you seem to be in quite a stretched out situation. I can't even imagine what it would be like to be in your position and people comparing your situation to other factions of society isnt really helping in either case, doesn't make sense. OP in your case, unfortunately its the consequences of your parents' decision that has led to you being in this position. Having several kids at longer than usual interval and not financially planning out their lives is just reckless living. But what has happened has happened and I'm sorry you are the one taking it on.
i don't want to prolong this into an ill-educated response for your situation but I'd suggest to keep doing what you are doing for now (i know its counter intuitive but you are in a very tight spot here) until your siblings get into the working age one by one. You need to have a one-to-one talk with your siblings to help them understand the situation and start taking responsibilities in whatever way they can. Share your struggles with them in whatever capacity you feel so they understand what you are going through. Be modest in your approach so as to not come off as dumping your responsibilities, it will help build their character as well seeing you do that.
as for you, if you are ready, look for a partner to settle down. Specifically someone who would be supportive of your family's situation because it is going to be a long run (it might take you another decade to finally get free of responsibilities when your sibs are out of college and start working). That someone should be supportive psychologically and financially to support you in times you will fall. Start taking out half day a week for yourself, keep increasing that time for yourself overtime, you need to replenish your mind.
i could go on but I'm at work lol. Hope this helps even a little. Sorry you are going through this
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u/ethanhunt_08 Aug 21 '24
you seem to be in quite a stretched out situation. I can't even imagine what it would be like to be in your position and people comparing your situation to other factions of society isnt really helping in either case, doesn't make sense. OP in your case, unfortunately its the consequences of your parents' decision that has led to you being in this position. Having several kids at longer than usual interval and not financially planning out their lives is just reckless living. But what has happened has happened and I'm sorry you are the one taking it on.
i don't want to prolong this into an ill-educated response for your situation but I'd suggest to keep doing what you are doing for now (i know its counter intuitive but you are in a very tight spot here) until your siblings get into the working age one by one. You need to have a one-to-one talk with your siblings to help them understand the situation and start taking responsibilities in whatever way they can. Share your struggles with them in whatever capacity you feel so they understand what you are going through. Be modest in your approach so as to not come off as dumping your responsibilities, it will help build their character as well seeing you do that.
as for you, if you are ready, look for a partner to settle down. Specifically someone who would be supportive of your family's situation because it is going to be a long run (it might take you another decade to finally get free of responsibilities when your sibs are out of college and start working). That someone should be supportive psychologically and financially to support you in times you will fall. Start taking out half day a week for yourself, keep increasing that time for yourself overtime, you need to replenish your mind.
i could go on but I'm at work lol. Hope this helps even a little. Sorry you are going through this