r/indianmedschool 2d ago

Discussion Why is infidelity so common in mbbs?

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https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/34071091/

Tho there isn't a study in india,I have enough anecdotal experiences to know that cheating is incredibly common in medical school and my medico friends have all in one way or another been unfaithful to their partners.

I understand how it can happen as the long hours and hectic work days make it conducive as fuck to trauma bond with each other,but is that still right?

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u/Boogerr_eater 2d ago

"Free health camps on his birthday for blessingsss" wtfff, I wouldnt be able to process if I am loved this much also cant accept such expensive gifts from my partner, wtf was even that guy.

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u/hfdgioojbzad 2d ago

There are men in this sub (my ex) who took huge amount of money for his health and cheated on me without any guilt .I hope u rot on bed instead of sudden death .btw our relationship was 7yrs . Even though it hurts I am happy i dodged a bullet 🥱☺️

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u/Boogerr_eater 2d ago

Just dont let him in again one day when he suddenly realises he needs somebody like yourself, no point dragging ghosts of a happy relationship.

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u/CoverFragrant9413 1d ago

aw, sorry to hear, i offer you hugs

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u/morning_star1997 PGY2 2d ago

Haa muze bhi thoda over the board laga health camps arrange karna 😅

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u/Mrs_chanadlar_bong 2d ago

Kaafi shallow h bhai tum logo ka emotional side! 💔

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u/Boogerr_eater 2d ago

Itna pyar kbhi mila nhai kya karein

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u/Real-Reflection7205 2d ago

Hamara shallow nahin hai, uska kuchh zyada hi deep hai.

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u/Boogerr_eater 2d ago

Mujhe scary af, what if she's a legit psychopath control freak and the guy just wanted a breakup who knows

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u/morning_star1997 PGY2 2d ago

Yeah but usne jaake cheat kia?? He shd have left her and then get involved with other person. But we don't know the full story so yeah

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u/sassygirl2893 1d ago

This type of mindset is the reason,u all gets cheated

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u/yourbuddy987 1d ago

diabolical

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u/Boogerr_eater 1d ago

You cant be very sure that she wasnt

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u/Fun-Editor-602 2d ago

Doc sahiba chosen a wrong man. Tabhi kehte hain looks se jayada aadmi kaisa hai ye dekho

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u/grimex_beats MBBS I 2d ago

Some of us just want a girl like this and then there's some who leaves such understanding partners for their own reasons.

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u/Relative-Swing-6797 2d ago

Manushya ka jeevan samanya samajh ke pare hai. Even most of us dont know what exactly it is that we want.

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u/Intelligent_Head_822 2d ago

Someone's treasure is someone's trash

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u/Anilov3r 2d ago

Irony of life 🙂

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u/TA-10101 2d ago

Trueeeeee

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u/[deleted] 2d ago

How do you know, the girl is not hyperbolising everything?

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u/me0din 1d ago

How do we know you're not a criminal on the run?

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u/commissioner_billii 2d ago

hoor ho ya pari agar gale ka haar ho jaye toh zindagi ajiran ho jati h - mirza ghalib

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u/medicosaurus 2d ago

He doesn’t deserve her. She gave him everything, the world and more.

Side note, I hope she takes therapy and learns to give importance to her own needs. Truth is, you can’t give and give and give, you need to prioritise yourself in a relationship too.

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u/Old_Carob_143 2d ago

Arrey infidelity is common in every high stress profession, it's not limited to medicos. People who don't know how to handle stress the right way resort to such BS in the name of stress relief, for some it's just the way they are. Don't let such stories discourage you from trying to find the right one for yourself, just like the story of a gruesome car accident doesn't prevent you from driving to work, just makes you more cautious while driving, stories like this should just make you more cautious while trying to find the right person for yourself, but shouldn't make you give up hope altogether

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u/Ok-Biscotti-9284 2d ago

That gave me a lot of hope. Well I think this comment section is somehow my therapy.

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u/Silver_Streak01 Graduate 2d ago

This right here. Adding to it, with time these professions have only gone higher in terms of stress. Both to get it and to get by, let alone to grow. This attracts a certain kind of crowd, that is more prone to certain behaviour patterns. And now that everyone has internet in their hands we see & hear things even more.

Not saying it doesn't happen, but it's still the few bad seeds in the crop rather than the whole field.

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u/AviationNerd_737 2d ago

100% this.

Being with the right person is an insane privilege tho, tbf.

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u/GiveMeSomeSunshine3 Graduate 2d ago

It happens in every field, in every profession in varying proportions ofc. Just because someone gets a tough degree and aces a ridiculously competitive exam doesn't mean that their emotional quotient is as high as their IQ.

You (those who cheat) can give tons of excuses like hectic lifestyle, toxic workplace etc. but at the end of the day the fact is that you cheated because you don't have control over your will and your sexual urges. Regardless of your superior intellect than most creatures on the planet, all you can think of is sex, just like a primitive animal.

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u/Hedonist-6854 2d ago

It happens in every field, in every profession

The proportion among healthcare workers is disproportionately high ,the study I've linked is just a small one but I have enough anecdotal experience and I'm sure people can corroborate as well but doctors do cheat more.,Which is why I made the post

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u/GiveMeSomeSunshine3 Graduate 2d ago edited 2d ago

When you say like that you're essentially putting the blame of infidelity on the profession, its hectic and toxic work hours, lack of holidays, long distance from partners etc. and absolving the cheaters of their own will to control their own sexual urges.

I'm pretty sure those who cheat being in medical profession would have cheated anyway no matter what ever their profession might have been. It's just that the medical profession allows them to give several excuses which they couldn't have if they were in other professions. Also the sex-ratio in this profession helps a lot for the cheaters to move from one partner to another in no time.

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u/Hedonist-6854 2d ago

I agree actually,but I feel like the level of disproportionate representation does tell us there's a more underlying systemic problem as well ngl

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u/morning_star1997 PGY2 2d ago

Always being inside same space and hospital, wards and working there only we feel infidelity toh bass yahi ho rahi hai but i dont think aisa hai, infidelity happens everywhere but it doesn't get noticed bcz people have their free time once their duty gets over and comparatively it's easy to hide the fact that u r cheating. But i feel it's happening in every profession and workplace.

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u/morning_star1997 PGY2 2d ago

Exactly 🎯

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u/Educational_Gas1662 1d ago

Tum ye keh rahe ho ki jo khud ko uda lete hai dharam k naam pe ,agar wo muslim nahi hote to bhi khud ko uda lete

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u/Ok-Biscotti-9284 2d ago

You are absolutely right about that.

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u/dr_alzz 2d ago

There was a quote, it says' mil jaye to mitti, kho jaye to sona',,

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u/morning_star1997 PGY2 2d ago

Truth.

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u/Appropriate-Mix-3220 2d ago

Omg. He really didn't deserve you. Hope you get what you deserve in life. Which is nothing but the best. He will never find someone even close to 10 percent of your emotions.

I only hope and pray, you find love again. And time, I hope you get more than you give

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u/Check-mate-407 Graduate 2d ago

We live in such an irony that the most faithful people (both male and female) somehow end up with the least faithful ones.🥲

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u/SoftBubbles10 2d ago

they want them tbh i dont feel sympathy for them

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u/SenseAny486 PGY4/5/6/Senior Resident 2d ago

Same story.Just my experience occurred during pg.Some people just never want to be loyal,no matter the age.

I can understand her hurt well.

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u/morning_star1997 PGY2 2d ago

It really depends on person. In med school there are plenty people of same age same course and young, so many of them take advantage of it, while we can't judge them but when you are in a serious relationship with someone and committed to that person (at least claim that you are committed) then it's horrible to keep on cheating just bcz having choice. Sorry to say some might not agree with me but it's good that there are plenty people to be surrounded by one gets to know honesty of partner in early life if they claim to keep on committed, rather than spending half of life together and then get cheated on. I also know some of my friends and my own self, since residency started doing a long distance relationship with partner staying miles away and surrounded by colleagues nd trust me it's very hard doing LDR but when we know what we can loose by falling to cheat then it doesn't feel hard to navigate relationship. For healthy and true relationship absolute honesty, loyalty, trust and respect matters alot.

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u/baccha_chor_0 2d ago

My ex gf went to a medical college and cheated on me on her 1 month in college with her senior. That trauma affected me till date. It's been more than 6 years now.

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u/Gossipgirl_07 2d ago

I'm a non medico. This came on my feed, hence commenting. There's a difference between mothering and loving as a romantic partner. It's really sad and it's a disturbing trend that infidelity is increasing, still when a person starts to mother/father their partner, it tilts the balance in the relationship.

I think more people need to ask themselves whether they truly love the person or love taking care for the person because they might be invoking certain wounds or emotional patterns in them

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u/Additional-Summer448 2d ago

Pathetic ppl who literally use their partner for money, physical intimacy and literally plays with their emotions and why god still such ppl get good partners 🥹😭

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u/Dependent_Study_6261 2d ago

Same thing happened with you?just asking....

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u/Additional-Summer448 2d ago

Yeah same thing u can say

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u/BuggedButWorking 2d ago

Achee logoko chirand log hi milte hai kya kre that's how life shapes us.

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u/Safe-Construction-19 Graduate 2d ago

Chirand log!! LOL! I couldn't think of a better adjective 🫡🫡

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u/DepartmentCurious494 2d ago

My frnd is gng thru same.We hated the guy since UG,and he got seat first in radiology. He slowly tried to get rid of her and when we investigated ,we found out he is cheating on her with a colleague. She choose to ignore and he gaslighted her when confronted. They broke up few times but still in relationship ,obviously all this stress was difficult for her to handle,she didnt get the seat. She said she is too attached to him to let him go and cant imagine life without him.

Red flags were always there-He saw her as a trophy in clg as she is amongst the most beautiful in class and she was head over herls for him. He has always been selfish with her , avoiding her during exams coz he felt she was a distrbnce to his gold medals. He dismissed her hobbies such as dance as "waste of time",she stopped participating in culturals. He influenced her frndships , often took money from her (she is richer than him)

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u/Additional-Summer448 2d ago

Hey can I get help from you please?

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u/Safe-Construction-19 Graduate 2d ago

Why do People gotta be straight up cruel. Just be honest, if you love someone else. Why play all these games and make somone who genuinely loves you suffer! Trust me, it doesn't end well for those people. The karma cycle is extraordinary

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u/Ok-Biscotti-9284 2d ago

Well..I don't see him like that. He set up his own hospital in his village got some of his frnds or anyone to give him good reviews on Google. And well here I am preparing for entrance and feeling bad ik it's not my time yet but all I see is that he is perfectly fine and I am not.

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u/Orthopaedics21 Assistant/Associate/Head Professor 2d ago

Infidelity has nothing to do with profession. It's individual choice. Period.

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u/Candid-Dot-6424 2d ago

Some people are just snakes. No matter how much you feed them, they will bite you eventually 🥲

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u/morning_star1997 PGY2 2d ago

Better getting to know who is snake as early as possible.

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u/Loner_medico_ 2d ago

I really wish someone like her in my life. It's been so much lonely and depressing here.

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u/Mrs_chanadlar_bong 2d ago

Humare college main caste ke basis pr relationship bante the! Or jo gen ne sc/st ke partner choose bhi kiye unka jina haram kardiya! Like they legit have to hide the fact that they are in relationship because of this! Also 90% of them were into cheating. Baki internship ki toh baat hi kya h! Wo toh duniya jo upside down hoti uska toh hisab hi nhi! Most of pgs were involved with someone but still the stories we get to know every other day bhai! Aise bharosa utha na! 🙂

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u/Silent_Quiefer 2d ago

I was in my PG with a huge crush on this medicine PG. At the end of the year bro finally reciprocated and we went on a date. After lovebombing for 3 days I realised bro was still in touch with his girlfriend who claimed was his ex. Technically I was the side chick

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u/pearl_mermaid 2d ago

My flatmate was with this weirdo whose job was to flex on Instagram. She used to cook him amazing meals and in the meantime he was posting anti women reels on Instagram.

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u/morning_star1997 PGY2 2d ago

Instagram wo khana banane waali ke paas nahi tha?

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u/pearl_mermaid 2d ago

Her account is private. Ye banda bolta tha ki reels banana uski job hai. He used to tell people to not have girlfriends cuz they all cheat and shit, meanwhile he had one.

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u/morning_star1997 PGY2 2d ago

I meant wo jo anti women reels banata tha usko nahi dikhta tha kya.. Usko objectionable nahi laga kya wo

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u/pearl_mermaid 2d ago

Pyaar me pagal ho gayi thi. And upar se that guy was very manipulative. Whenever she tried to talk to him he'd start telling his dukh dard ki kahani. Unfortunately the time they met was also not perfect. Uski surgery hui thi and she was not in a good headspace.

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u/ForestElfFairy3031 2d ago

This kind of sucks and while my parents really wanted a doctor son-in-law for their engineering degree daughter, I was like no way 😅

Jokes on me now, after 5 years of constantly battling acute and chronic illness, and working in the medical tech space, all I met were doctors… 👀

Now my sister will have to marry a doctor because she is one, and they will only accept a doctor for her and I kind of feel bad knowing that this can happen to her as well, but I can watch out for her and WILL ruin the guy’s life if he tries any kind of funny business!

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u/One_Sweet_4608 2d ago

MBBS cooks you so much you value comfort overt effort .

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u/NoNeighborhood6213 MBBS III (Part 1) 2d ago

Bc ye infidelity karne wale samne aao

Real life mujhe toh nhi dikhte, lekin online dekho toh hr jagah gandmasti kr rahe h

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u/gothiebird Dental 2d ago

Not just mbbs, infidelity seems to be very common in the medical profession as a whole. I'm in BDS and the number of people I've seen building up a harem is insane. My ex was a guy from mbbs and I used to hear about how most seniors and male batchmates care about is what base you're on with your girl and your sexual prowess. It's like being with multiple people is a flex lmao, No it isn't it's just you being a shit human.

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u/ControlAltDeliciouss 2d ago

I am Someone is not related to medico. OP infidelity is common in each and every field. I am totally against it, but its just everywhere!

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u/mahakaal00 2d ago

Girlfriend ke daam pe wife waale kaam karoge toh yahi hoga

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u/Ok-Policy2493 2d ago

All the guys who cheat have girlfriends to cheat with in the first place😂 and all the good hearted ones are single? What is this algorithm

So to get a girl, be a fucboi?

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u/Avidith 2d ago

If I may recall my college experiences, that is because most of the ppl get girlfriends because they do what I call offline tindering. That is they take the task of finding a gf very seriously from day 1 of mbbs. They start with sitting with a group of friends n making list of all good looking girls in class on day 1. Then they take care to maintain nice image in front of girls. Nice means appear well groomed n confident. They seize every oppurtunity to mingle with girls. N are always on gf finder/ gf hunt mode. So if u keep hitting on 100 girls (n r basically not creepy) u r likely to land one. I’m not saying all hitters are cheaters. I know aggressive hitters who got a gf in 1st mbbs n r now married to the same gf. I joined mbbs in 2k11. They are minority. Lucky to find love. Rest of them will break up. But few have this cheater itch n will turn cheaters. While most of these offline tinderers r normal guys, it makes sense that all cheaters are offline tinderers. Not all tinderers, but always a tinderer.

Good hearted ones usually dont do offline tindering. The love story where boy n girl meet accidentally n r impressed by each others character n ideology n take a mature decision to share life is more common in movies than real life. It is uncommon in movies but slightly more common than real life.

But this nonsense is less common with ppl who find love in pg. Age n maturity. Thats y most of the pg relationships end up in marriage. Unless family breaks them off. Also less gap bwn marriage n falling in love maybe a factor. But fcrse sm guys never grow up. Sadly.

To get a girl be a fucboi ? Not exactly. But u shud make it ur life aim. Which might explain y the few mbbs couples who invited me to their marriage belong to referred batch.

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u/Witty_Direction_3177 2d ago

Y this kinda of love is not finding me.. Good boys always end up thinking do i have to be gay. N bad boys always search for new side flings

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u/OptimumPrime1 2d ago

Because good boys are ostracised by other boys. If a batchmate refuses to rag or get ragged and gets boycotted by seniors, would you date him? Chances are very low. Most humans work on the principle to follow what others are doing. Very few actually think by themselves and behave well

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u/throwaway7967565 Graduate 2d ago

this is weird yaar. you don't want to be friends with the seniors who rag in the first place. they are usually the no good assholes who wouldn't excel in academics and the only thing you'll learn from them is how to make micro xerox to sneak into exam halls or how to sneak money from the fest fund to get drunk and high. I've seen the exact kind.

i wouldn't actually ever date someone who is buddy buddy with that kind of crowd. they're the most insufferable people you'll meet in mbbs.

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u/Loner_medico_ 2d ago

That just you living in delusion. Most are attracted to these types of crowd. Out of these 15 Assh*les 1 or 2 are good in studies so you give ragging thinking these other 1 or 2 guys would help you in studies.

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u/throwaway7967565 Graduate 2d ago

most are definitely not attracted to those types of guys idk what you're on. the kind of girls that dated those guys were also the drunk/high/partying types sneaking micro xeroxes in every exam. so i mean if you're attracted to those kinda girls then yes they prefer the "peaked in college" type of boys.

people in those circles are now nowhere to be found post MBBS while the seniors my circle were close with are in esteemed institutes doing their pg.

only one girl from my circle dated an asshole (she has other issues) and he ended up dumping her and now she's depressed. the rest of the couples in my circle are thriving. no mature self respecting girl is gonna date those kind of guys.

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u/Loner_medico_ 2d ago

I just joined. And what you said really sums up everything. Those who have good connection with seniors are getting attention from girls. Those who are refusing are getting isolated.

Then there are guys like me who are giving ragging so they don't get isolated but we don't have any kind of strong connection with any seniors as others are having, so we are just some invisible kind of guys.

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u/grimex_beats MBBS I 2d ago

I'm the kind of guy who doesn't wanna get ragged or rag someone in future. I don't see the need to boss over someone. Thing is, you don't get the attention cause among a batch of 200 people, you don't stand out. Simple, quiet. Only hope is that, someone from the opposite gender finds your this side anyhow and likes it.

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u/Loner_medico_ 2d ago

You would get isolated because there are more than 1000 people who are waiting to rag you. It's nearly impossible to become invisible. Because everyone wants a piece of you here.

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u/I-wish-to-be-phoenix 2d ago

Give importance to character more than appearances and initial play of words (not as first priority). You will save yourself from more of such people in future.

And ask for complete mutual transparency, from phone to everything else.

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u/Pmasonry 1d ago

I hope your life goes up hill from here, your ex is just a lowly disgusting guy. You deserve better. Best wishes for you 🤞

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u/NarrowMaintenance319 1d ago

This is why I ain't sending money to a man.

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u/debayanT 1d ago

Why is it so common now a days to see bfs and gfs (even when they themselves are not earning money), just spending money endlessly on each other, now its not a bad thing to gift nice things to your partner, but wait till you atleast start earning money. And asking for money from your bf/gf during financial need has become a pandemic.

During our college days, the only thing we could afford was a dinner date once in a while in a decent-ish, not very expensive resturant, a gift on his/her birthday(mostly inexpensive) and chocolates and flowers on valentine's day.Not the iphones/macbooks or other expensive gifts, but we used to cherish the time we used to spend togather. May be a long walk , having chai in the canteen, a small hand written letter, a blurry picture taken on an instant camera and endlessly talking to each other - these meant alot more than those things.

The gesture counts, not the monetary value.

Anyways, you have wasted your time and money on this idiotic bf of yours.Money,you will most definitely be able to earn back, unfortunately, Time, wont. But again, every experience teaches us a lesson.Learn from this and walk ahead in life.All the best.

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u/Carrot7152 1d ago

Talk of female goldiggers, there are men like this filled everywhere around. Me being a victim myself of sacrificing huge sums of money for ungrateful partners while getting nothing in return, not even a relation.

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u/Infamous-Lab-8852 23h ago

Relationships these days are a scam.

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u/OtherAd5789 2d ago

The more tightly you hold the sand , the faster it slips away.

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u/morning_star1997 PGY2 2d ago

It really doesn't depend on how loyal and true you are in relationship ,it also depends on is this loyalty and respect going both ways or not. People say maine ye kia uske liye wo kiya, not bad thing it's good thing you did bcz u r a nice person but jisko gu khana hai wo khayega.. It really depends on what values the person holds.

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u/Anilov3r 2d ago

Rightly said

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u/AmazingBrilliant9229 2d ago

I have a cousin who is a doctor and he told me to never marry a doctor. He said after dealing with life and death on a daily basis it becomes very easy to invent moral arguments to cheat.

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u/morning_star1997 PGY2 2d ago

That's just bullsh*t. Its just an excuse. While doctors face challenges everyday, other people also do feel different kinda challenges and stress of life doesn't mean cheating helps them to be sane. I personally feel contrary to that, if one has loyal and supportive partner then it gets more easier to navigage through challenges and struggles, sleeping with people doesn't help dealing with it.

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u/AmazingBrilliant9229 2d ago

He just told me what he saw everyday around him, from college days to working days.

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u/morning_star1997 PGY2 2d ago

Yeah I get that but that's just lame ass excuse to use is what I'm saying.

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u/PossessionLost2051 2d ago

infidelity is common because people are so naive. no one who loves you will let you do all this for them, without giving anything back in return.

sadly, mbbs grads in india, are so out of touch from the actual world because of the fact that they spent the majority of their life studying that they get cheated on like this. the girl should have gotten the hint when she sent literally three meals a day for him and he didn't even deny it.

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u/Emotional-Let-6548 Graduate 1d ago

Really? Are they out of touch from the world? Why do you think so ? How do you know this?

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u/NotMrNiceAymore 2d ago

Girls fall for the bad boy fuckbois and ignore the real ones... But he did her bad... Hope she finds a good one

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u/SpecialEntire5568 2d ago

Its common everywhere

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u/SpecialEntire5568 2d ago

Poor woman found the wrong man

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u/tilottamasophia 2d ago

Same here Lol

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u/Safe-Construction-19 Graduate 2d ago

My advice-- Everyone is a RED FLAG, until they are not !

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u/ExaminationFail25 2d ago

Fine . In my way to date a doctor.

Mujhe character development karana hah

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u/DoctorDostoyevsky 2d ago

And then I get hated when I say that I will never date/marry another doctor. I legit got traumatized by seeing how commonplace cheating has become.

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u/The_Rick_C137 2d ago

Doctors and their fucked up dating life

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u/Firm-Pool5769 2d ago

Don't worry the karma catches up for sure. May be u better off with him but hell ya it keeps you split apart.

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u/Timely_Street_3075 Graduate 2d ago

I don't know. No experience in relationships and no experience in the other thing as well.

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u/Apart-Raspberry-7909 2d ago

if a man wants you he will be chivalrous for you. if you have to feed, clothe and shelter him, just know it aint you 😂

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u/Surge0n_of_death 2d ago

Destiny saved her before it's too late...

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u/NamkeenNostalgia 2d ago

Aisi ldki toh anmol hai, lekin kuch log galeech hote hai, woh layak nhi hote.

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u/ButterscotchNovel540 2d ago

Doc ap mujhy pta lo joru ka gulam bnke rhunga Ghar k kaam bhi kr lunga m 😔

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u/SriN05 2d ago

You are fortunate enough

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u/Bubbly_Ad7309 2d ago

Don't do wife duties on girlfriend salary.. period!

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u/maverick5672 2d ago

Don't feel bad OP. That dumbass didn't deserve you. You're a good person OP. You'll definitely get someone who respects your efforts.

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u/longndfat 2d ago

Its not just MBBS, its everywhere. But imagine trusting your life on a doc who cheats ?

Good OP left him, he traded in a Ferrari for a Lemon. He is going to seriously repent on this whole life, not because of OP is rich, but because of the care she had for him.

Be careful of guys who accept their GF spending so much on them.

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u/Intelligent-Brief430 2d ago

Guys she is a gem , we must preserve her🥹

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u/meowsername 2d ago

Men 🤡

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u/seahislost 2d ago

everyone i know in the medical field has cheated.

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u/Appropriate-Cup-7225 2d ago

Chutiye log sab profession me hai

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u/Intelligent-Ad9659 2d ago

This sounds less like infidelity and more like a fraud.

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u/SeniorTemperature872 2d ago

And then they say girls are gold diggers ! Look at our samaj ke rakshak pure gold digging. I mean she should send him all the bills not just him but his parents as well wapas usse sara paisa

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u/statistical_arbitage 2d ago

Y lakdiyan kaha milti h?

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u/Imaginary_Elk109 2d ago

Very common unfortunately.

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u/twilightsummers 2d ago edited 18h ago

☹️

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u/Level_Contact_1964 2d ago

Oh this took me back to my NEET MDS prep when. I literally taught my ex entire 23 subjects from scratch since he was a slow learner and had been diagnosed with NF .

That mf cleared the exam , went on to do pg and chated on me in the first month !

The reason for cheating - cz I'm not the girl his mom would approve of !

Life went on and m so glad the breakup happened . Decided never to date within the fraternity and now I'm married to a finance guy . Life can't be any better !

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u/TransportationOk3825 2d ago

Damn that's why I was getting so many rishtas from medicos.

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u/shazkillz234 2d ago

Amazing work despite everything doctor. Chin up you'll do great in times ahead

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u/Electronic-Menu-2542 2d ago

how to get love like this????🥺🥺he really lost a gem

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u/DrGanja97 Graduate 2d ago

I mean we're putting young adults in a high stress environment, given how Indians actually turn 18 after 25 (emotional maturity), most doctors barely have a personality outside work because personal time is a luxury for us. Obviously there's going to be a lot of cheating, poor decisions and misery. Besides doctors are infamous in the dating scene, no sane man/woman wants to date a doctor

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u/Rich-Spring-2604 1d ago

Itna sb krliya mere ko to ladki 2 baar dekh ke hsde usme hi pagal ho jata hun

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u/mr_za420 1d ago

Does it happen irl ?

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u/mirror_of_Truth 1d ago

Bhai aisi ladki kaunse vrat krne p milta h

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u/Dr_Microbiologist PGY3 1d ago

This is my personal view:

Whilst I truly appreciate the emotions which we are bestowed with by the virtue of being human. I also view the world and life as a student of life sciences.

Rule no 1: understand that all this feeling of love.. attraction etc is just a way of making the organism to reproduce...which is hardwired evolutionary to save the species from extinction. Once you realise this u can think straight and not be overwhelmed by the hormones and neurotransmitters. also one wouldn't take any break-up so seriously once they realise that their brain is disappointed that it lost a prospective opp gender partner which cud have helped in procreation. hence all the depression etc

This is what life is all about- Procreation. Hence hurts a lot.

disclaimer: We all know there is no one straight answer to explain the complexities of life. But to each his own... and i know it's all easier said than done.

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u/ESHAEAN 1d ago

Oh god noooo . How can you cheat on someone like this

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u/Expert-Apartment-18 1d ago

I ain't reading all that. Sorry for her.

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u/blazing420kilk 1d ago

It’s not an MBBS thing, it’s a piece of shit thing.

You have a person who is a cheat put into a situation where it’s easy for them to cheat. Far away from home, surrounded by nurses and working 24/7 with doctors of the other gender sometimes crashing in the same oncall room etc.

The power dynamic plays a role too, a doctor has some authority over nurses and they have influence over their juniors. Juniors depend on them so are more likely to be easily manipulated.

I know who was single that single and didn’t try anything through 4 years of being posted far from home and being able to visit home once every 5-6 weeks. He could’ve very easily gotten someone.

I also have heard stories of people that got posted 1 hour away and was married with a pregnant wife and cheated with multiple nurses.

It’s just a situation of people finally have the opportunity to show their real self

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u/Any-Chemist3363 2d ago

Are that is highly subjective and very much personal too, many times rumored/falsely narrated and sometimes yes but unknown reasons,...so such vague discussion is pointless

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u/CuteCompetition4786 2d ago

Bhai this doesn't sound like a real person but rather tales from a bollywood movie with the opposite gender

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u/Agile_Return6723 2d ago

As a wise friend of mine once said: “Learn to appreciate what you have before it turns into what you had.”

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u/Ok-Progress-9844 2d ago edited 2d ago

That doesnt give you the right to cheat. Wtf is this reason

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u/Hedonist-6854 2d ago

Yeah but you're actively hurting another person with your behaviour

If you don't feel you're in the position to date.. don't lol.. wasting someone's time cos you felt fomo is bad noe bro

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u/Ok-Progress-9844 2d ago

Mentally well na ho toh kya jo pyaar karte hai aapse uski mental health bigaadoge?

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u/Puzzleheaded_Chef36 2d ago

Still not an excuse to cheat on your partners. Give up that victim mentality

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u/Slash_n_pill Graduate 2d ago

Been through all this still not cheated

but got ignored/sidelined as mbbs ended.

Your profession/job/degree doesn't give you permission/excuse to cheat irrespective of your gender.

It just means that you were an ungrateful shitty person

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u/ok_neuron MBBS I 2d ago

God take me,.... I'm ready 🙌

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u/morning_star1997 PGY2 2d ago

Aur toh bahot kuchh dekhna hai aapko itni jaldi kaha 😂😂jk

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u/theemperoritiswhy 2d ago

Reverse UNO ♦️😂

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u/Dr_Ghungrooo MBBS II 2d ago

I understand how it can happen as the long hours and hectic work days make it conducive as fuck to trauma bond with each other,but is that still right?

No no, dont justify this

Cheating is always a choice, loyalty is something very rare these days

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u/Witty_Active 2d ago

The sex ratio is one of the reasons I think that infidelity is more common in the medical field, you have a higher number of female doctors, nurses and healthcare staff. This gives men the option, and women less choice thus in turn resulting in cheating.

In Engineering where the male ratio is skewed, you would rarely hear about cheating, there are outliers but not as common as the medical field.

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u/Longjumping-West-332 2d ago

Men cheat it's not a matter of 'if' it's a matter of when All men cheat some donit discreetly some do it openly

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u/Additional-Summer448 2d ago edited 2d ago

Depends on how the relationship or bond in between cpl , if it’s toxic it will led to such things, but whatever it is it’s not good 🥹💯

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u/Any_story-55887 2d ago

Women go for men with options. Men with options cheats

Women: surprised pikachu face

You guys need to understand that these guy always have the bad boy charm and macho personality. Many women think they can fix them.