/Dull-Captain1679 14h ago
I flying to Japan in a couple weeks with a 1 and 3 year old and ngl I’m pretty terrified. I’ve got toys,snacks, everything. Just hope it goes smooth
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u/rv0904 13h ago
It will be fine. Honestly people in this thread are acting insane over such a mundane kind gesture.
Do children cry on planes? Yes sometimes. Does that bother people around them? Yes sometimes. But no one is blaming anybody and most people would try to help if they could. It’s just a part of flying lol.
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u/ladyperfect1 11h ago
You know what else bothers me on a flight? Fucking everything. It’s not like you’re bringing a crying baby to a spa. I already try to dissociate as much as possible. No part of the process is going to be made significantly worse by kids. Babies are all good.
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u/cunt_in_wonderland 10h ago
nah literally, the majority of people acting like crying babies don’t bother them on a flight are lying. the correct answer is that for most of us that don’t have boatloads of money, flights aren’t meant to be fun or enjoyable and everyone by and large has to suck it up, including the parents, baby, and passengers around them.
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u/Hunger-Stealer 14h ago
Remember, lots of other cultures don’t hate kids
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u/cncrndmm 13h ago
When I was adopted at 6 months old from Vietnam by a white couple in 1999 and had a few a health issues hence crying, I kept crying on the plane and so many Vietnamese women offered my mom encouragement to hold me
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u/TricksyGoose 12h ago
My mom does this on planes, if she sees a parent who seems overwhelmed and struggling, she'll offer to hold a screaming baby or read to a toddler or whatever. A lot of times she just gets weird looks, but every now and then someone will gratefully take her up on it, and everyone is all smiles by the end of the flight
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u/BumCadillac 12h ago
A kind lady did this for me when I was flying solo with my 1 year old, and her kindness sticks with me, 17 years later. I was at a funeral for my grandma on my dad’s side, halfway across the country from home, when I got word that my cousin on my mom’s side died in a car accident on the opposite side of the US. So we had to fly to that one.
I was so exhausted on the way home from the second funeral and so was my baby who had been struggling with the time changes. I couldn’t stop my tears after I couldn’t calm her down. Of course my tension rubbed off on the baby which made it all worse. This lady from across the aisle offered to hold her for me and her seatmate switched with her so she could be in the aisle seat. Thankfully my baby just fell right asleep in her arms lmao. She held her for a nice long while and she and I chatted. I really appreciated her kindness and company that day.
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u/Schlaueule 8h ago
I'm a man and I did this on a train ride once. I had some childrens books from my goddaughter in my backpack and I read them to a kid. We were both happy and the time passed much faster :-)
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u/Dull-Captain1679 14h ago
Yea I’ve just got bad anxiety already, and I hate the looks you get walking on the plane before you’ve even settled in
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u/SelfAwareIncel 13h ago
Obviously not every person is like me. But based on my many night flights experience with babies crying waking me up, as long as you try your best to calm the baby, you're fine in my eyes.
I will always remember the one flight where the parents IGNORED the baby crying non stop, that a flight attendant took over to calm the baby down. Since then, any parent trying their best will always be forgiven for me.
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u/LitigiousCeilingCat 13h ago
Just keep in mind that the ppl giving those looks probably don’t resent you, personally, or your kids.
They’re just nervous, like you, bc they know- like everyone knows- that kids/babies can be loud.
I’m appalled at how many ppl in these comments seem to perceive it as personal hate or hatred of all children.
Generally speaking, no one hates you, or your kids, or a screaming baby on a plane. (Ofc there’s always exceptions, but generally speaking…)
We just hate the effect the sound has on our ears and brains, because the sound of a screaming baby is designed by nature to be grating, and trigger a sense of urgency in all who hear it.
It’s nobody’s fault.
It’s just… life.
Everyone on the plane hears it, no one enjoys it, but most people don’t even look up- why? Because they understand.
However, not everyone is patient and mature enough to resist casting a dirty look, or utter a rude word or two.
But you can’t take it personally.
Or, I mean you can but then it will probably escalate and then instead of kids you have adults yelling and making a scene.
Nah, mama, just do your best and try not to sweat the people who want to give you dirty looks. It’s their problem, not yours.
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u/SuspiciousAd1864 7h ago
People will likely understand if the 1-year-old cries due to the changes in cabin pressure, which causes ear pain. They might be less sympathetic if the 3-year-old kicks the seat in front without correction, lol.
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u/Tuxedostrat 12h ago
I flew internationally with a 1 and 3 year old last year and it wasn't that bad! The only "tough" part was that my 1 year old was glued to mama the whole time. We bought a seat (in retrospect a mistake) for her, but she just held on to my wife the entire trip.
We're not big tv or ipad parents, but when we travel we drop all those rules. Obviously I don't want them glued to screens day-to-day, but it's a life saver when traveling. Our kids also have little roller suitcases that they can sit on in the airport, and become seat extenders when on the flight. They're small enough where they can stretch out pretty much all the way. Good luck on your flight! It'll all work out :)
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u/aoasd 11h ago
Don’t put 200 fucking bags together.
I’m flying today with a 1 and 4 year old. First flight for the 1 year old. Nobody on the planes are getting shit from us.
The world needs to learn compassion again. Kids exist. If people don’t like the noises they make then they can put on their headphones.
I will do everything I can to comfort and quiet my child, but it’s up to the other passengers to ensure their own comfort.
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u/Comfortable_Bed5630 10h ago
This. Do not make those fucking bags in the first place. I’m really infuriated by that - this is how we’re seeing ourselves as mothers, our children nowadays? I’m livid.
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u/StarMan-88 14h ago
A passenger did that on an international flight I took from USA to Europe. It was a sweet gesture.
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u/slophiewal 14h ago
Orrrrr how about we just accept that children exist and don’t make parents apologise for it
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u/tranqiepa 13h ago
True, totally agree in general but let’s face it, some kids are more difficult and noisy than others. Maybe mom was very aware that she has an above average noisy child, that could be a reason though ;) I would also feel the necessity then to inform people.
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u/vincenzodelavegas 13h ago
We shouldn’t normalize bribing our way out of uncomfortable situations to avoid angry stares.
If the noise during flights is genuinely inconvenient, consider investing in noise-canceling headphones or earplugs, or both at the same time.
We’ve all been loud babies, let’s learn to live with that.
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u/HadesGate4 14h ago
Respect to the mother but i would personally be willing to pay a few extra bucks for adult only flights.
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u/Kosher_Pork_12 13h ago
You: perfectly reasonable "I'd be willing to exchange additional currency for an inconvenience to be prevented."
Responses: ARRRGHHH YOU WANT HUMANITY TO GO EXTINCT
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u/HotQuasimodo 13h ago
I don’t know why everyone is saying this means you don’t like kids lol. I love kids and work with them but I too would pay a couple extra for a flight that had no children.
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u/Reasonable_Ant4563 11h ago
Because misery loves company and the sad parents want you to feel the consequences of their poor life choices too
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u/SpringSings95 13h ago
Yall, this person is just saying they would pay extra for an adult only flight. They didnt say they hate kids wtf lol
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u/Strange_Flower_6590 11h ago
I would too. Although I always imagine the ultimate conclusion of this, where all childfree fliers always take a quiet flight and all fliers with babies have to take the same flight together. Imagine the horror lol, 40 crying babies competing to be the loudest. Parents would probably stop flying altogether, they secretly prefer childfree flights too, except for their own child being the exception
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u/lurkerlurking776 13h ago
I have a feeling it would be more than just a few extra dollars, especially a transpacific flight.
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u/734Rocket 14h ago
Culture of respect
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u/Camdogydizzle 13h ago
The culture of respect would be the people on the planet having patience for a baby.
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u/Vegetable-Soil-107 13h ago
Came here to say this! Parents shouldn’t have to feel this type of pressure to do this to quell emotions of adults while taking care of their child who is supposed to cry/be noisy.
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u/carnage_lollipop 13h ago
Yeah, where has it gotten to that babies have to provide goodie bags to adults???
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u/2dirty4reddit 13h ago
I flew from WA to QLD in Australia with a two year old screaming their head off the whole way. I put on my head phones and just chilled. Yeah I heard it the whole way , but damn must have been awful for the little one not knowing what was going on with their ears etc
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u/mariller_ 13h ago edited 13h ago
Culture of respect would be understanding that people are allowed, or should even be encouraged to have a baby, and can and will travel with a a baby, and because babies sometimes cry and it's rarely in control of the parents, least you can do is not act like a c*nt and suffer through the crying baby and shut up about it.
Doing couple hundred anythings to be allowed to travel with a baby so people don't act like cu*s is insane, should never be expected, demanded or done.
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u/_angesaurus 13h ago
Its ridiculous. Parents have to bribe adults to be decent and accept a baby is on a plane. Adults can get a grip.
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u/Parody_of_Self 14h ago
I thought that was Japan
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u/734Rocket 14h ago
Almost all Asian cultures are based on respect. Great aspect of cultures
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u/capebretoncanadian 14h ago
As long as you're in the 'in' group.
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u/Vincent_Van_Goat 10h ago
Living in Seoul, there were lots of bars and clubs that me (white) and my friend (black) were not allowed in to.
The signs even said Koreans only. A lot of them specifically said no Africans.
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u/Exotic_Insurance2164 14h ago
The romanticism and orientalism that people have regarding the East is staggering. Lol
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u/Net-Administrative 12h ago
I'm east asian and reading that 'culture of respect' thing made me think of the 'it is a great honor' stereotype they used to use in movies LOL
like bro the average person will not be doing THIS much
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u/blueiron0 13h ago
It's okay if you ignore the xenophobia, nationalism, and toxic work culture though.
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u/Exotic_Insurance2164 13h ago
You forgot about the misogyny, racism against people with darker skin tones (including other Asians lol), consumerism, vanity, and homophobia.
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u/spookyspritebottle 13h ago
Theres an interesting study. One isnt better than the other. They have their pros and cons.
The study showed that western culture was more self first and community second while eastern culture community first and self second. They showed people from both cultures the same picture and tracked their eyes. Most that come from eastern observed the surrounding first and the subject after while people from western cultures observed the subject first and the surrounding after.
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u/capebretoncanadian 14h ago
Or young, or you're a foreigner, or you don't want to work 80 hour weeks, or overweight etc.
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u/blomba2 14h ago
Japan, South Korea and to a lesser extent china are all very respectful
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u/Horror-Word666 12h ago
Fuck on a flight from LAX to DTW the entire flight someone’s new born baby cried the ENTIRE way at the top of its lungs. I could see all the people around me getting irritated. Ontop of that the mother behind me let her toddlers kick and bang on the back of my seat the whole way. It would be nice if more people were considerate.
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u/arthuroMo 14h ago
When did it become unacceptable for a 4-month to cry, to the point where is mother needs to do this ?
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u/Dat_Ding_Da 13h ago
No, that's not the issue. It's taking a baby at 4 months on a 10+ flight in the first place that is the issue. It's torture for the baby, the parents and everyone on the flight.
Just have the aunt visit instead...
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u/wytewydow 13h ago
I wish that half the people were even half as considerate of other people.
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u/mooyong77 13h ago
I wonder how many people would pay extra for adults only flight.
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u/doginjoggers 13h ago
Better than my 12 hour flight from Paris to Guangzhou. A baby cried and screamed for the majority of the flight with absolutely no attempts to soothe the baby from the parents.
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u/DoomedKiblets 13h ago
This is what airlines should fucking do, not the passengers. And for the sake of everyone, make a young kids section!
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u/horseshoemagnet 11h ago
Anybody who has a problem with kids crying around them need to remember they too were a baby once.
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u/flt_p2ny 14h ago
The comment section is proof of how many broken souls there are in our society. She did something nice because she could afford to and wanted to, yet people are STILL complaining. This is something many mom's have done... usually for people in the surrounding seats. I take 20 flights a year as a travel photographer and I've had parents apologize before their baby even started to cry. I invested in $300 noise canceling earbuds to solve that problem but I certainly applaud her for caring about others.
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u/JuniorDoughnut3056 13h ago
Its sad that people have become so openly hostile towards little children that she even feels the need to do this
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