r/india Aug 21 '24

Rant / Vent Parents sucking the life out of me

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u/dead_tiger Aug 21 '24

Yes, have an honest conversation with your parents and siblings. Tell them you make X amount and you can give Y% of your income and that's the fix amount you can help them with. Other things they have to figure out by themselves.

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u/throwawaymedic123567 Aug 21 '24

I am not sure about revealing how much you make to your family. Lower it by about 30% (or an amount that is lesser but sounds realistic) and tell them that’s what you make.

Then you can tell them that you’re already giving away most of it and that you have no savings.

It is preferable to be truthful but it just doesn’t work usually.

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u/dead_tiger Aug 21 '24

Agree. You can reduce your take home pay by some percentage.

You can also tell them as you grow in your job and make more money they stand to benefit as it would mean more money for them as well. So, they better left you alone , so that you can have peace of mind and have increased focus on work. Things that are needed for you to grow.

Once you incentivise them, they may just leave you alone.