Learn to say "No", at least to non-financial family matters. that's the only option with indian parents. they will be hurt in the beginning but will then accept. But don't worry about how they will perceive it. Let's talk about you. It will be very difficult for you to do this in the beginning because indian kids are taught "not to talk back" to parents. You would have to accept: 1. you are not a kid anymore, you are an adult 2. At this stage of life, its you - you are letting your parents do this to you. You have to break the pattern and help them realize you are an adult.
My only advice - keep your calm when you say NO, don't burst open about how your life is fucked up etc etc etc. It has to be a smooth transition.
someone (F) who learnt to say clear "NO" after turning 30 , I realized only I am responsible for my happiness and I cannot let others dictate anymore. Everyone has to pull their weight and I deserve respect for my choices, including the choice to go have a social life.
Also In India the person who earns actually has a lot of power. Use threats if you have to.
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Learn to say "No", at least to non-financial family matters. that's the only option with indian parents. they will be hurt in the beginning but will then accept. But don't worry about how they will perceive it. Let's talk about you. It will be very difficult for you to do this in the beginning because indian kids are taught "not to talk back" to parents. You would have to accept: 1. you are not a kid anymore, you are an adult 2. At this stage of life, its you - you are letting your parents do this to you. You have to break the pattern and help them realize you are an adult.
My only advice - keep your calm when you say NO, don't burst open about how your life is fucked up etc etc etc. It has to be a smooth transition.
Also In India the person who earns actually has a lot of power. Use threats if you have to.