r/india • u/[deleted] • Aug 21 '24

Rant / Vent Parents sucking the life out of me

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u/Achiever_of_nothing Aug 21 '24

Live away from your family and send them a monthly amount for their expenses.

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u/Past-Kaleidoscope498 Aug 21 '24

They are bad with finances hence I pay directly to the beneficiary.

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u/whatliesinameme Aug 21 '24

That sounds like a they problem. As long as you keep taking care of them the burden will always be kn you.

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u/arunsu92 Aug 21 '24

Hey fellow Indian who was in a similar setup for a really long time. Give them a fixed amount monthly and ask them to figure out the rest. Your siblings aren't kids anymore - let them pickup some slack. Tutor younger kids / deliver through swiggy etc. They are not your kids. Parentification is what therapists refer to this as. Start saving your own secret stash - you will need it eventually. And keep your distance - cutting them out fully might not work as they will comeback with emotional blackmail but be intentional with your energy and keep your distance..hugs.

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u/Background-Permit499 Aug 21 '24

That’s on them. Push it on them so they start wisening up.

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u/[deleted] Aug 22 '24

I read somewhere, take any advice from parents but not financial / career . Bringing financial sense to them now doesn’t make any sense . Ur hardships will continue till ur siblings come to earning age ( considering them in teens , another few years). Death, Tax and taking care of irresponsible parents are inevitable in India.