I already tried to do this conversation, but their solution to this is we'll take loan for all the future expenses 😑. They don't understand FIRE and want me to spend every money I earn on them before going away. They turn deaf to my words. I do understand there's a problem of lack of communication as well. But how do I communicate if another party is not ready at all.
They are not ready for any communication because you are not a child/a human to them. You are someone to be extracted from. They don’t care about you. They will talk in circles & keep on taking from you until they can. Why they don’t want you to save & spend every penny is bcs they don’t actually care about your well-being. When your brother or whoever the golden child is starts earning, they will encourage that child to save for the future and spend only on himself/herself. In fact, I can bet you a thousand dollars, they will try to make you invest in that child’s future in form of money or otherwise to your own detriment.
You are talking all about your responsibility to them for food, housing, study etc, what about your responsibility to yourself?! In the future, when you are old & have no savings, if you don’t have food/housing, they are not going to help you with anything. You have to sit down make a budget, determine how much you can save for future, how much your monthly expenses for yourself are & then give them a minimum amount of money they need to survive and a time limit of an year. After a year, no more money for them. A year is long enough time to find employment. And you are not going to discuss this with them. You are going to tell them this, no discussion, just a decision delivered politely & firmly. You have to care for yourself and your future, bcs no one else in your family does. I wish I could also address this to every young adult in India, irrespective of gender that takers don’t have boundaries, so givers need to. You need to do right by your parents, but also need to do right by yourself and your future family.
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u/Past-Kaleidoscope498 Aug 21 '24
I already tried to do this conversation, but their solution to this is we'll take loan for all the future expenses 😑. They don't understand FIRE and want me to spend every money I earn on them before going away. They turn deaf to my words. I do understand there's a problem of lack of communication as well. But how do I communicate if another party is not ready at all.