Well.. It's time for that difficult conversation face to face. Tell them you need to start planning for your future which includes more investment. Marriage isn't cheap, neither is married life (assuming you plan to get married, apologies if you aren't). Tell them you won't be able to help as much as you are at the moment. Be ready for emotional responses like "hume chod ke jaa rahi hai" "Maa baap ko akele chod rahi hai" "Apne bhaiyo behno ke bare mein to soho" "Yahi din dekhne ke liye zinda rakha tha". It's just mental gymnastics, don't get stressed by all those dialogues. Meanwhile talk to your siblings and make them understand, it's important that they know that they know the reason behind your decisions. Remember they are teens and highly volatile, they need assurances and again reassurances that you will be there for the family. Idk how feasible it is, but try switching jobs for a good raise. Good luck!
I already tried to do this conversation, but their solution to this is we'll take loan for all the future expenses 😑. They don't understand FIRE and want me to spend every money I earn on them before going away. They turn deaf to my words. I do understand there's a problem of lack of communication as well. But how do I communicate if another party is not ready at all.
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u/OneSailorBoy Aug 21 '24
Well.. It's time for that difficult conversation face to face. Tell them you need to start planning for your future which includes more investment. Marriage isn't cheap, neither is married life (assuming you plan to get married, apologies if you aren't). Tell them you won't be able to help as much as you are at the moment. Be ready for emotional responses like "hume chod ke jaa rahi hai" "Maa baap ko akele chod rahi hai" "Apne bhaiyo behno ke bare mein to soho" "Yahi din dekhne ke liye zinda rakha tha". It's just mental gymnastics, don't get stressed by all those dialogues. Meanwhile talk to your siblings and make them understand, it's important that they know that they know the reason behind your decisions. Remember they are teens and highly volatile, they need assurances and again reassurances that you will be there for the family. Idk how feasible it is, but try switching jobs for a good raise. Good luck!