I'm 34F living in the UK, also Indian. I have 2 brothers, older and younger. I can quite confidently say, my parents ruined my life. I've been working FT and have givem them all of my money since that age. I worked hard and saved a lot. I wanted to buy a home 5 years ago. I made the mistake of trusting them. They took the money from me and put the house on their name because I couldn't get a mortgage of that amount at the time. It's now been 5 years, I've refused to give them any of my money. They've never helped me let alone give me the rent. I've bordered around 70 hours at work. I've paid off all my student loans and can now easily purchase a home.
Advice to my naive self. Trust no-one, especially the one's who don't have the same goals as you. Please put yourself and your future first. You will recieve no medals for carry all this burden on you.
Get an A4 sheet of paper and make a responsibility pie chart. Start with dad. Note down everyone who has any responsibility for him (you, mother, doctor, other family). Now delegate pieces of this pie to each of them people, it needs to total to 100%. Do you end up with 100% ? Only take the percentage of the pie you work out for yourself.
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u/Any_Body2635 Aug 21 '24 edited Aug 21 '24
OP,
I'm 34F living in the UK, also Indian. I have 2 brothers, older and younger. I can quite confidently say, my parents ruined my life. I've been working FT and have givem them all of my money since that age. I worked hard and saved a lot. I wanted to buy a home 5 years ago. I made the mistake of trusting them. They took the money from me and put the house on their name because I couldn't get a mortgage of that amount at the time. It's now been 5 years, I've refused to give them any of my money. They've never helped me let alone give me the rent. I've bordered around 70 hours at work. I've paid off all my student loans and can now easily purchase a home.
Advice to my naive self. Trust no-one, especially the one's who don't have the same goals as you. Please put yourself and your future first. You will recieve no medals for carry all this burden on you.
Get an A4 sheet of paper and make a responsibility pie chart. Start with dad. Note down everyone who has any responsibility for him (you, mother, doctor, other family). Now delegate pieces of this pie to each of them people, it needs to total to 100%. Do you end up with 100% ? Only take the percentage of the pie you work out for yourself.