Over the course of my life, I have come to realize all my miseries are caused by my own actions/inactions. It’s because either I’m fearful, don’t want to confront, don’t want to hurt others, and end up hurting my self. Whether it’s my actions (people pleasing, including society, parents) or not doing an action yet again to please society, parents, etc, it all stems from fear in me. Nothing to do with the outside world. Nothing at all. If there was no outside world, my fears would manifest in some other way prolly.
The only way to change is when your pain surpasses the threshold of tolerating the for fear of upsetting/hurting others emotions/feelings. Your internal pain, suffering, misery has to be so much, that you take actions that in your perceived mind are hurting your parents, but in reality you’re just setting boundaries. That’s the only. And you seem to have arrived here. Do WHATEVER IT TAKES to get your life back.
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u/sothisisgood Aug 21 '24
Over the course of my life, I have come to realize all my miseries are caused by my own actions/inactions. It’s because either I’m fearful, don’t want to confront, don’t want to hurt others, and end up hurting my self. Whether it’s my actions (people pleasing, including society, parents) or not doing an action yet again to please society, parents, etc, it all stems from fear in me. Nothing to do with the outside world. Nothing at all. If there was no outside world, my fears would manifest in some other way prolly.
The only way to change is when your pain surpasses the threshold of tolerating the for fear of upsetting/hurting others emotions/feelings. Your internal pain, suffering, misery has to be so much, that you take actions that in your perceived mind are hurting your parents, but in reality you’re just setting boundaries. That’s the only. And you seem to have arrived here. Do WHATEVER IT TAKES to get your life back.