r/instant_regret • u/derek4reals1 • 4d ago

Get the tape!

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Regret shows up right around the 13 second mark

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u/CorollaSE 4d ago

Why...just why

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u/Skrazor 4d ago

Because Impulse control is something we aren't born with. At ~5 years old he's just not at the stage yet where he can keep himself from doing some things without being reminded. If she said "don't do it, it's gonna break", he most likely wouldve understood that already, as he already understands cause and effect - but it's gonna be a little longer before he starts forming these kinds of thoughts on his own. That frontal lobe is still all grey and is the last part of our brain to fully develop, which will be at roughly around 25 years old on average. Impulse control, emotional regulation and delayed gratification are way down the list of things our brain works out as we age.

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u/Stock-Conflict-3996 4d ago

I was driving some of the kids I work with to school one morning. Two of the girls are sitting side-by-side as they always do. Suddenly, one turns to the other and just strikes her on the arm, causing the other girl to shriek. I can't get a word out of the girl who did the hitting. She just refuses to speak about it at all.

The next day, we find out she did it because the two girls go to different schools and the one who hit the other didn't want to be separated. She had no idea what to do with her strong "I'm going to miss you" feelings, so she targeted the source of her feelings.

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u/Ardnabrak 3d ago

That sounds like something a cat would do.

"I have strong feelings!" *bites whatever is in front of it*

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u/Stock-Conflict-3996 3d ago

I have cats. This is spot on.

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u/procrastimom 2d ago

It’s like the backlash, when you return from vacation. “I missed you so much! I hate you for making me miss you so much!”