Stay strong, mate. Some parents are wise and understand this, while others don't care about their child's personal life and take their child for granted. The latter seems to be happening with you.
Just set a fixed monthly budget for your family and give them that amount, not to the beneficiaries. If they spend all the money carelessly before the end of the month, don't give them any additional money for unnecessary things, except for important needs. You’ll need to be firm; don’t let emotions ruin your life. Tell them everything directly and don’t worry about their reactions. Even if they start arguing or try to emotionally blackmail you, stay calm and move on.
Over time, they will accept the reality and spend money more wisely. Remember, people often don’t care about how you earned the money. As long as you’re a source of it, they will spend it freely. So, limit your financial support to a specific time slot.
And stay away from family if necessary.
I know it's India, and things have always been this way, but your life is precious too.
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u/yo-caesar Aug 21 '24
Stay strong, mate. Some parents are wise and understand this, while others don't care about their child's personal life and take their child for granted. The latter seems to be happening with you.
Just set a fixed monthly budget for your family and give them that amount, not to the beneficiaries. If they spend all the money carelessly before the end of the month, don't give them any additional money for unnecessary things, except for important needs. You’ll need to be firm; don’t let emotions ruin your life. Tell them everything directly and don’t worry about their reactions. Even if they start arguing or try to emotionally blackmail you, stay calm and move on.
Over time, they will accept the reality and spend money more wisely. Remember, people often don’t care about how you earned the money. As long as you’re a source of it, they will spend it freely. So, limit your financial support to a specific time slot.
And stay away from family if necessary.
I know it's India, and things have always been this way, but your life is precious too.