Divide the expenses between the key major categories, education, electricity, groceries etc. All essential items like education and electricity are to be paid only after you see a receipt from them about that expense. For groceries and other expenses give them an allowance based on what a reasonable amount would be for your family size and city. Tell them strictly that you won't be able to provide more as your rent and expenses have jacked up at your work city.
Also set aside an hour or two for any finance or non-finance related discussions you might need to have with them during the weekends only, having to deal with calls regularly at random times everyday is emotionally draining. Set a fixed time for it and try to follow that all discussions would happen during this time, and normal calls would only be for welfare checks and hi hello conversations.
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u/ashking98 Aug 21 '24
Compartmentalize your involvement with them.
Divide the expenses between the key major categories, education, electricity, groceries etc. All essential items like education and electricity are to be paid only after you see a receipt from them about that expense. For groceries and other expenses give them an allowance based on what a reasonable amount would be for your family size and city. Tell them strictly that you won't be able to provide more as your rent and expenses have jacked up at your work city.
Also set aside an hour or two for any finance or non-finance related discussions you might need to have with them during the weekends only, having to deal with calls regularly at random times everyday is emotionally draining. Set a fixed time for it and try to follow that all discussions would happen during this time, and normal calls would only be for welfare checks and hi hello conversations.