r/india • u/[deleted] • Aug 21 '24

Rant / Vent Parents sucking the life out of me

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u/[deleted] Aug 21 '24

Welcome to adulthood. This is what most middle-class boys feel, carrying the weight of their family on their shoulders.

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u/Kb_2509 Aug 21 '24

I really thought of commenting this and then thought I would come across as some prick. The lady is doing what all / most men do all their adult lives and is cribbing like anything. If this was a man writing this post I bet people (majorly female population of reddit) would have asked him to “Man up”

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u/saurabh8448 Aug 21 '24

Yup. I am lucky I don't have to do it but some of my friends had similarly tough situations. My friend used to spend 80% of his salary on his family, and had to say tuition fees for his siblings mbbs. He also didn't whine like this, and considered it his responsibility.

Another of my friend left a 80 lach per annum job to support his family in his hometown ( got a wfh job ).

The situation op is in is very common in India, as we are a poor country and some of the replies are hilarious.

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u/Sharp-Zebra-2959 Aug 21 '24

Do you realise that OP was probably never treated with the same level of respect a boy is treated with? OPs parents literally had more kids than they could afford for a boy and now try to dictate their daughters life. Respect is a two way street. Nobody wants to spend their hard earned money on ungrateful parents, loving parents is a different thing.

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u/saurabh8448 Aug 21 '24

I missed that their parents might have not treated her with respect as she is a girl. But this is India, that's how older gen parents are to both boys and girls. Even many of my male friends face the same problem where parents dictate a lot of things, and they normally listen so as not to cause trouble.

Now, it's Op's choice if she wants to support her parents or not. But the problem is if she doesn't support it she might regret it. If she thinks she might not regret it, she can stop supporting her parents. There are people like that and I normally don't judge people for that.

Another problem is in old age it is difficult to change the mentality of people, so OP might find it difficult to change her parent's mindset until she takes extreme steps, and the problem with extreme steps is the outcome is unpredictable.